Sad Note In A Bottle

[PantyFanatic]

Sorry to let you know that the latest news to reach the Ark is not good. A very special Pixie friend asked me to let you know what has been occupying her time and mind lately.

Her Mum lives half way across the Continent Nation and has started chemotherapy for a second time. Some years back she went through the treatment with positive results but it was detected being back a couple months ago. She has lost 40 pounds within the past month from not being able to hold anything down. Her Dad of course is as shaken and concerned as she and is in constant contact but lonely and helpless as are we all.

I was given permission to start this thread if I promised to run my spellchecker at least 3 time before posting because I too recently understand concern about a Mom and being at a loss for thoughts, let alone words to inform friends what is happening.

I'm sure Sharniqua will let us know the developments as she and her family are in our thoughts and prayers.


:grope: Sharni

[gekkogecko]

Ewww, ick.

(sympathetic head bobs)

[dicksbro]

Sharni,

Our prayers go out to your mom and to you and your family. Please, take a hug from us and know that in spirit we'll be at your side.

[Lilith]

((hugs)) sending vibes of peace and healing, and some love ones too

[jseal]

Sharniqua,

Good luck and God bless to all.

[IowaMan]

((((((((((Sharni & Family)))))))))))



Thanks PF for letting us know.

[Neige]

(((((((((((((((((Sharni))))))))))))))))))

[Scarecrow]

Sharni, hoping for the best for you and your mom. You are in our thoughts.

[osuche]

(((((Sharni))))) and ((((((((((mom))))))))))

My healing thoughts and prayers to you both....I am glad you are getting some time with your mum

[Aqua]

((((((((Sharni)))))))))

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[wyndhy]

such sad news. (((hugs))) for you all. hang in there, and know that we're all pulling for your mom.

[sodaklostsoul]

What they ^^^^^^ all said!!!!!

Hugs to you and family.

[fzzy]

Sending hugs and love from here as well .... Hope good news comes soon for you! XOXOXOXOXOX

[Cheyanne]

((((Sharni))))

Sending you calmness, positive prayers, and many many hugs to you and your family.

[AZRedHot]

Sending warm hugs and supportive, healing vibes your way, Sharni, for you and your loved ones.

[jay-t]

((((Sharni))))) thoughts and prayers are with you and mom

[dm383]

((((Sharni))))




Good thoughts to Sharni...)))))

DM

[DanteFire]

Im sorry to hear this, Im going through something similar with My Granny right now, along with her hip being replaced, so I have a feeling on how things are going, My best wish's to you and your mom

[GreenChef]

Very sorry to hear
My Deepest Hopes, sympathies, and best wishes to her and her family

I know it is hard
A very good friend of mine is constantly battling a similar fight, and she is as young as I. IT is a terrible Disease.
Three years ago my Dad passed away. Prostate, and complications...

Hoping for a speedy recovery

:grope: Sharni

[Oldfart]

A bastard of a reason for visiting home.

In my prayers, (all of you).

[Fangtasia]

I'd like to thank my mate PF for putting into words which i could not at the time *hugz*

And to you all for your kind thoughtful words *hugz*

Mum is still not well, but improved a tiny bit since her first treatment. She is still losing weight :( from not being able to eat properly. She has 2 more treatments to go before we will know if they were able to get it or if another way my have to be tried (ie surgery)

Fingers crossed they can get it without having to go further, but i will add i am very worried this time around!

Thanx again for all your words of support!

[PantyFanatic]

Thanks you for the update, even it isn't the news we all want to hear. She WILL be in our thoughts. :x:

[Lilith]

((hugs)) it's times like this that the closeness we feel thanks to technology is just not close enough. Wish I were able to give you real ones ((hugs))

[sodaklostsoul]

Hugs!!!!! One day at a time!!!!

[gekkogecko]

Ah, I was hoping there would be an update.

Sucks that it's that kind of updatre, though.

[scotzoidman]

Not the best of news to be sure, but whatever the future may bring, you have cyber (((hugs))) & positive thoughts coming your way from here...

