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[Brian_Watt]

Hello all, I have a question. My g/f and I have been together for about 2 years, and our sex life is great. I want to take her picture, but she won't let me. what is the best way to get her to change her mind.

[Sharni]

You just may have to accept that she doesn't want to participate in pic taking... :) and leave it at that...

Though you just never know she may change her mind later

[Oldfart]

If she is afraid that she'll end up plastered over the web,

I'm not surprised.

Be gradual, shitloads of lingerie, and see where it leads.

It is, after all, her image she's protecting.

[Tango Seven]

If you have fully explained why you want to take her picture, and I'm assuming that you want to take pictures of a sexual nature, and your girlfriend doesn't wish you to do so then I respectively suggest you bow to her wishes and leave it at that.

[Brian_Watt]

I keep telling her she is very good looking, but she doesn't think so. I don't pressure her all the time, just every once and awhile I suggest it.

The reason why I want to take her picture is because she has a couple of outfits that she look absolutly stunning in and I want to show her how good she looks in it.

oh well, maybe she isn't ready yet

[Irish]

Brian_Watt---Perhaps the reason for her hesitancy is the same as
the way my wife feels.She might figure that ONLY you should view
her charms.If so;be happy and proud that she feels that way.
Irish
P.S.Many people don't want anyone except their S/O to see them.
They're feelings should be respected.Remember:Different strokes;
for different folks!

[raraa]

maybe she needs to hear a good remark every once in a while about her pictures in normal situations. or try taking a couple of you alone then u and her

u know try to be gradual and dont remind her about it maybe she will forget then change her mind if she is stubborn

[icecreamthighs]

If she is not happy - don't mention it again, wot may feel like mentioning it once or twice to you, may to her feel as if she is unable to give you something you want and may make her unhappy.

Why not invite her to share this site with you, enjoy chatting to all these great people together. If she decides to change her mind at all - let it be her who changes it, not you.

Remember, you said your sex life is great, dont spoil it by unnecessary pressure - good luck and happy times xx

[GermanSteve]

Carefully talk to her, but always respect her opinion. If you cannot change her mind, leave it.
Welcome.

[axe31]

how about she takes some off you
to break the ice

[Aqua]

Welcome to Pixies Brian! Listen to the folks above, they speak the truth!

[danziggy]

Hi welcome to pixies....

ICT wasnt sure when i introduced her here. i left her to look around and see what others had posted. But it was her choice to post or not.

i dont think you should try to force your g/f to pose if she is not sure.

i agree with axe let her take some pics of you if she's happy with that she may then pose for you. A poloroid would mean no-one would see and you could always distroy them if she didnt like them.

shall i get down from the soap box now!!!

[Brian_Watt]

I never had any intention of forcing her to take the pics, I respect her in every way. and if it means no pictures, i shall take no pictures.

[Sarriah]

Brian not once when i read your post did i think you were forcing her. If your asking her and she isnt getting mad at you then its not wrong for you to ask her about it. You seem to know your GF well enough to know if she is upset about it, and you seem to understand how she feels. Just talk to her about it and maybe have her talk to some of the ladies here we may be able to help. If she wants to hop on we will all say hello :D
till then take care and as the others said take some pics with poloroid's you never know she may like them more than she thinks. Start SLOW tho as like bra and undies pics let her see that she doesnt look half bad. No matter what you say to her its how she feels and its hard to change a girls mind:D

Good luck to you
Hugs
Sar

[Brian_Watt]

hey, thanks for all the support. I will keep you all posted on what happens

thanks:)

[sugarfreecandy]

Brian_Watt ---

Welcome to Pixies'! I think the others have offered some good advice, but let me just add a couple of my own thoughts on the matter:

I think the desire to be photographed in a sexual way has to come from within before your girlfriend will ever really be comfortable with the idea. If my b/f had outright asked me for the pictures I've taken for him, then they most likely would never have been taken! But he let me know how much he enjoyed any pics I gave him (and I'm talking about non-nude ones here) and consistently reinforced the idea that he found me sexy, and gradually I found myself actually wanting to take some sexy pics for him. At first, the pictures I took were far from nude (I think I wore a bra and a skirt) and even the poses were not particularly suggestive (I was sitting on my bed hugging a pillow) but the feeling of sexiness was there and it grew... It still hasn't stopped growing, either, as my pics on this site can attest! :D

A few ideas:

* Let her control the camera --- leave her alone with a camera, a timer, and a tripod, and let her play around so she's in complete control. If she can set up the shots then she won't cross any boundaries until she's ready to, and she can feel more secure.

* The face alone can be very sexy, or a shot from the shoulders up --- especially if the shoulders are bare. That way, she's not actually revealing anything, and yet she can get used to the idea of feeling sexy in pictures...

* Tell her what you want the pics for. If she's shy about it, she's not going to like the idea of her pics being shared --- so tell her that you want to have some pics of her to keep with you to remind you how sexy and attractive she is, and how lucky you are to have her... Maybe, if you happen to be going away for any length of time (even just a weekend trip), you could let her know that you'd really like to have something to take with you and look at as you fall asleep.

* It probably won't help her to change her mind, but I have to say that I've come to feel a heck of a lot better about my own body since I started taking this kind of picture. It helps me be more objective, and to see myself through eyes that love me (namely those of my b/f) rather than through my own critical eyes...

Hope some of that brings some kind of insight or help...

--- sweetstuff

[raraa]

sfc is soooooooooo right man lsn to her advices