Any Advice on Swallowing?

[Moonshine]

My husband and I have been married for fourteen and half years; dated for four years before we married. I've always given him blowjobs and I love it. But he wants me to swallow, always have. And it's not that I don't want to do it, but it seems a little gross to me. I need some advice on how to get past the "gross" part. I mean, I can't even watch it on our porns. I start gagging when the girls start licking and swallowing. It's only been here recently, and I talking like the past few weeks, that I've gotten to where I will taste it after he has come. (e.g. He cums on my breasts and I taste some of it.) It doesn't taste bad, it actually has a good taste to it. Use too, I would lay there really still until he gave me something to wipe it off with because I didn't want to touch it. So what can I do to get to where I can swallow. Not only do I want to please him, but I WANT to do this for myself to. I WANT TO SWALLOW!!!

[Lilith]

Is it a texture thing? It was for me. I read somewhere to suck on a strong cough drop before. Not for the taste but because it desensitizes thigs a bit. It worked for me.

[Moonshine]

Thanks Lilith, I'll try that. And yes, it is mostly a texture thing.

xoxoxo,

Moonshine

[alspals69]

eeek... hell, don't do it if it is so bad, why would you?

Seriously, i would hate for any of my ladies to have done it if it made them feel so bad.

[CrashOverride]

Its all a matter of taste. Some women enjoy the taste and texture of cum, where as others don't. If you "Want" to swallow, Id say just grit your teeth and let him cum in your mouth and get it over with. It will only takes a few times before you get "used" to the idea, and the feeling of it. after that who knows you might go on to enjoy it. The basic principle of the thing is mind over matter really. Once you get past the initial "thoughts" of it, I don't think you'll have that big of problem with it. But as Lil said.. Suck on a halls, or maybe include some types of food in your oral sex. Whipped cream, honey, chocolate syrup are some examples. It's just the thought of it that turns most women off. After they have done it once or twice, you either like it or don't, which makes your mind up either way.

[wyndhy]

Is it a texture thing? It was for me. I read somewhere to suck on a strong cough drop before. Not for the taste but because it desensitizes thigs a bit. It worked for me.
a couple squirts cepocol spray maybe?

if you gag just watching someone do it, then i'd say it's more of a mental thing than a texture thing. so instead of cepocol, perhaps red wine is in order. two bottles between you might help. :D

[Moonshine]

Thanks for the advice. My husband, as well as I, agree with the "Mind Over Matter" theory. It's only been until recently that I've allowed him to do me anally. And again, it was a WANT TO!!! thing. It got to the point that I felt desperate for him to do it and I finally just put it out of my mind and let him. I've had the feeling that it would be this way with him cumming in my mouth because YES I REALLY DO WANT TO!!! I'll also have to keep the chocolate syrup handy to "give it a sweet" taste. :bjhappy: :bj:

[dicksbro]

a couple squirts cepocol spray maybe?

if you gag just watching someone do it, then i'd say it's more of a mental thing than a texture thing. so instead of cepocol, perhaps red wine is in order. two bottles between you might help. :D

:yikes: http://bestsmileys.com/drinking/2.gif

:D

[Teddy Bear]

How do you know God is a man?






Because if he was a female cum would taste like chocolate! :D


:line: :line:

[Teddy Bear]

For years I never swallowed.... just couldn't bring myself to do it. But he wanted it, so one time I just did. Haven't stopped since. Prefer swallowing now.... no clean up. lol. And you actually taste and feel it less if you swallow it quickly rather then spit it out.

Good luck. :)

[citrus]

Swallows are better with every new spurt :bj: into my mouth. :cboy:

[Moonshine]

Thanks Teddy Bear, I'll keep that in mind. I've often wondered if "just getting it over & done with" wouldn't help. I know that sounds awful, and like I don't want to, but I really do.

I really appreciate all the advice everyone has given me so far. There are several of them that I plan to try. Thanks again everyone.

:bj: :69: :line: :bjhappy:

[AZRedHot]

I'm not a fan of playing with it, slurping it and licking it up. I don't care for the taste, and each man tastes different, so that can make a difference, too. I always swallow, because it's easier to do so. When he comes, the head of his cock is at the back of my throat anyway, so it's a short trip. I just swallow as it comes out. And I think it's only fair. If he's willing to go down on me, where the juice is flowing and there's really no option to avoid it, how can I get squeamish about his juice? Maybe thinking of it that way will help you get around the mental block.

[LixyChick]

Really quick thought...

Cum tastes different if you let air get to it. If you keep your mouth over the head of his cock when he cums you can barely feel/taste it. If you lick it after he spewed on his or your parts it's properties change. The longer it's "aired", the more "different" it will taste.

I happen to like the taste and texture of cum. Reminds me of thin pudding at times.

Oh...Hey...try eating slightly warm/water thinned, vanilla pudding before he shoots his load. YUM! Not that cum tastes like vanilla but the color and texture might be the same.

Practice makes perfect!

[rabbit]

My wife refuses to swallow. Just refuses. No amount of persuasion on my part, or suggestion, matters.

ah well, I made my bed...

[LixyChick]

My wife refuses to swallow. Just refuses. No amount of persuasion on my part, or suggestion, matters.

ah well, I made my bed...
And she's jumping out of it to spit? LOL!