[Oldfart]

Day by day, Sharni.

The instructor of my BIL (a navy type), went to the annual lecture Winston Churchill gave to the best and brightest military minds of the Commonwealth.

He walked in and stood at the lectern.

He locked eyes with the audience and said,

"Never, never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never,never, never, never ever give up."

And walked out.

[IowaMan]

((((Sharni)))) You're still getting positive thoughts coming to you from me too dear.

[Fangtasia]

A short update.

I've spoken to Mum quite a bit over the last few days. She REALLY is not well. She still cannot eat and is regularly vomiting. She hasnt got the energy to walk and has the shakes from feeling so weak. I told her to get her ass back to the doctor to get some help, how can anyone fight cancer when you are feeling so low. Mum is going to try to get in today to see her specialist. I told her i'd ring tonight to see how she went.

It really doesn't look good :( I'm beyond the worried stage now. Damn i wish i lived closer!!

[wyndhy]

(((hugs))) i wish i could offer more.

[PantyFanatic]

:console:

[fzzy]

There may be oceans and continents that separate us, but hope you know that love and hugs and every positive thought I have are being sent your way. I don't think there's anyone who means what "mom" does to any of us, she's irreplaceable, so whatever comfort or aid I can offer, count me in! (((((((Sharni)))))))). Fzzy

[Neige]

More (((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))).

[Teddy Bear]

((((Sharni))))

Wish I had some words of wisdom or some comforting phrase that would ease your heart a little.....

All I can say is that you, your Mum and family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Lilith]

Sharni- get her some weed. Until she can get a Dr to perscribe her something the weed will help her eat.

[Teddy Bear]

YES!! Ditto what Lilith said!

[Fangtasia]

Sharni- get her some weed. Until she can get a Dr to perscribe her something the weed will help her eat.
Yep the classic munchies. Very much illegal here, and i doubt my Mum would even touch it.

[Lilith]

It's illegal here too but I know how hard it is to watch someone go through it.

[Cheyanne]

(((((((Sharni))))))))

[Fangtasia]

It's illegal here too but I know how hard it is to watch someone go through it.
The problem is Lil....Mum gets hungry, but its the vomiting, it just wont stop. She vomits wether she's eaten or not, though especially after. So the weed will just make her more hungry :(

[sodaklostsoul]

((((((((((((Sharni)))))))))))

[Teddy Bear]

There are drugs for the nausea/vomiting. If one doesm't work try another!!


These sites tell about them and also give some other ideas to try....

http://www.chemocare.com/managing/nausea_vomiting__chemotherapy.asp

http://www.chemotherapy.com/side_effects/other_side_effects/nausea_vomiting.jsp

http://www.chemotherapy.com/side_effects/other_side_effects/nausea_vomiting.jsp

[Fangtasia]

Mum cant seem to keep the meds down long enough for them to get the chance to work :(

I've only got home from work not long back....so will ring her soon and see what her doc had to say

[Teddy Bear]

From the 1st site....

Luckily, there are many drugs that your doctor can prescribe to prevent, lessen, or relieve the nausea and vomiting associated with chemotherapy. These medications are called anti-nausea drugs or anti-emetics. These are a group of medications that can be used to control nausea and vomiting and can be given in different ways. For example, if you are unable to keep anything down, don't worry because the drugs can be given through an I.V. catheter, a patch, rectally, under the tongue, or even in a shot if you cannot swallow. Also, there are several things that patients with these symptoms can do to help themselves feel better besides medications.

[Teddy Bear]

Still 1st site.....

your doctor may prescribe one or more of the following common anti-nausea medications:

aprepitant (Emend®)
dolasetron (Anzemet®)
granisetron (Kytril®)
ondansetron (Zofran®)
palonosetron (Aloxi®)
proclorperazine (Compazine®)
promethazine (Anergan®),(Phenergan®)
lorazepam (Ativan®)
metoclopramide (Reglan®)
dexamethasone (Decadron®)
famotidine (Pepcid®)
ranitidine (Zantac®)
These can be prescribed for you to take before, during, and/or after chemotherapy. As you can see there are many different medications that your doctor can prescribe to control these symptoms. It may take trying a couple different medications before finding the right match for you.

