Am i wierd

[SexySub1984]

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So recently I and my partner were messing around and I gave him a blow job( Which I usually enjoy) however to my suprize As he climaxed I had an orgasm is this usual? and question # 2 how so you tell your partner just how rough and kinky you like it with out feeling oh i dunno a little embarressed! I wonder if something iss wrong with me or is it normal

[Lilith]

Unusual, yes. To climax with no vaginal or clitoral stimulation, is extremely rare. Guess you are a fortunate one!

Open communication is critical in any relationship but in one involving any form of bdsm play it is even more so. Perhaps you could start by introducing him to stories of scenes you find hot and within your limits.

[Aqua]

From what I have heard most women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, so an orgasm with no contact whatsoever would be considered unusual.

Many people like rough and/or kinky sex. You should sit down with your partner and discuss each other's sexual needs/wants/desires. Don't be embarrassed, just be matter of fact. I like this or I really enjoy this. Communication is key... who knows, maybe your partner likes it rough and kinky too. :)

[SexySub1984]

Thank you both for your advice I just wondered sometimes if something was off with me lol thanks

[Lord Snow]

With my experience in talking to people on this site, we're all a little off.......okay some are way off, but it's all good kinky fun.

[SexySub1984]

HA HA LOL Well I am bi-sexual and I have been in a relationship with a female for almost 3 years now!!!! We have had a few times we invited ppl in to join us and I really thought i was crazy when i orgasmed while giving our friend a bj!!!!!! I has taken me three years to be comfortable with my Kink as some may call it with my GF she and i have really clicked since i talked with her but some of my fantasies are a lil rougher than she may like i mean she is fine with tieing me down just basics but i like to be sub and she doesnt know how to be a true dom lol

[PantyFanatic]

.......okay some are way off, but it's all good kinky fun.
You called? :D


;)
As for exploring and sharing mutual pleasures together, what Lil said is spot on. Open and comfortable communications with your special partner is the key to fulfilling intimacy. Not all points on the compass can be followed at once. Take the time to explore and learn each other and the places you want to visit together. :thumb:

[gekkogecko]

Are you weird? Well, only if you want to be.

[Lilith]

what Lil said is spot on.


ha ha ha ha ha. For posterity. :thumbs: :whack:

[pinkFlames]

Regarding the orgasm from giving the blowjob, I do that quite frequently.

[PantyFanatic]

ha ha ha ha ha. For posterity. :thumbs: :whack:
The :devil: made me say it.

[Lilith]

I don't care who made you say it: It is on the internet so we know it is the truth :p

[themi01]

OK my question why are there like 5 guys and only 2 girls answering the question. my point is unless you have a clitoris and a vagina and give blow jobs how do you know what's unusual

[Oldfart]

It's only caught the interest of a small number of members who feel that they have something to contribute.

I can say that no girl has had an orgasm unassisted giving me a blowjob. Perhaps I'm not exciting enough.

[AZRedHot]

There are women who can think themselves off, or can come from little to no physical stimulation, but I've never been or known one personally. I guess you will know them by their pet unicorns. ;)

[jseal]

It's only caught the interest of a small number of members who feel that they have something to contribute ...
Even if I can't contribute, I'm willing to donate. :)

[BamaKyttn]

As some of our pixie men know I get very turned on giving head, I've yet to achieve climax with no other stimulation but I am now hopeful!


As far a BDSM etc, if you can't bring yourself to talk about it with them then perhaps your relationship isn't as strong as you think it is. If you can't be sincere and up front with your partner be they male female or whatever if you can't tell them what you like for fear of rejection or humiliation ( unless thats your kink and what you're looking for.... not mine but eh different strokes.....) I would reconsider it. I spent years shaping my sex around what my "partners" liked never wanting to tell them what I liked or more importantly disliked because I was afraid it wouldn't be what they wanted and they would leave me.


Darling, "weird" is a word that boring or scared people use to describe those of us who are not afraid to know ourselves completely and admit and permit our wants needs and desires.


I love being a "dirty" girl. My partners that I've had since I let go of my fear of admitting preferences I think have been more satisfied because I've been able to give myself more completely to them. I may have scared one or two with my ability to love and trust but I wasn't left wondering at the end "what would have happened if they knew (X)...?"

Walls can be important but when you're behind those walls not only can they block you view of others, others can't see whats really going on.


Kyttn

[Rhiannon]

for myself i can't say i get off giving head.. I get excited and all but no orgasmed personally i would say you re lucky

[citrus]

There's something to be said about the mouth's involvement in arousal. When I give head or eat pussy I get hard without being touched. My supposition for the female is that the brain knows that something most sensual is happening and automatically (for some) kicks into gear the elements for climactic orgasms in the head giver.
she is fine with tieing me down just basics but i like to be sub and she doesnt know how to be a true dommethinks, be specific and ask her to do to you everything you want her to do. Try being right up front and give a clue so before hand, but also, don't pressure for immediate perfection. Sometimes, it's a long sensual life we enjoy together! :kisser:

[Teddy Bear]

There are women who can think themselves off, or can come from little to no physical stimulation, but I've never been or known one personally. I guess you will know them by their pet unicorns. ;)

I don't get the unicorn reference.

But i can identify with the first part of your post. Its only happened three times, if it was 'thinking myself off', or his voice and words, or just being super horney i dunno. SexySub1984 i certainly do not think you are weird. Neither do i think i was or am. It happened, one of those special times that make ya go 'wow'.

As for the BDSM, read stories that have what you want. Have your partner read them or discuss the high points. Also google BDSM, research what it is to be Dominate and submissive. While your at it look at 'safe BDSM play'. Theres no rush, exploring and learning together is half the fun.

Good luck. :)

[AZRedHot]

I don't get the unicorn reference.



Just a little joke...you know, unicorns being rare, mythical beasts and all. :)

I WISH I could think myself off...it would make work so much more fun, but sadly, I'm not wired so fortunately.

[PantyFanatic]

..... but sadly, I'm not wired so fortunately.
I think I need to take a better look at you r weiring. :tongue:


:wtp:

[AZRedHot]

I think I need to take a better look at you r weiring. :tongue:


:wtp:

15 of them, recent even, in Pix of Women, dude. Was that not enough? :p

[Lord Snow]

Never!!!!!!

[jseal]

Lol!