some advice plz

[daywalker22]

here goes: i have a friend who i have known for a long time. we keep in touch. well about 2 months ago she came to my work with one of her friends unknowingly to me that it was like a "that's the guy i was telling you about" kinda thing. so she introduces us. we start hanging out a little bit and it's going pretty good. about 2 weeks into it we have our first kiss. then a few days later she tells me she doesn't wanna get into a relationship right now which was fine by me. i didn't want to either. well she has a little girl just turned 1. about 2 weeks later still smoothly sailing she tells me she thinks i am wanting more than she is. my friend who introduces us tells me to just let the whole thing go and pretty much forget about her and she slacked off from calling/talking to me. a couple days after this i am out with some friends and apparently she is too. she calls me up and i was kinda excited to hear from her. but she said she was just calling to make sure i was not at the same place she was gonna be. then 2 hours later she calls and invites me and my friends over to where she is at. we go and everything seemed ok at first then she pretty much ignores me for most of the night. in the meantime she is dancing with another guy, i'm assuming trying to make me jealous. it did a little bit but i'm not one to go off the handle about things especially since we were not together or anything. so i proceeded to drink and have a good time. i danced with a couple of women and she got mad about it. she asked my friend who was with me repeatedly who the women i was dancing with were. then she pulls him onto the floor and he asked if she was trying to make me jealous and she got mad and went and sat down. then she said i was pissing her off and that i should leave and of course i didn't. i tried calling her later that night and she said i pissed her off and to not call back again so i didn't. then the next day i wake up to find a voicemail on my phone from her saying she needed to speak with me about something important so i called and she just asked how i was. i asked what was important that she needed to talk to me about and she said "nothing. i just wanted to hear you" its been like two weeks since i have heard from her. i don't know whether to call or what. neither of us have contacted eachother since and my/her friend doesn't really talk to me anymore either. i dunno what is going on. so please any advice on the matter would be appreciated. (FYI: no sex ever happened. all we ever did was kiss, we almost had sex one night but she said she wanted to but we shouldn't)

[Lilith]

Capitals and let her go. She seems to be a person who wants everyone to conform to her ideals/wishes/needs. Selfish comes to mind.

[Aqua]

She appears to be very manipulative. Stay away. Far away. Let her know you are not interested and then do not take or return her calls.

[daywalker22]

thanks i really appreciate it. i figured just let it go but no harm in a second opinion :)

[CunningLinguist]

My advice is to thank whatever gods you hold most reverent that you didn't have sex with her or get more involved and move on.

[Shadozfire]

She wants everything but gives nothing......"run forrest run!" Unless you want to enjoy the endless mind games and teasing......

[daywalker22]

thanks a lot everyone. i really appreciate it. i'm just so shy when it comes to women though. can anyone give me some tips on picking up women. i know it's like such an easy question, it's just i don't know what to say and how to say it lol. help if ya can and thanks

[Lilith]

ditto (http://216.150.68.37/forums/showpost.php?p=1422378&postcount=2)

[Loulabelle]

Everyone here is right. She sounds like she's playing silly little childish games, like 'treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen'. It's pathetic and you're well rid of her. I feel sorry for her daughter to have such an immature mother.

[LixyChick]

Geezzzzzz oh man!

I agree with Lil about the "capitals" thing!! It's hard to read your blended post. It's not mandatory...but it does make for a better read!

And...I agree with everyone else that this chick is BAD NEWS!

She called you to tell you not to be at the same place she was...then calls to invite you there? She's playing you like a fiddle (not a violin) dude. Run...don't walk...far, far away!

As to finding new girls...be yourself. You sound like a nice enough guy with good intuition so just be yourself.

[Steph]

Wow, that was a lot of drama for a few meetings, wasn't it?

As for meeting people, go volunteer, join groups that interest you and just relax. Just enjoy yourself and see what happens.

[daywalker22]

Thanks everyone and sorry about the capitals.

[Aqua]

Let me be another to say 'Be yourself'. Don't try really hard to impress ladies. You can't make someone into the right one for you. They either are, or they are not. Start talking to women and you'll get an idea pretty quick if they are someone worth pursuing a relationship with. If not, you can move on. No sense trying to make it work with someone when it's not going to, there's a lot of people out there.

[Concubine]

Biggest hint I can give you for picking up girls is to put yourself into situations where you meet new people, Groups, activities, parties, anything that gets you out and about Other than that it's just practice practice practice, best part is, by getting out and about doing things, not only will you have more opportunity to meet people, but you'll have more things to talk about when you do talk to someone

[Mark Vieth]

You know it strikes me that she is very odd. First she says that she doesn't want to be with you, invites you and your friends out she dances with someone to get you jealous, you dance with someone and she goes off the handle. The phrase "what's good for goose is good for...." comes to mind here. Sounds to me like she is immature even though she has a kid she is trying to play games. Seriously tell her to stay away and to leave you alone, tell her to stop leaving messages etc.