[Teddy Bear]

Just realized I put the same site twice. Here's 2 more....

http://www.webmd.com/cancer/features/control-chemotherapy-nausea-vomiting

http://www.altru.org/body.cfm?xyzpdqabc=0&id=6&action=detail&AEProductID=HW_Knowledgebase&AEArticleID=zx1104&AEArticleType=Major
Antinausea drugs can be given as pills you swallow, as an IV, or as shots. Some drugs are available as suppositories, as capsules that melt in your mouth, or as a patch that is taped to your skin.
It is important to follow your doctor's directions in taking your antinausea medicines and to report back about how well they are working.
If you have nausea and vomiting after chemotherapy in spite of taking antinausea drugs, tell your doctor immediately. A different antinausea drug may be the answer. Or your chemotherapy drug may need to be changed.

[Lilith]

ondansetron (Zofran®)

In it's non-generic form can be injected and is the best med I have ever taken for nausea. I will not have surgery without it.

There is also suppository phenerg(h)an. Then it would by-pass her upper digestive system. It works but makes you drowsy.

[Fangtasia]

I rang Dad, Mum has been admitted to hospital. She's been put on an IV. And has finally been able to eat. They are going to keep her in for at least a few days to try to get it sorted.

She has her next Chemo treatment on Tuesday

[dicksbro]

Thanks for the update! The prayers continue!

((((( HUGS )))))

[gekkogecko]

I'm beyond the worried stage now.

And you have every right to be. Is there any way to get her in-home care?

[Lilith]

)))))Sharni((((((

[Aqua]

((((Sharni)))) You have my continued prayers and support.

[Fangtasia]

Thanx all.

I rang Mum in hospital last night. While she is feeling better, which is a good thing for sure, i still got that bad feeling :(

The Doc ordered some tests and a scan yesterday, he's checking to see if the first treatment has worked on the cancer (it should have shrunk at least some), or due to Mum being soooo ill, whether something else is there.

I should hear tonight what the results are.

[IowaMan]

((((((Sharni))))))) You're still getting lots of good thoughts and well wishes from me too. :nod:

[Teddy Bear]

(((((Sharni)))))

Continued prayers for Mum, her doctors, nurses, your family and you.

[Fangtasia]

Update:

Mum got her blood test results....she has scepticemia and traces of ecoli in her blood....they are currently treating her for them both. Mum was due out of hospital yesterday, but that aint happening. She will be in there 'til at least Thursday. They have been treating her with antibiotics, but she is still getting temps, so something is still not right

Mum was sposed to have her next treatment on Tuesday, but the doc reckons that wont be happening, they need to investigate the infections more and get them under control.

The doc apparently hasn't mentioned anything about the scans done to see if the cancer has shrunk, dunno if that means good news or bad :(

[Lilith]

No wonder she didn't want to eat. Hug her gently for Pixies.

[scotzoidman]

Darlin', you are way overdue for some good news...hope there's some waiting around the next corner...

Yeh, I reckon there's no ganja in the world that would have stimulated her appetite...

[Oldfart]

Well? Or at least somehow better?

[Fangtasia]

Mum is still in hospital, but is doing somewhat better. She also had another bug as well, unsure what it was, but it was causing infection. They believe they may finally have them under control. She has to have a blood test tomorrow to see if they caught them all, if they have she MAY be able to go home.

Mum had her last day of the second treatment today. Her final treatment is on the 4th of March....my sister and I are looking to fly down on the 7th to be with both Mum and Dad for the final verdict (if the Chemo worked), all going well!

[dick]

Sharni
Our thoughts and prayers are with you from all round the globe. Hang in there darlin.
Joe

[osuche]

((((((Sharni and mom))))))) ~~ I'm hoping for a positive end to the chemo treatments and her to spend some happy days at home where she belongs.

