Are there still virgins?

[sunmoonstars]

:eek:
Hello, everyone at Pixies. This is my first real thread here. I have been visiting for some time now and secretly getting to know everyone. I finally feel it's time to ask my question and I hope it's not out of place here.

Here it goes: I am 26 yrs old and I have never been with a guy, yes, a virgin. I know this probably seems shocking to alot of people but I just wondering how common this is or if I am just totally weird. Is there anyone here that's still a virgin? I would love to hear from you if so. Any other respones are welcome too.

sunmoonstars

[asp]

Yep, I'm in the same boat

[Prophet Reality]

Well I myself am not a virgin. Lost it a long, long time ago in era far, far away. BUt my best friend is 35 and he is still a virgin. Some of it is from choice, but mosrtly because of situations not working in his favor. Personally, I see nothing wrong with it. After all, it is a choice that is to be made.

[lonecowboy1]

I am still a virgin, and i think it is a great thing, after all, I have been told that most women want a man that is willing to try whatever makes her happy, and that is me.

[jes1701]

Hi im 21 and im still a vergin and will most likly be that way for a while i plan on waiting till im maried and think that its such a wonderfull thing you can give your husban and you can only give it up once so to lose your verginity should be special and the best night of your life :)

[asp]

I don't mean to rain on your parade, but from reading your profile it sounds like you have a pretty unique definition of virginity

[Oldfart]

Mmmmmmmmm

I see what you mean.

I am a virgin, 48 and never been with a man sexually.

So glad, being myself a man.

Just a mention.

[frogie]

I think that virginity in technical form ( Which is when you never had a penis or a vagina) is nothing speciall. There is another form of virginity called mental virginity. I had sex....but I didn't have sex for more than 3 years now....generally just myself on that one. So it's not when you have sex, it's when you REALIZE you CAN have sex and do. I know girls( well not know cause I don't have any friends) but they would scream i am a virgin when they were 16 and be all like I am so ashamed I am a virgin and then loose it the next day and just screw with everybody from that point so it's all about a person. And the longer you wait the sweeter the gift.... AND it's the truth I can easily prove. I had so little sex in my life that I wish I didn't have any and than only masturbated. One girl I was with was so mean I thought oh god i wish I was masturbating instead but obviously she was much wanted by other guys. So if i never had sex and only masturbated I would say I am 22 and i only masturbate.....and than add I am a perfect human being without shame. but that's just me. I am sorry for taking so much space BUt I truly love girls who are virgins and have no intentions of loosing their virginity.
Thank You from the ugly frog.

[Lilith]

but I totally respect the way that everyone chooses to celebrate their sexuality. Some have no sexual contact, some only masturbate, some go allllllllll the way and some swing from chandeliers! It's all good!!!!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~>Lilith ( from up here on theis chandelier I can see all the dust bunnies) :D

[sunmoonstars]

Thanks for all the responses. I don't feel so bad now.

Jes1701, thanks for your input, that's how I feel too. It is truly a special thing to give to the man you love ane just everybody around you.

I know whenever I do finally have sex that it will a wonderful experience with the right man.

In the meantime, masturbation is wonderful too!!!:) :)

[sunmoonstars]

I guess people are reading this and just not responding, so I guess no one really cares after all.

[Glyndwr]

Hi sunmoonstars

I read this and wasn't going to respond until I saw your plaintive last reply. I wasn't going to add anything just because I've passed the virgin stage and others have said their piece quite eloquently. Welcome to pixies and don't give up just because you don't get a bucket of responses. 1 reply means that you have reached another. Have fun ;)

[NurseTraci]

Hi, I am 20 years old and I have only slept with one man. In fact, I am still with that man and I plan on being with that man for the rest of my life. When I was in high school, being a "virgin" was so not the cool thing to do. BUt when I found the right person, who didnt want sex from me, thats when I knew he was the one. Keep up that beautfiul moral standard you have an do not let anyone change it. :)

[sixsense]

27 male virgin.

Not waiting for marriage, but a meaningful relationship.

I want the first time to be with someone I love. Not just a physical release.

Till then it's Miss Hand :D

[sixsense]

This needs its own post.. Unlike froggy though I would say I respect just as much the woman either way. It doesn't make a difference whether they are our are not virgins. I am more interested in the person versus whether from experience thay can do the most difficult kama sutra.

Virgins (with and as)

Advantages: You have they honor of being ther first, so it means something special.
Disadvantages: Might scare off people who aren't sure of the relationship. Sex will probably be more exploratory than fun for a bit until they and you become more adjusted to sex.

