Cheating Poll

[kiwi15]

I thought I'd take the plunge and start my first thread after sc2000's question on cheating.

Cheating is OK when?

[Bilbo]

Cheating is never acceptable

if you have your S/O consent, then that is not cheating

[Lilith]

I agree with Bilbo....and since I would never be given consent, that means no fun for me.:(

[BamaKyttn]

well.... I have a g/f and a B/f...am I cheating?

I feel that I'm not cheating on souls because I'm with another woman although were I dating a woman and had a fling with a man I would feel I was cheating..... I'm weird I know.

[Murphy]

I am in the same boat as Lilith - uh oh, would that in itself be cheating??

[Sugarsprinkles]

Not if you keep your hands, feet, mouth, tongue, and all other body parts to yourself, Murph!:D

[Prophet Reality]

I agree with Bilbo. If your S/O knows and agrees to it, then it's not cheating. It's having fun.

[Master1012]

CHEATING IS NEVER ACCEPTABLE!!!

The Bible says that you are supposed to remain faithful - therefore cheating is never acceptable even if the s/o consents to it.

[Sharni]

Cheating is totally unacceptable!!!

And i agree with what others have said.... if your partner knows exactly about and consents to you being with another person....then that is not cheating

[Master1012]

I decided to look up cheating in the dictionary to see what it had to say.

The part of the definiton of cheat that applies here is :
Cheat : [Slang] to be sexually unfaithful

I went on to look up unfaithful :

failing to observe the terms of a vow, promise, etc.
faithless and / or disloyal
guilty of adultery; adulterous

If you are being with more than one partner at once you are being unfaithful and therefore cheating (and adulterous)

Sorry, there, I believe that you should stick with one partner at all times ( always been a moral of mine, even when I wasn't religious, now my moral is compunded with my faith )

So, in my opinion -

CHEATING IS NEVER ACCEPTABLE!!!!! UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!!!!

[Phoenix16]

It's cheating if you're partner doesn't know about it. This includes sex, kissing, fondling...whatever you don't want your partner finding out about. If it's okay with your partner that you have another bf or gf then that's fine; you're being open with them and they've said it's okay.

[Phoenix16]

Master -- I find it interesting that you brought up the bible.

[Master1012]

Just stating my beliefs. if we didn't say what we had on our minds , then what would the point of these forums be?

And why do you find it interesting I brought up the Bible?

[kiwi15]

It's a pretty conclusive moral tone thus far. Good on y'all

[Sugarsprinkles]

I, too, believe cheating is always wrong.

I've been married 30 yrs. (in June) and
I have been completely faithful. Never even
kissed another man. I'm thankful that I've been able to
do this. And to the best of my knowledge, my husband
has been faithful too. This is no small accomplishment
these days.:)

I'm very pleased to see so many agreeing on this point. You all have my deepest respect!

[m45]

So is cyber and posting pics here if the other half don't know cheating?

[pje]

Actually if your so much against being unfaithful and so loyal to the bibles beliefs then you shouldn't even be at a forum of this nature and looking at such pics as these because it is actually considered to be a sin.

[souls_cry2000]

Kyttn: I feel that I'm not cheating on souls because I'm with another woman...



I don't think it's cheating either. We talked about it. It's not like you're trying to put something over on me or playing games with. I'm happy you enjoy yourself. Like I said before each situation makes the question a little different. Time is more of a factor here. One kid feels the other kid gets more time than the other, etc. I'm a big kid when it comes to people I love.

[Master1012]

Really?

Well, guess what.. I don't look at the pics on this site and my g/ f also happens to be a member of this forum.

We use Pixies as a place to get new ideas ( from the stories ) to try things and to post our opinions / experiences. i don't believe that is a sin.

[Sweet Chastity]

Originally posted by Master1012
I decided to look up cheating in the dictionary to see what it had to say.

The part of the definiton of cheat that applies here is :
Cheat : [Slang] to be sexually unfaithful

I went on to look up unfaithful :

failing to observe the terms of a vow, promise, etc.
faithless and / or disloyal
guilty of adultery; adulterous



The vow and promise. Marriage stipulates this in the vows but what about boy/girlfriends? The promise of monogomy must be stipulated and I think it rarely is or hasn't been for me. A lot of ppl assume fidelity. So when two ppl commit to each other they should communicate their expectations and if one can't abide by them and be faithful they shouldn't agree to them.

Sweet Chastity

[me_carl]

Sweet Chastity;
Why is it that you are so interested in the subject of cheating. I hope you haven't done anything that you are feeling guility about.

[sugarfreecandy]

Originally posted by Master1012
Really?

Well, guess what.. I don't look at the pics on this site and my g/ f also happens to be a member of this forum.

We use Pixies as a place to get new ideas ( from the stories ) to try things and to post our opinions / experiences. i don't believe that is a sin.

Master1012 ---

I haven't had a chance to welcome you or your girlfriend to the site yet, so let me do that first before I go any farther. I'm glad to see you both jumping in on conversations and expressing your opinions, that's exactly what makes this place tick.

I must say, I'm really intrigued by your insistence that you don't view the pics here. I'm puzzled as to why you feel justified in getting erotic ideas from stories but not from pictures... Please please please understand that I'm not in any way attacking your beliefs, your morals, your faith, or your logic; I'm just curious!

IMHO: It seems to me that reading an erotic story and looking at an erotic image (be it a photograph or a drawing/painting) are prompted by much the same motivations --- in both cases the person engaged in the activity is seeking to indulge in some form of sexual fantasy. Words and images are, to my mind, sex toys --- as legitimate as vibrators and dildos and so on in terms of their ability to bring sexual stimulation. In this case they're stimulating the brain rather than the genitals, but the brain is very much a sex organ!

--- sweetstuff

[Master1012]

Ok. Here's my logic - To look at a picture of another person that is erotic in nature is to somewhat lust after them.

Stories however can be turned by your brain to whatever you want them, For example, when I read a story I usually imagine my g/f and I in them instead of the characters. I don't know - I guess I am just one of those extremely faithful people...

[JadeFire1260]

I think "cheating" is wrong too. If u cant tell ur partner something about something ur doin and you know they would dissaprove of this activity, its wrong. I dont think pics or stories or w/e are "bad" unless u get to where u expect ur partner to look/act like the ppl in the pics or stories. ( i.e "Why cant you look that skinny/pretty/big chested/big cock....)

[Sharni]

The Macquarie Dictionary defines

Cheat - 1. a fraud; swindle; deception
2. to deceive

Sex - 1. the character of being either male or female. persons of different sexes
2. the sum of the anatomical and physiological differences with reference to which the male are the female are distinguished.
3. the instinct or attraction drawing one sex towards the other, or it's manifistation in life and conduct.
4. men collectively or women collectively
5. Colloq. sexual intercourse
6. sexually stimulating or suggestive behaviour

So to me cheating is another word for deceiving your partner....and sex includes more than i thought after reading this definition..but includes Oral, Anal, Handjobs, Fondling etc..

[kiwi15]

That's an interesting definition of sex from Macquarie. It suggests to me that merely being sexy (3) and dancing (6) are potential forms of cheating! Or is the Macquarie definition deficient in other ways? How would you define "sex"?