[Sharni]

Update: It's not going well

Mum is still in hospital :(

She picked up a 'superbug' and had to be treated for that. She then picked up some other hospital bug :(

Her immune system is SOOOOO low she just keeps getting infection after infection, she is not a well woman. They have put off her having the last Chemo treatment for now, as they are worried that bombarding her, 1 while she is so down & 2 dropping her immunity even lower, will do more harm than good.

*sigh*...I still have that 'bad' feeling about all this

Bilbo and I are looking at driving all the clan down to Victoria 2 weeks after Easter, Bilbo wants to see his Mum, and naturally i want to see my Mum & Dad. The kids want to see both.

So this is where its at.

[PantyFanatic]

Not been easy. Doesn't sound like it's going to be easy for a while.

Our thoughts are with you all. :console:

[sodaklostsoul]

What he said^^^^^^^.

((((((((((((((((Sharni))))))))))))

[IowaMan]

ugh..... :(

I'm so sorry Sharni. I hope things are getting a little bit better each day. You and your family are definitely in my thoughts.

(((((((Sharni))))))))

[Lilith]

Is it a long trip to visit them? I know I'm excited about seeing my mom at Spring Break. It's about 7 hours away and I don't get there enough.

I hope you get to make the trip and I hope she is feeling scads better by then.

[PantyFanatic]

Is it a long trip to visit them? ....
YES!

Even when you aren't driving on the wrong side of the road.

[sodaklostsoul]

Wow!!!!!!

[Sharni]

Not quite that far PF *LOL*...Mum is in Victoria not South Australia

Down the bottom left of Victoria you can see Warrnambool on the map. Mum lives near there, its 1,800 klm around about....or 18hrs straight through.

Red Line

[PantyFanatic]

You'll not get to see the Rock nor get to stop in and tell Johnny what a great job he's doing going that way. And there's no way you can get there on the wrong side of the road, anyway. Ya best just follow the Wally Map.
:rofl:

[Sharni]

1. Don't wanna see a big rock in the middle of nowhere anyway!

2. Johnny doesnt live there anymore!

3. We drive on the correct side of the road!

[Lilith]

18 hours by car is a loooooooooooooooooong drive. Especially with kids :D

[sodaklostsoul]

18 hours by car is a loooooooooooooooooong drive. Especially with kids :D
Nyquil? :p



And no I've never done that.

[scotzoidman]

Nyquil? :p



And no I've never done that.
Certainly an inviting thought tho.... :rofl:

[Oldfart]

18 hours on the road is one of the main reasons for a national pastime here in Oz, single vehicle rollovers.

It's only just over 1100 miles in the old money.

[LixyChick]

Just catching up and I have to add my *hugs n love* to you and your mum...

((((((((((Sharni)))))))))) ((((((((((Mum))))))))))

I wish I had some magical words to calm your fears and soothe your anxiety...but I don't. The best I can do is tell you I know how you are feeling because I've been there. Talk to her often Shar! Hold her and tell her you love her as soon as you can! And never lose hope! There is always hope...till there is no hope!

Mom's are pretty good about fighting back. It never ceases to amaze me how strong women can be. Even when they seem at their weakest there is that inner strength that they call upon and somehow overcome the mightiest odds.

Hang in there Shar! Be strong when you can and lean on us when you feel a bit weak!

[imaginewithme]

((((((((big Hugs))))))))))))

[GreenChef]

Best wishes of strength to your Mom
Stay strong

(((((Sharni)))))

[Fangtasia]

An Update:

Mum has been put back into hospital, the result came back from the scan. The cancer has not shrunk at all, despite the 2 treatments she has had :(. It also hasn't got any larger, which i spose is a sorta blessing! Mum is depressed, crying etc. She is tired, clothes falling off her, and well looks bad!

