Ladies...Etiquette

[divot109]

I frequently see picture posts on here with labels referring to girlfriends & wifes as sluts, whores, etc...I realize this is a sexually explicit site, but do you really find it acceptable being referred to as a slut, whore, bitch by your SO? Just curious, b/c I find it very disrespectful.

[Fangtasia]

I dont like it, if Bilbo rattled them off at me, oh man, it would not be pretty.

Bitch i can deal with *L*, but it depends also for that word on the context its being used in. But use the others, pain WILL follow!

[PantyFanatic]

I'm with you , Divot, on this one. Perhaps we are from an old school where these terms have a different connotation to us, but I tense and scowl the same as you. I consider us lucky that we have our sexy Pixies ladies that are open and honest with the excitement of teasing, and passion of sharing sensuous pleasure with us and feel damn grateful. Our community seems to be somewhat unique with the real relations and bonds formed here, from most online sites. That makes this a special place with special people that I hold in esteem and sure as hell don't like disrespect shown to them. I've been told I am too defensive sometimes so I don't comment unless I 'know' one of our ladies has been offended, but insulting them is insulting this place and all of us.


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[Rhiannon]

Personaly I am one of few women that take bitch as compliment as we were in a club one night and i refused to dance with someone and he called me bitch and my friends all turned at same time and said her title it Goddess Bitch lmao..

Other terms -die and be warned as i will hurt people over it

[Lilith]

I used to be very sensitive to men who posted pics of their "slutwife" or "cum whore" etc. Then I learned that there are aspects of sexuality like cuckholds and men who really get off on the idea of their wives fucking around. Their wives are aware of the situation and it is an aspect of their relationship. As a moderator it's often difficult to know whether this is the case or if it's meant as disrespect or if the wife is aware her photos are being published at all.

Would I be ok if a man responded to my pics by calling me a sexy cum slut???? no

Woud I be ok if some one I trusted in the heat of the moment called me a sexy cum slut??? maybe

Blurry line^~^~^~^~^~^~^

[FlirtWithMe]

I have no partner so I guess this doesn't apply, but I do feel uncomfortable to see such posts, and I sometimes wonder if the wife/girlfriend knows their picture is being posted. If they know about it and are happy about it, then that's great, but there will no doubt be some pictures posted without the consent of the person in them :(

If a partner of mine were to post pictures of me without my knowledge I would be mortified, even more so if the pictures showed any part of my face or a recognizable part of the room I was in. Add to that the inclusion of a title of slut, bitch, whore, and I'd be hanging them by their balls if I ever found out about it.

That said, I have been known to get off on being called bitch/whore/slut by a close friend I play with on the phone and cyber with. That's role play though, and both of us know that, and we have many a conversation about limits and what's ok or not ok, how far he can go in that direction with me, how far he's comfortable to go etc, etc. I wouldn't accept this from just anyone I cyber with, I guess it's all about communication and consent, just the same as if someone's posting pictures of another person.

[divot109]

Excellent feedback...I gues I am from old school, too, PF. I have had women who wanted me to talk dirty to them, and I will oblige to a point. But referring to them in such derogatory terms, I just won't do. Even if I am in the midst of a one-night stand (and I've had a few), which probably means the girl is a bit "loose" herself, I respect her enough as a person not to use such utterances. Don't get me wrong, if I KNOW she wants "dirty talk", I have NO problem begging her to "suck my cock", etc. But no whore, slut, bitch, etc. Besides, even if she fits that category, do I really want to keep reminding myself that I am with such a woman? Not if I respect myself at all!!! Thanks again for the replies!!!

[FlirtWithMe]

Even if I am in the midst of a one-night stand (and I've had a few), which probably means the girl is a bit "loose" herself, I respect her enough as a person not to use such utterances.I feel that a woman who has a one-night stand is no 'looser' than the man she's having the one-night stand with. If I was in the midst of a one-night stand, and believe me, chance'd be a fine thing right now, and someone started calling me bitch/whore/slut, then they would risk leaving with a voice an octave or two higher than when they woke up that morning so I agree with you in that respect.

Don't get me wrong, if I KNOW she wants "dirty talk", I have NO problem begging her to "suck my cock", etc. But no whore, slut, bitch, etc. Besides, even if she fits that category, do I really want to keep reminding myself that I am with such a woman?Ouch!

I have to jump to my own defense here and say that just because I get off on this particular role-play with this particular person, does not put me in the category of slut or whore (I won't deny I can be a bitch). I'm not certain whether you were intentionally directing your comment at me so I apologize if you weren't, but that is how it reads to me :rolleyes:

As mentioned in my previous post, I role-play with someone, and we've discussed boundaries. He respects himself, and I know he respects me. How? Because we talk about it extensively, and we find out what games we like to play. He has never and says he would never, use that language to a woman in real life, and that's the beauty of phone or cyber sex, allowing oneself to be slightly more risque than in the real world :nod:

[citrus]