Not laughing at you sweetums...I just had this mental picture and thought I'd share.

[rabbit]

And she's jumping out of it to spit? LOL!

Not laughing at you sweetums...I just had this mental picture and thought I'd share.


:rofl:

[scotzoidman]

Not much I can offer as advice, other than this: my wife is also very reluctant to swallow under normal circumstances. The occasions when she does reward me with the big gulp have been wonderful, memories of which I'll recall to my last breath. When it does happen, she doesn't seem to remember it later if I bring up the subject, leading us both to believe it probably only happens when she has enough alcohol & other herbal suppliments in her system to relax her inhibitions...which makes me think that maybe wyndhy has the best suggestion posted here ;)

[WildIrish]

When he comes, the head of his cock is at the back of my throat anyway, so it's a short trip. I just swallow as it comes out. And I think it's only fair. If he's willing to go down on me, where the juice is flowing and there's really no option to avoid it, how can I get squeamish about his juice? Maybe thinking of it that way will help you get around the mental block.


Thinking of that gets me more than just around the mental block! :hot:

[chrismelh]

Hmm, Well my little cum guzzler (dont tell her i called her that :roflmao: ) When she wants to swallow me she chases it down with water similar to taking a tablet. She really like to swallow me but sometimes i might be a bith thicker than normal so this helps with the situation. Try this

[Mark Vieth]

.... Whipped cream, honey, chocolate syrup are some examples.

Whipped cream and cum...hmm the only difference is one has a slightly bitter taste and the other is sweet. :)

[Wicked Wanda]

And it's not that I don't want to do it, but it seems a little gross to me. I need some advice on how to get past the "gross" part. I mean, I can't even watch it on our porns. I start gagging when the girls start licking and swallowing. It's only been here recently, and I talking like the past few weeks, that I've gotten to where I will taste it after he has come. (e.g. He cums on my breasts and I taste some of it.) It doesn't taste bad, it actually has a good taste to it. Use too, I would lay there really still until he gave me something to wipe it off with because I didn't want to touch it.


I read all the posts above, and I think my friends might have missed your point. It is something very different. (Re-reading the excerpt above makes it easier see.) It is NOT a taste issue.
I think somewhere deep inside, so deep you may not know it, you have the "it comes from the same place he pees from" issue. You may be equating his cum with bady waste without knowing it.
Or maybe it is just a texture issue, but if that were so why do you find those porn images so troubling?

Once a friend took my to see an old movie where a male actor, impersonating a woman, actually appeared to eat dog poo! I became very ill at the image. The feeling stuck with me for a while, and affected other areas in my life.

Semen feels like so many other thick creams and lotions. (I think it is not acidental that some things look and feel like semen by the way)

I didn't read where you avoid sunblock or moisturizers because of the texture.

Try desensitizing yourself to the idea and the feel. Let him cum on your breasts, and leave it there. All day. He will likely find it sexy, the idea of you walking around, his cum on your breasts, many men and women do.
It will dry, and is easily peeled and wiped off with soap and water later. But it is a start in changing your aversion to it.

love,


WW

[Tina Taylor]

Wicked Wanda, your post is awesome. I sat here for awhile thinking how to answer this in some helpful way. For me, I kind of have a logical look at it - it's just body fluid, part of my lover, and no more dirty or gross than my vaginal wetness that I want him to get his tongue into.

I agree with Wanda that the problem sounds much more psychological than physiologic - your issue sounds to be more with the idea of cum in your mouth than it is with the actual taste or texture of it. It may be easiest to start off trying to think of it as something other than cum - ie, a mental trick that it is milkshake or something yummy. I don't know if this will help or not. Hope it does!

Lastly, if you just can't get past it, it's no big deal! There are so many ways to have fun with your lover, you can definitely work around this one thing! Everyone has one or two things they just don't want to do (for me, it's anal - I tried it once and wanted to crawl up the wall as soon as he started). I'm sure your husband is a happy camper and probably thrilled that you're making such an effort for him.

[Moonshine]

Thanks to all of you who have given your advice. Several of them actually helped me, especially the one from Wicked Wanda about it coming from the same place where he pees. I hadn't given it much thought until that point was made and I think that that had a lot to do with it. Once I got over that issue, I have actually let him cum in my mouth twice. He only gets one or two squirts in, but... THERE IS enough for me to taste it and swallow. (Small steps to start with.) I actually like the taste and texture of it. It's nothing like what I had thought it would be.

And thanks to the one (sorry your name slips my mind) about it "changing" when it hits the air. It really does. I much perfer him cumming in my mouth compared to tasting it once hit has "hit the air". Another thing that helped me (with the texture issue) and this was done before I actually swallowed, was that he came on my breasts one morning before we left the house and I "wore" it all day long. I loved it. And he loved the idea of me "wearing" his cum in public all day long. The texture, once smoothed out on my skin, actually felt nice and I enjoyed having it on all day. Kinda made me feel "dirty and sexy" without anyone knowing it. :tongue:

Thanks everyone. I'll keep you updated on how it's going.

[Mark Vieth]

Updates anymore?

[BamaKyttn]

HOORAY for pleasure overcoming hang ups! I personally feel that if I were to spit I would be rejecting part of my partner. but I've got this odd catholic raising that gives me a major guilt complex.....


Swallowing his gift to me is my gift to him.