They are going to do a biopsy on the tumor either today or tomorrow. They need to know if the one in her tummy is actually lymphoma or if its a new batch of breast cancer (she lost a breast over 24 yrs ago to it, and it came back in her spine more recently)

*sigh* I floating around lost, hard to explain, i want to go now, but restrictions and responsibilities make that impossible, so for now i have to make do with phonecalls, and to be honest, its tearing me up.

[Lilith]

I am so sorry. I can understand how you feel being torn apart by not being able to be in two places at once. Your mum knows too. It's part of being a woman. Wanting to be there to care for the people we love.

[sodaklostsoul]

(((((((((((((((((((Sharni))))))))))))))))))) I know how ya feel.

[scotzoidman]

*sigh* I floating around lost, hard to explain, i want to go now, but restrictions and responsibilities make that impossible, so for now i have to make do with phonecalls, and to be honest, its tearing me up.No need to explain. Being a "Tweener", caught between caring for your spawn & wanting to be there for the ones that spawned you, is a tough nut for even the strongest among us to crack. I believe there are 3 kinds of people in the world, those that have been there (like me), those that are living there now (like you), & those that will be there someday.

((sharni)))

[fzzy]

I weep over the situation you are in .. sending hugs and hope you know that there are MANY here who would be there to "help" if we could, for now (like you) we can send our love and positive thoughts to the person we care about who is going through a rough time! ((((((Sharni))))))

[Fangtasia]

I have news, and unfortunately it is not good :(

I finally got a hold of Dad today. The treatment is not working at all and there is nothing more they can do for her, only manage pain etc.

Mum & Dad have an appointment with the Doc this afternoon, i assume they will discuss further time left and assistance/care. Dad will ring me when he gets home after the appointment and fill me in. The Doc has told her he will be sending her home so that she can do stuff she wants to do, no good continuing the treatment that is taking any quality of life, she needs to enjoy what time she has left.

I knew in my heart it was not going well, and yeah, its not. I can't describe how i feel, verge of tears i spose, numb, lost, i dunno really.

[Lilith]

))))))))))hugs(((((((((((((

I'm so sorry. There are no words to say except that if there is anything I can do from half a world away, just let me know.

[PantyFanatic]

My dear friend :tear:

I do know your hurt and know that there are no words.

:console:

[scotzoidman]

What they both said.

And more.

((((((((sharni))))))))))))

[musicman]

you have a worldwide family here for you Sharni....

thinkin' about ya....(((Sharni)))

[osuche]

(((((((Sharni))))))))))

My best advice is to call her, write her, see her...enjoy the time you have left. Life is short, but sometimes it's a blessing to be able to say goodbye. Try not to leave anything left unsaid.

I'm so sorry.

[jay-t]

(((((((((((Sharni)))))))))))

[Scarecrow]

(((((((Sharni)))))))

[AngelicVampires]

I am so sorry to hear about your mother Sharni. A coworker of mine was put on medication to help stop the growth of a large tumor on her kidney. She just recently went through surgery to remove it. One of the techs that I work with mentioned an herb that might help. There seems to be a ton of herbs that help with many different aspects/side effects of cancer but I think this was the one I heard about

http://www.drmyattswellnessclub.com/turmeric.htm

Tons of healing thoughts for you mom and comforting ones for you (((Sharni)))

[Fangtasia]

Thank you all, i really appreciate your hugz at present!


I've spoken with Dad and the Doc has told them to count in months not years :( The cancer is spreading, so its definately not if but when.

I am myself heading to the Doc this afternoon, i have had chest pain most of the day, while i believe its stress, i figured its better to get it checked than not.