I am actually a whore to a standard most anyone would have measured me against in my life. I'm a slut, cocksucker, bitch and some other friendly adjectives. Any person who wants to should call me those things. It doesn't bug me because I am gay, fag, queer, homo, bi and whatever else goes with it. But, I too am put off by the slinging of the terms. I've never been capable of calling those degradations out in any manner except as requested while we're actually making love and the orgasmic tide flows through our emotions. Then they are in the voicings of passion's sounds, those heady groanings that are in the immediacy of our intimate sensory ejaculations of the instant. After it's gone, we've settled in and the cooling down has come to pass, my words remains within me, my incapability to say those things returns.
Now, Miss bitch if you'll throw your slut ass across my face to drench my lips in your fine cunt juices we can get this fuck thing groovin' eh?
fukingruvin! :spank:

[divot109]

Flirtwithme, I absolutely was not directing any negative comment towards you, and I apologize if it appeared that way. And you are right, a woman having a one-night stand is NO "Looser" than the guy. And I am not knocking one-night stands as I have had my share of them. Furthermore, I don't have an issue with women who are ok being referred to as sluts, bitches, etc...nor do I judge the guys that refer to them in this manner, providing the women in reference are ok with it. I am just not comfortable with it for myself, and was curious as to what the ladies' take is on this subject. Thank you for your input!!! That is what is SOOOoooo GREAT about Pixies...we can have very open (sometimes explicit) discussions, disagreements or misunderstandings and, in the morning, we can still get along.

[FlirtWithMe]

Flirtwithme, I absolutely was not directing any negative comment towards you, and I apologize if it appeared that way.Thank you for clearing that up. I figured that was the case but wasn't certain, even after reading it several times so I couldn't NOT question it :)

That is what is SOOOoooo GREAT about Pixies...we can have very open (sometimes explicit) discussions, disagreements or misunderstandings and, in the morning, we can still get along.Totally agree :nod:

Now, Miss bitch if you'll throw your slut ass across my face to drench my lips in your fine cunt juices we can get this fuck thing groovin' eh?
fukingruvin! :spank::slurp: :boobs: :hot:

[Pita]

I am not a slut, bitch, or a whore and will happily kick your ass if you call me one or worse treat me like one.

However, in my relationship with a man I consider my dominant in every area of my life, I am his slut, bitch, whore, cunt, or anything else he wants me to be.

When we are in a moment of passion and he is pulling my hair and calling me one of those names, I get hot and wet and beg him for more. I love it!

Outside the bedroom, my Joe treats me with complete respect and all I feel is how valuable I am to him.

Words are just words and it's the meaning behind them that matter. If it's not your thing then don't go there, but don't think it's something wrong just because others get off on it. This is a big, freaky, kinky world we live in. ;)

[Aqua]

Words are just words and it's the meaning behind them that matter. If it's not your thing then don't go there, but don't think it's something wrong just because others get off on it. This is a big, freaky, kinky world we live in. ;)
I totally agree with this. :nod:

[PantyFanatic]

....I gues I am from old school, too, PF. I have had women who wanted me to talk dirty to them, and I will oblige to a point. ...

My statements was concerning third party reference or comments outside the bedroom. There is just a negative inference to those terms, at least to me, that cast a shadow on the person and the act that is not part of what an intimate relation includes for myself.

When it comes to 'passion talk' (I honestly don't like to think of it as "dirty" talk) and the bedroom door closes, I not only am happy to be verbal when the sweaty passion is edging upward, I love to hear it from and for both of us. Tooth gritting words like 'pussy licker and 'cock sucker' definitely fan the heat of the moment. They are equals to 'right there', 'GIVE ME!', 'like that' and 'OMG', and are something that very much heightens the apex we are approaching. Actually, it would be a constraint for me not to just let flow the words 'cunt juice' (no pun intended) at the moment of grinding passion. But these are all very passionate and positive adverbs of our pleasure and the others are just not in the same vane, but are derogatory adjectives about the person and our act. That's the difference in my mind.

There is a series of porn flicks that I find VERY hot where you hear the director in the background giving directions and calling the woman every nasty name you can think of that bothers and distracts so much that I mute the sound and just add my own comments. :tongue:

[citrus]

. . . . .
. . . . . Words are just words and it's the meaning behind them that matter. If it's not your thing then don't go there, but don't think it's something wrong just because others get off on it. This is a big, freaky, kinky world we live in. ;) WORDS! What people do with them can be rather important, :eek: consequential :whack: or laughable. :rant:
but don't think it's something wrong (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dr1em9EQqP0) just because others get off on it. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUtmrS15o9I) This is a big, freaky, kinky world we live in. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAMlAPR6iMU)

[dicksbro]

I agree with divot and PF ... I'm generally offended by the terms. The exception would be if it's a playful reference between two good lovers or good friends with no real negative connotation. Maybe a husband reacting to a wife's purchase and modeling of an especially revealing or sexy dress ... or two girl friends talking about the sexiness of clothing they're looking at.

[Lilith]

I call Aqua a manwhore and he does not seem offended :D

[PantyFanatic]

You are talking about a consensus and not just an opinion. :D


















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[AZRedHot]

For me, it's all about context and intimacy. If my love and I are naked and sweaty, just about anything goes. Over our breakfast cereal or out shopping? Not so much; it just grates. Anyone else? Absolutely not. There has to be a certain trust there to push that particular envelope.