Down South...

[deadsy6]

I need some pointers for eating my girlfriend out. She doesnt seem to enjoy it when i go down there and any advice would be appreciated.

[Bilbo]

go slow and be very gental

no need to rush things in this highly sensitive area

probe around the hot spot first, ask you g/f if this is something she likes or dislikes, and why

communicating with her to find what pushes her buttons and what doesn't will help you understand which areas deserve to be addressed with soft slow butterfly kisses and which areas can handle a little more pressure.

but the real trick is to ask, you may just find the right spot for her to completely melt, and that is most of the fun, finding what she likes from you


good luck!

[Bilbo]

This may give you an idea

[luv2please]

Deadsy6,
Most women are very concerned about hygene in that area. If you find yourself in a situation where she has not had a chance to shower or at least "freshen up" she may feel self-consous about letting you do this. The best thing to do is talk to her. Tell her how much you would like to please her in this way. Listen to what she says and then do it. Let us know how you make out.;)

[sugarfreecandy]

Welcome to Pixies', Deadsy6!

I think what the others have said so far is very right, but let me add my 2 cents --- maybe as a woman I can offer a different perspective from what the men have said.

What Luv2Please said about hygeine is completely true. Most of us (women) spend our childhood/youth thinking that what's 'down there' is dirty and smells bad, so it can come as a major shock when we find ourselves in bed with some guy who actually wants to put his face down there! It takes a long time for some of us to learn to believe him when he says he enjoys it or that he likes the taste/smell. To be honest, I still have momentary flashes of that doubt, myself, but I've learned to silence them really quickly and just let myself enjoy the sensations... (And oh, how I enjoy them now! :o)

If indeed this is the problem with your g/f, there's no quick and easy way to make her believe you --- it's going to take patience on both your parts. Make sure that when you do go down on her, if she lets you, you're very vocal about the pleasure you get from it. This makes sense when you consider how most women are raised to please others ahead of themselves --- we need to know that you're enjoying what you're doing to be able to relax and enjoy it ourselves.

If she doesn't let you actually perform oral sex on her directly, then perhaps a good start would be to play (manually) with her clit and her labia and so on, and every so often to withdraw your hand and lick off your fingers, again being very vocal about your enjoyment of that taste.

(When I say vocal, I don't mean that you have to wax poetic --- a good moan can be worth a thousand words. Or, if appropriate, just point to your erection and say something like 'See what your taste does to me?' --- it's a very vivid way of illustrating how you feel about the taste. This, of course, comes back to Bilbo's point about communication.)

Okay, now that I've spent all that time on the importance of helping her relax and believe in your enjoyment, there's also the physical side of pleasuring her to think about. I don't know enough about you to know how much experience you've had or what you have or haven't tried --- perhaps if you could give us a better indication of that then I (and the others) would be able to offer some more advice.

I once prepared an 'instruction manual' to the female genitals (complete with labelled illustration :D) for a male friend who was a virgin and somewhat mystified as to what to do to what bits to pleasure a woman --- I'd be happy to post that here if it would be helpful, but I don't want to insult your experience/intelligence if you're well beyond that stage.

So let us know where you stand in terms of experience and attempted solutions, and then we'll do our best to help you out some more! If you could tell us what your girlfriend's explanation for not liking oral sex is, too, that would be very helpful...

Meanwhile, good luck, and have patience!

--- sweetstuff

[mindboxer505]

(my one cent comment,)
also you may have to come to understand that she may honestly not enjoy having you ''eat her''.
like the others have suggested, take it slow and dont rush.
find out what she does like for you to do............

[Oldfart]

Little girls are taught that "down there" is naughty.

You may have difficulty leading away from that mind-set, if ever,

If you can get her to play the "game" of where the finger feels

good, the tongue will feel better.

After a big mutual scrub session, lightly draw a finger over the

eyebrow, followed by the tongue-tip.

Behind the ear, on the neck or whenever.

It may take a session or two, patience being the key.

Ultimately, it's her playground and you're there on her rules.

[PantyFanatic]

All the shared advise above agrees totally with more experience than I care to admit. You can’t get a better insight on your g/f’s feelings than from another woman, so heed her words.

Without getting into the clinical effects of time related to chemistry and biology, consider the hygiene factor comparable (which it exactly is) to the ripeness of a delectable peach. We don’t eat spoiled food, but your desire and pleasure (and health) are very much fulfilled when you partake at the ideal moment.

What is her feelings and reactions to oral sex for you? And note that there is a difference between willingness and desire to do it. This may give you an indication as to where she starting from.

….. just one prospective.

[Oldfart]

Agree with Panty.

What she wants and what she wants for you may be very different.

[axe31]

watching her mastabate has helped me in the past
she will show you wat she likes to do :)

[Nic_Hex]

I just say HAVE at it..and remember tell her she beaufitful (sp)

[kiwi15]

It may be a psychological block, or she may simply not enjoy it. It's not necessarily technique but I do commend you to ask her whether it's her, you or a combination of both. Then there's a chance you can both find a way forward.

[MissX]

It took me forever (about 8 years) to relax with the whole idea. I used to feel very left out :)
Knowing that it was extremely pleasing to my bloke (actually getting to hear moans and murmers) and getting to do 69 helped me a huge amount......MrX has made me a total convert!

[mtavistar]

Receiving oral isn't really my favorite sexual act--just because there is not enough pressure and the texture of fingers feels better to me than that of tongue. It took awhile before my love understood that he doesn't do anything wrong, it just doesn't excite me as much as other things.

[PointGuard]

Personaly i think the key is to enjoy it. I like giving oral to "my partner" if you do it like you love it the results will be better. Ans another thing that has worked for me is to pay with and suck on the clit, and using my fingers. Kiss her all over too, kiss and lick her thighs. Hope that helps at leats a little bit.

[hotgirl4u2nite]

If hygeine is the issue....how about if you join her in the shower or bath and just initiate things in there........

[Irish]

I won't give any how-tos.Everyone is different but you will probably do things "naturally!" Irish

[raraa]

Originally posted by sugarfreecandy
I once prepared an 'instruction manual' to the female genitals (complete with labelled illustration :D) for a male friend who was a virgin and somewhat mystified as to what to do to what bits to pleasure a woman --- I'd be happy to post that here if it would be helpful,

--- sweetstuff
Id like to see that because it looks like it was prepared for me I NEED IT please.. :(

You sure are sweetstuff
thx in advance

[sugarfreecandy]

For you, Raraa, and everyone else who has asked me about the "manual", I've just posted it as a separate thread, at http://www.pixies-place.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=6596 --- I hope it's helpful to you!

--- sweetstuff