[PantyFanatic]

Do check it out and tell the saw-bones what is going on for you. These times stress elastic :console:

[GreenChef]

Very sorry to hear the news Orli
My Dad passed away a few years ago
He was in the hospital
I would visit him on my way home from work most days
bring him dinner
(special leftovers from work, which he loved)
'What did the executives have for lunch Today', he would always want to know
He was supposed to be there for a while only
we never expected, when
I got a sudden call, come now...
Our immediate family spent the night with him
My sister managed to catch a boat and make the 400 mile drive
it was difficult he wasn't able to communicate with us,
and it was hard for us to come up with words for him
but I know for him the important thing was to have everyone there together
(though I know he hated to be seen there like that, and wanted to give us words before departing,
but he had already taught us all, and shared, so much over the years)
The most important thing for him
was always bringing the family together
sometimes I think it was easier that it was fast and unexpected
Sometimes I wish for some time to talk to him
Words aren't always easy in hard times

Not sure what to say
Take care
Talk to her
Enjoy the time you have
Live what you can
Don't be afraid she will always be with you, if you always keep her alive in memory
I miss my dad dearly
But I have many wonderful memories
And at times I can feel he is still around,
helping and guiding people and things in my life
I am blessed
Life is a wondrous thing
Live it, Love it, enjoy and appreciate it

Strength to you and your family

(((((Sharni)))))

sorry I got a little long winded there...
:console:

[wyndhy]

(((hugs)))

[Fangtasia]

With a heavy heart i want to give you an update

Mum went into hospital this morning, and the Doc quietly informed Dad, that she will not be going home again. The Doc believes about 2 weeks left, maybe a bit longer, but it is progressing VERY fast and VERY aggressively.

I will be offline for a bit, as i'm hoping to fly down next week and spend some time with Mum prior and then with Dad after.

Luv ya all, and catchya when i can
OF

[PantyFanatic]

Go, and go safely. :console:

Take our thoughts and love with you.

[osuche]

(((((Sharni)))))))

[Scarecrow]

Have a safe trip and sending hugs and good wishes your way. May your mother have peace till the end.

[Lilith]

Sending peace and strength to you. ((hugs))

[fzzy]

sending warm and peaceful thoughts your way. We are here for you!

[Fangtasia]

Thank you all *hugz*

I am flying down this Tuesday, arriving late night in Melbourne, then will get picked up from there by Dad or my Brother and drive back home (prolly Wed)

Mum has deteriorated further so Dad tells me. I pray i manage to get there before Mum 'goes', as Tuesday is the earliest flight i could catch.

I will not be back til around the 24th or so, depending on whats happening. I'm very doubtful i will get online before then. I'll try to get Bilbo to drop an update when he can.

Luv ya
OF

[Lilith]

((Godspeed))

[PantyFanatic]

Godspeed for both of you, and just a bit more for you. :grope:

[IowaMan]

Oh Sharni, I am so sorry. ((((((((Sharni)))))))))

[dicksbro]

Our deepest and most sincere prayers go out for you and your family, Sharni. God bless and comfort you in the coming days.

[PantyFanatic]

A message was left on my answering machine at 16:02, saying that Sharni had flown out as scheduled on Tuesday night (local time) but her Mum slipped away at 04:30 their time, before she was able to see her. :(

I'll post as I hear.

[Neige]

Thank you for the update, PF. :(

((((((((((((((((((((((OF))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Lilith]

I don't even know what to say. I'm so sad for her.

[1nutworld]

Sharni

I hope you know that our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. As Lil said, I too don't know what else to day.

[sodaklostsoul]

(((((((((((((((sharni))))))))))))))))))))

[Scarecrow]

Sharni, sorry to hear that you did not get to see your mother before she pasted on, but be comforted that she is no longer suffering. Our prayers and good thought are coming your way.

[Bilbo]

Please accept my Thanks for all you have done for Sharni, your thoughts have been past onto her and she is truly greatful, as am I also truely greatful.

It is true Sharni did not get to see her mother in the final hours, but I seem just a little greatful for that, yet can not forgive myself for allowing her to wait one more day for the cheaper flight that she wanted, I do not think I ever will forgive myself for this.

My heart was shattered to know that Sharni was a mere 1 hour 45 min from home when her mother past. This tears me up inside.

But to her Pixies Family please accept my thanks for your a support for my lady Sharni, We will always be great ful for the friendship she has here.

Special thanks must go to Panty, I know you have been a strength for both of us the last few months, I'm sure you know this, but presence has bee a pillar of strength not only for Sharni but myself also, Thank you.

