Have you been faithful?

[Loulabelle]

There are lots of people at Pixies who seem to be in really great relationships and I can't imagine many of you lovely people cheating (by which I mean having a sexual/romantic relationship with someone besides your partner without your partner's knowledge and/or consent - open relationships/swinging don't count, in my book)

Having said that, when you look at the wider society, it seems that at some point or other, pretty much everyone seems to have cheated while in a major relationship, so, what I want to know (in poll form so it's totally anonymous) is how many people have cheated on their partner/spouse?

This isn't about the rights and wrongs of it and I don't expect people to post their confessions, just an honest answer in the poll will do. Just trying to see how many people really manage to stay faithful to try to gauge what our chances are as a couple. Seems to me, that if most people don't manage it, then it's an near impossible goal to live up to.

Oh and you can tick all that apply to you. :D

[osuche]

OK - So I will weigh in on this in public, too. Mr Osuche and I are monogamous. We've been married for 2.5 years, and I've been a good, good girl....although not without some temptations.

I've managed to muddle through and I intend to keep muddling, though.

[dicksbro]

Never cheated on my wife and never expect too. Today's the 47th anniversary of the day we met and next month we'll celebrate our 44th wedding anniversary. I think we're going to make it. :)

I guess I know when I've got a good thing. :boink:

[Jude30]

Never cheated, been very tempted and came close but stayed faithful in the end.

I think another question is what do you consider cheating. I used to be friends with one couple who considered flirting cheating, where as I think anything short of sexual contact without your partners consent cheating.

[Oldfart]

Not this time around.

[Pita]

I never physically cheated. I did emotionally cheat. I think that is just as wrong and will never allow myself to that again. Even though, I'm incredibly happy with the outcome.

[Eastern]

I have never cheated on my husband. Fidelity is very important to us as we met when i was still married and in an abusive relationship. He is my soulmate and love of my life.. i know icky icky love :loveshowe

[gekkogecko]

Cheated? No. But I'm polyamorous. Big difference.

[WildIrish]

Cheated? No. But I'm polyamorous. Big difference.


:blink:

[cherrypie7788]

I haven't cheated on my CURRENT partner.......but I have cheated on guys WITH my current partner.

And I have cheated in the past...but I stick by my "excuse", cheating is a state of the heart, not the body. I didn't cheat because I was horny, I cheated because I was unhappy or unappreciated.

The way things are in my relationship right now, I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend and I only see him about 6 days a month. Imagine how hard that is.

[Loulabelle]

Thanks fr the honest responses everyone! So it looks like we're a fairly faithful bunch....more of us have been unfaithful in the past than with our current partners....I wonder if that means we're all with the right people now, or whether it's a matter of time....the thing is, no-one really knows what's around the corner, so no-one can answer that question. A lot of us only tend to know we're with the wrong person, when someone else comes along and shows us how much more there is to life....

As you can see, Motherhood is making me contemplate fidelity in relationships in a way I never thought about before....

[mikaylasmummy]

Nope I have never cheated on any of my partners current or past. Whats the point really your only going to get found out in the end.
If your really considering cheating then personally I think you shouldn't be with your partner but that's my opinion

[cherrypie7788]

Nope I have never cheated on any of my partners current or past. Whats the point really your only going to get found out in the end.

I have to disagree. I've never been found out.

[jay-t]

34 years and still counting I have never cheated ,but I have come close and had to stop and think about it.And I havent made the wrong choice yet .Maybe someday we will catch up to DB!

[rtctfield]

I've been married for 14 years. Never once even had a serious opportunity to cheat- until recently. I am seriously considering getting a new job to get out of a dangerous, tempting situation.

[Loulabelle]

rtctfield - I think you have to weigh up all that you'd have to lose from choosing to cheat. If you don't want to lose what you have, just think of that each time you look at the object of your temptation. And if you feel your existing relationship is over, then the respectful thing to do for the woman who's given you 14 years is to leave first, then consider entering into a new relationship.

[rtctfield]

I appreciate that, Loulabelle. Problem is that I KNOW that I don't want a new relationship. That's not the issue. It's purely sexual. I know that sounds shallow, but the intense tempation is very real. We never, ever see each other out of work, and the workplace itself just lends itself to acting on the temptation. So, I think a new job will fix it. Like I said, never before in 14 years has there been temptation, opportunity, etc.

[jseal]

Loulabelle,

I was a serial lover until I hooked up with Dearsweet. After that I became a single lover.

[Oldfart]

jseal

Sowing my wild oats made me a cereal lover.

[WildIrish]

jseal

Sowing my wild oats made me a cereal lover.


Hmmmmm.....sounds like another one of your Trix. :p

[IowaMan]

I've sampled many different cereals in my time but I've always been faithful to whichever lady is in my life at the time. Can't say I've always been given that same courtesy though.

[souls_cry2000]

I've never cheated on Chrissy and don't ever plan to.

[nwnnguy]

I have cheated in past, but once I made my vows, I have tried very hard not to cheat

but I still have a weakness for, how do you say, "loose" women

I flirt a lot, but usually pull back when it starts going anywhere

[marval]

absolutely!

[GusAspar]

I've ticked "No, I haven't cheated on my current partner" but that's a bit out of date because we've just divorced (after 27 years). I did meet and have sex with a woman I contacted via the internet a few months ago, but that was after my wife had started divorce proceedings.

Meanwhile, onwards and upwards...

[cherrypie7788]

I'm beginning to think that maybe some folks arent wired for monogamy.

[LixyChick]

The definition of "cheating" is so personally interpreted. To some, I may have cheated...to Mr. Lixy, he trusts my heart!

Interpret that^^^^^^^

[CunningLinguist]

I can faithfully see I've never cheated, and never will cheat.

Though when I was younger and much hornier, I did sleep with a few married women.

[Wicked Wanda]

I'm beginning to think that maybe some folks arent wired for monogamy.
I'm not, and I know it.
I have tried it, and was desperately miserable. Worse, I didn't find out until the end I was the ONLY one being monogamous.

I am what I am. Slut, wildchild (not anywhere near being a child anymore, but the old name stuck), "roundheels", "Little Easy" (not a whore, don't do it for money), and other less pleasant names, but I am me.

WW

[IowaMan]

The definition of "cheating" is so personally interpreted. To some, I may have cheated...to Mr. Lixy, he trusts my heart!

Interpret that^^^^^^^
That is basically all I've ever asked out of a relationship. I'd be open to an open relationship but it becomes not faithful when the things start happening behind my back. BTDT and it's not fun at all.