Sensitivity

[osuche]

Yeah.....I know it's a stereotype that girls are sensitive and boys aren't. :rolleyes:

I have a friend - she's not a Pixie - who has basically given up on having sex. Her husband has very low sensitivity in his penis, and often can't cum during sex. This makes sex frustrating for him, and he'd rather not have it because he can't cum. It's leading to some fighting, too. ;)

Any suggestions for ways to make the penis more sensitive? I understand - based on my discussions with her - that he can achieve an erection. He just can't actually make it to orgasm.

Do creams work? Male g-spot stimulation? Cock rings? Vibrators?

Any suggestions appreciated.

[Lilith]

Is he on medication? Does it make a difference whether he is receiving a blowjob vs. intercourse?

[osuche]

No idea...I will ask. :D

He's young - like 34 - and I think he's pretty healthy. She says he just has always had very low sensation in his penis. She even mentioned it's hard for him to cum when masturbating.

[Lilith]

Do they have kids? It could be that he has an underlying medical condition. If he is athletic he could have impaired blood flow or nerve issues.

[PantyFanatic]

34?!? I assume he has sought complete medical examination.

[dicksbro]

34?!? I assume he has sought complete medical examination.

If not, he should ... especially as it seems to bother him a great deal. In some ways, it could be viewed as a plus if he's able to maintain an erection and thereby give her more time to climax vaginally. I'm not sure that the usual "stimulation" kinds of things would help ... like the warming K-Y gel. Might take something a bit more medical to solve.

[lizzardbits]

Would he be open to wearing a device 24/7? There is a sheaf-type device that acts like a foreskin called a senslip http://www.viafin-atlas.com/senslip

It works to dekeratinize the head of the penis that happens with circumcision, to lessen the rubbing on clothes and underware, and resensitize the head. Kind of like the change your hands would undergo if you were a gardener/carpenter/hands on laborer who never wore gloves and had dry and heavily calloused hands to suddenly going to wearing gloves all the time. The dry skin would moisten and the callouses would lessen over time and your hands would become softer, smoother and more sensitive.

something to think about...

[willy53]

Tell him to try boxer briefs, those minimize penis restriction
And check out KY products for before insertion, look or ask aruond for sex lotions as they are much slicker than reg. lotions( Jerkins and such)

[Oldfart]

It sounds like your friend has a problem.

My view is that he's locked into the idea that sex equals coming.

Intimacy and working to give the other a good time are more important than your own genital buzz. Your own jollies will follow in due course in a balanced relationship.

[Pita]

Oldfart is right about what he says.

Your friend should have a complete physical and have his testosterone levels checked. My boyfriend was diagnose in his late 30's with low levels of testosterone and once he got medication he was new man. Same thing just happened recently with my brother-in-law and my sister is now a VERY happy woman. :)

[osuche]

Your own jollies will follow in due course in a balanced relationship.


I think it's a question of balance. I don't expect to cum every time I have sex - if I did I would be sorely disappointed. However.....sometimes is nice. ;)

Also mixed into this issue are the concepts of male virility. I think there's some embarrasment on his behalf too, and wounded pride. These emotions never make sex better.