With Experience

Advantages: Experience which means they can probably enjoy and give more pleasure.
Disadvantages: Possibility of STD. Your inexperience will probably leave them unsatified. Unsure individuals will question how long the relationship will last if the other has had so much past.

[asp]

For me it's definatley not choice. I guess just due to a comedy of circumstance...........If anyone can understand that.

[Ophelia]

I was a virgin until I was 23...that was pretty unheard of then, but respected just the same.

My best friend just "gave away her flower" at the ripe age of 33. She was the last in our circle of friends (formerly known as the "V" club) to "light her candle". Most of us lost our virginity (having intercourse) between the ages of 25-35 (I dropped the average there a bit).

I love cliches...especially ones directed at the act of "popping ones cherry"!

:D

Ophelia

[Andy0619]

Hi! I don't know if this helps but, I just want to say that its really encouraging to hear of young people who have the conviction to cherish their beliefs and values, and, I'm not strictly talking religious beliefs. I made a choice to save my 'gift' for my future wife, when I was about 15, honestly, at the time, I was pretty safe, the main reason being I was such a geek LOL! Aaaaaaanyway, as I got older, and got a gym membership, it became harder to keep my 'eyes on the prize' so to speak, and I got myself into a few situations which I regret. Now, at 22, I'm proud to say I'm still a virgin, but I'm not proud of seeing how close I could get without having sex. trust me, it was too close. Anyway, I have a g/f now, my first REAL g/f, and, she is the girl of my dreams, and, she is soooo worth the wait! let me encourage you, your future husband/wife, will be worth the wait.

[souls_cry2000]

At school I met more virgins than I ever knew existed on the planet. They were making an honest effort to remain so. I have to hand it to them I didn't know such willpower existed.

[iikiibuu]

ok ok anyone pay attention to me :D *holds up a great bil board saying im a virgin*

Well its your choice really you could save, the reason you still are maybe because all previous situations have been against morals and plans, which i have to admit is my case. But i think you will find here that you can say pretty much what you like and be what you like as long as you are not hurting anyone here and that you respect that. Because i know its not my place to say as im still pretty young to this club but this place is brill and you'll meet loads of people probally in similar situations.

By the way im 21 going to be 22 this friday *cheers at himself on another lonely birthday* and i have too come close to losing my virginity, but if it goes against my morals e.g never take advantage of someone in any situation, then its plain and simple no. But i will never hurt the person if possible just find a way of getting around it and just basically "run my kin ass for all its worth :D"

sorry for all the space taken up by my ramblings, i will get this situation of mine under control some day i promise :)

*slaps himself to shut up and falls of the chair*

[MissX]

Iikii, what you're not doing a party at Pixies? I'll bring cake!

I'd a pretty naff experience of losing my virginity and can honestly say I was glad to be rid of the damn thing....however I have huge respect for those that are strong enough to stay true to themselves what they want out of life and love....wish I'd been that strong when I was younger. :)

[kimmer22]

Ok I don't post on anything really....but I lost my virginity when i was 15...to a guy whom I still try to forget...had I waited 5 months later I would have lost it to my true love...who I'm still with to this day...8 years! I wish I would have waited longer...and even 5 more months woulda been good...but such is life I guess...

[MissX]

At the risk of sounding stupid, that is what makes you able to stop the next "you" from making the same mistake....heck I've got lots of mistakes to stop :) or at least warn against!

[Sarriah]

Well i lost mine to the guy that im with to this day :D at 16.. I never wanted to wait till we tied the knot, cause I wanted to know if we could be together sexually before hand, If you get married and then have sex you never know how its gona be together. So for me I was glad that i got rid of it and that we were great ever since. Now he was a virgin too But he seemed to know more than me lol go figure. And has helped me over the years (6) to become more open and honest in bed :D

Hugs
Sar

[Master1012]

I'm an 18 yr old guy and haven't had sex yet. I have given and recived oral from my g/f JadeFire1260, received and gave handjobs, etc. but we're not haveing sex until we are least engaged but preferably when we are married.

[JadeFire1260]

VIRGIN HERE! Very proud to say! Master1012 says he'll take care of that soon enough though...

[GermanSteve]

To the ones who want to wait until their marriage:

I disagree, I think the risk to have a bad experience with the own husband/wife is too high. Must be very much luck to find a partner, marry him, have sex and continue being ok together. I think experiments are necessary. If you think "when the right one comes I will know" I must say you cannot know that. Nobody can know that. I do not want to destroy ideals, but to me waiting is naive. Sorry.

[Belial]

:(
*timidly raises his hand.

[Sugarsprinkles]

:) *Pats Belial kindly on top of his head and Congratulates him and wishes him continued success!