To everyone at Pixies, I can never thank you enough for the strength and support you have shown towards Sharni.

Thank you so very much

Bilbo

[jseal]

Sharni,

I hope your healing begins soon, and that you never forget the beauty your Mum gave to you - the words, deeds and memories.

[wyndhy]

i'm so sorry, sharni. ((hugs))

[AZRedHot]

I'm so very sorry, Sharni.

[1nutworld]

Bilbo,

Thanks for the comments, I hope you know that you don't need to thank us.

You too need support during these times, and I hope you know that you are in our thoughts as well as Sharni.

Please know if you need anything don't hesitate.

Regards.

Nut

[dicksbro]

Bilbo, please give Sharni a hug for all of us and like 1nutworld said, our thoughts and prayers have been for you, too. For you, Sharni and all your family. God bless.

[musicman]

Sharni and Bilbo - my deepest sympathy. It's never easy to lose a loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this trying time.

[scotzoidman]

I have been checking in this thread for a couple of days, & backing out because I have nothing to say...I still have nothing to say that will help, but my deepest sympathy is being sent out to Oz, if it will reach that far.

[PantyFanatic]

It will. ;)

[Oldfart]

Shitbuggerbum.

[fzzy]

Sharni, so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs your way. I am certain that your mum knew that you loved her and also certain she loved you and your crew with all she had. Wish you could have been there in those final moments, but I feel certain that even though you may not have been there, she felt your love with her all the same. Be well and happy as soon as you can, celebrate her life and yours in a way that has meaning to you! Sending more hugs .... wish there was more to be done that would help!!!

[rabbit]

Sharni and Bilbo - my deepest sympathy. It's never easy to lose a loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this trying time.


What he said...

*sniff*

[Fangtasia]

Well i'm back, I've tried off and on to post to this since i read it, but tears just kept welling up, so i'm not going to read, just reply as best as i can.

Bilbo hun, do NOT blame yourself for anything, I got to say my goodbyes in another way, that i am forever thankful that you supported me through!! I love you hun!

Thanx to everyone for your hugs, wishes and such, it really was and is appreciated, i'll read through this thread again in time, but at present it just wells up raw emotion that i find a bit hard to cope with at this time.

[PantyFanatic]

Welcome home. :molest:

[scotzoidman]

Cope with what you can when you can.
Deal with what you must when you must.
Living thru it is the goal, take all the time you need.
And take all the love & sympathy from our hearts to yours, that's what it's there for.

Trust me, it gets better.

:console:

[Teddy Bear]

I have also been in & out of this thread more times then I can remember. Leaving without posting for lack of words.... still not sure what to say except my thoughts and prayers are with you, ((((Sharni and Bilbo)))) and with your family.

Keep your memories close and know Mom lives on with each retelling of those times. Tell them to your kids, share everything wonderful about her. She is in your children too, look for her in the sparkle in their eyes, in their laughter..... *hugs*

[osuche]

((((Sharni))))) - years later, I still miss my dad - but the memories become bittersweet. Take the time you need to mourn, and we'll be here for you if you need us.

[PantyFanatic]

.......Keep your memories close and know Mom lives on with each retelling of those times. Tell them to your kids, share everything wonderful about her. She is in your children too, look for her in the sparkle in their eyes, in their laughter..... *hugs*
If time was all that it took for words like that, it was worth a wait for all of us. You gave us a collective thought we will all take away and remember. Thank you Teddy. :)

[dicksbro]

(((((((((( BILBO and SHARNI ))))))))))

Teddy Bear gave good advice. We love to talk about our folks and express to others how much they meant to us.

God willing, maybe one day we'll all be together again in a far, far better place.

In the meantime, know you always have the love of your Pixie family.

[GreenChef]

My Deepest condolences Sharni and Bilbo

I can relate, my father passed away 3 and a half years ago, just before X-mas
I miss him dearly, but I have felt him here with me on more than one occasion since then

Take care