[Murphy]

Froggy~
Please understand I'm not meaning to be rude, but:
What are you talking about? What do you mean by "Mental Virginity" I thought that once someone has had vaginal sex, that was it, you're not a virgin anymore.

To all the "real" virgins out there~ Congratulations on making a decision and sticking to it!

[Belial]

Originally posted by Sugarsprinkles
:) *Pats Belial kindly on top of his head and Congratulates him and wishes him continued success!
Interesting that you'd call it success, I'd call it something very different :(

[Sugarsprinkles]

Originally posted by Belial

Interesting that you'd call it success, I'd call it something very different :(

Sorry Belial......I didn't realize you are disappointed to still be a virgin.:confused:

[Belial]

Originally posted by Sugarsprinkles


Sorry Belial......I didn't realize you are disappointed to still be a virgin.:confused:
Oh well...that's what you get when you're boring and unattractive.

[Sugarsprinkles]

Originally posted by Belial

Oh well...that's what you get when you're boring and unattractive.

If this is how you see yourself, chances are others will see you that way too.:(

[legend]

Well this may surprise some people, but I must fess up and add myself to the list here. eeek, I need to start chatting women up more.

[Lorelei]

What's your definition of a virgin?

IMO, if you have had anal or oral sex, you ain't no virgin. I may be wrong, but I define "virgin" as never had:

1. Vaginal sex
2. Anal sex
3. Oral sex

If your body has been penetrated by a dick in any holes on your body, I really don't believe you're a virgin.

But this is just my opinion, I could be wrong....

[airhog]

my gf's aunt is like nearly 40 some years old and still a virgin, but if you met her you would understand ;)

[lizH]

Murphy,

Defining virginity as "vaginal sex" leaves soooo much out and unaccounted for.

How would you define a man who had been with some number of men (it could be 1 or it could be 1000s), but never a woman. Would you say that he's a virgin? How about a woman who has had sex with some number of women but never a man?

How about a rape victim? She (or he) was certainly not in the frame of mind to be having sex, and certainly not enjoying it.

I personally consider that I've lost my virginity several times.
- The first thing I remember about being alive I was being mollested in my crib, by a woman. In that sense, I suppose I was "never" a virgin so don't know what I'm talking about. :)
- I remember sometime later, not a lot, being mollested (raped - forced anal intercourse then several years later (don't ask me) vaginal intercourse.).
- My first consensual sexual encounters were with women. The first one was a *very* special lady, whom I'll never forget. She certainly took my virginity in a glorious manner.
- When I was 20, I had a consensual encounter with a man, whom I lived with for 5 years afterward. That was wonderful too. :)

So, when did I lose my virginity? First nonconsensual encounter with a woman? First (anal) nonconsensual encounter with a man? First (vaginal) nonconsensual encounter with a man? First consensual encounter with a woman? First consensual encounter with a man?

I hate virgins. :)) I destroy them whenever I find them. (So far, I've changed 4 people into "non virgins" :) )

Did I really though? I hear a virgin is someone who no longer has their skin. 2 of those 4 people were uncircumcised men. They've both still got their skin. Did I really take their virginity? :)) :) :))

[lizH]

Lorelei,

>What's your definition of a virgin?

IMO, if you have had anal or oral sex, you ain't no virgin. I may be wrong, but I define "virgin" as never had:

1. Vaginal sex
2. Anal sex
3. Oral sex

If your body has been penetrated by a dick in any holes on your body, I really don't believe you're a virgin.

But this is just my opinion, I could be wrong....<

:?

Does that include having your vagina touched by a tongue?

What about hand jobs? Tit fucking? What about various fetishes that can lead one to orgasm?

LizH, (Foot fetishist who can cum from having my feet licked or tickled the right way)
:confused:

[Lorelei]

Originally posted by lizH
Does that include having your vagina touched by a tongue?

What about hand jobs? Tit fucking? What about various fetishes that can lead one to orgasm?

LizH, (Foot fetishist who can cum from having my feet licked or tickled the right way)
:confused:

Nope. None of those. Has to be a live cock penetration. Mind you, in my opinion.

Some people feel unless it's vaginal intercourse via cock penetration only, a person is still a virgin. If they feel that way, fine. But I personally don't think so.

[smallguy]

I would say i'm still a virgin. I fooled around a bit with a the daughter of a lady my dad was dating for a few years when I was 10-12 and there was some penetration. But it was like ok what do we do now? It was just alright that's far enough in now pull it out. There was no in and out action. It was mostly just touching. I'm 31 and have made out a few other times in the last 20 years but that's about it. I'm too scared of the whole relationship thing I guess. I was abused as a youngster and I believe emotionally i'm still the age I was when it stopped. The thought of a woman laughing at the little fella is not a pleasant one either. If I ever did have a girlfriend she would have to get her pants tailored around my head because I would be munching box about 23 1/2 hours a day:)

[Casperr]

Hi! Figure I might as well respond to this thread....

Yep, as a few people here know, I'm a virgin. I've only ever really had one girlfriend, and we lasted for six months before I called it off. Neither of us felt we were ready for our first time to have sex (but sex had nothing to do with the breakup). We fooled around a little bit, but not as far as having sex.

And I'm fine with that - that was how we felt at the time and nobody had their needs neglected.

Now, however, at 21 I'm 'ready' and willing to lose my virginity - not because I see it as some great burden, but simply because I am more familiar with my sexuality now and want to explore it.

And I'm sure I will get that chance one day - I just do my own thing and try not to worry about it too much. I think people put too much emphasis on virginity - it's not something to lose or to save. It's just the state of having not had sex. I've never sky-dived but don't get stressed about that.

And I'm certainly not going to jump off every plane just to say I've done it, if you follow the metaphor...

So - bottom line. If you're a virgin, great. If you're not, great. Be comfortable with who you are, not what you have or haven't done - that's pointless!!

Just my few words :)

CasperTG.

[Sodbuster]

I'm a 22 year old virgin in that I've never had sexual intercourse. But I have had oral sex performed on me and I have performed it on her.

[Sweet Thing]

My hubby was a virgin when we met. He was 25 at the time. When I met him, I hadn't had sex for almost a year. By the time we had sex, I felt like a virgin again. It was an incredible honor for him to give up his virginity to me.

[Irish]

I agree with GermanSteve.I would hate to get married;and not
know if you're compatible!I also agree with SS;that people will see;the picture of yourself;that you paint!I learned that in racing;
cars&motorcycles.If you plan on getting beat;you probably are.
Why bother risking life&limb?Everyone has their own interpretation;but I believe what Lorelie said:I have known a few
women;that even if they have performed Fellatio(BJ);still consider
themselves a virgin.In my opinion;that is a more intimate act;then
vaginal intercourse.You're also still being penetrated! Irish
P.S.Getting off of my soapbox!Different strokes;for different folks!
P.P.S.By the way;with two daughters in their 30s;I HOPE that I'm
not a virgin!

[Young Love]

I hate the term "virgin". It's totally outdated and hetero-sexist (not that any of YOU are ^-^ ). But no, I have never had "sexual intercourse". I'm waiting for someone who is worth it.

[lizH]

Yes, the general idea of a virgin, or a girl/woman who still has her skin (hymen) is quite sexist and heterosexist. Given the definition of someone who has never had *any* sexual experience being a virgin, I've taken the virginity of several people. After I've taken the virginity of an uncircumcised man, and I always maintain a relationship of whatever sort with themafterward, I "tease" them that they're obviously still a virgin, because they've "still got their skin", and offer to try again to take their virginity. We have a good laugh over this, and often give it as much of a "try" as we can then.

Or, OTOH, when I'm about to take a circumcised man's virginity, and I see he doesn't have his skin, I tease him that he's obviously *not* a virgin, that I don't believe him, because he doesn't have his skin. We get a good laugh out of that one too.

[Sugarsprinkles]

Originally posted by jennaflower


I am NOT considered by many to be one of the "pretty" people.. but I guarantee you that those that love me would say otherwise.

Well, I'm not going to drag out the "you're beautiful on the inside" cliche, even if it is true.

What I would like to add is in my years of experience too many of those that the world perceives as the "Beautiful People" are extremely shallow and self-absorbed, rude and can care for no one and nothing but themselves. Definitely NOT the kind of people I want to be around! I don't really give a rat's behind what anyone looks like!! I care how you treat others, especially those that are different than yourself. I care how you treat children and animals. I care how you treat the poor. And, naturally I care how you treat me. If you are a good PERSON, then you are someone I want to be with...as a friend, a lover or whatever. And anyone who would pass up an opportunity to get to know someone simply because of their looks is probably missing out on good friends and fantastic lovers! What a shame to be that narrow minded!!

[Irish]

I know;absolutely;nothing about airhog;but I really don't think
that he meant anything bad by that statement!I think that the statement was made in jest and I think that everyone should
stop being so judgemental;argumentative and touchy!This is
supposed to be a fun site! Irish
P.S.Just my $.02.

[iTriedSoHard]

I'm still a virgin....well, I'm only 18.

[moonbabe]

i lost mine pretty early but i have friends who still r.