What's your read on this? Just finished blind date...

[-=Kenshin=-]

So I was out and having a good time with this girl...went mini golfing and then decided to eat nearby (her choice)...anyhow during the dinner one of her friends w/her b/f dropped on in and noticed her and litierally sat next to us. A few hello, what are you doing here type of deal etc were exchanged...

anyhow it felt kinda of awkward on my end as i didn't know any of these people but whatever. We still finished our dinner and had a good convo and I walked her back to her car and g'nite type of thing.

Afterwards when i got into the car and thought about it more...could that situation with her friends showing up...could it have been staged just in case the date was going badly she could bail and get out of it etc.?

I dunno what to think now as it was an awkward moment and i've never had that done to me before...i've had the phone call and oh i've gotta goto the washroom to make a phone call to make sure everything is alrite but this...

what's your read on it?

she did cover the bill for both of us as she insisted given i paid for the activities earlier.

[Steph]

If the date was going well, I would have perhaps asked her in a joking manner if her friends showed up as security. If the date wasn't going well, then I'd just let sleeping dogs lie.

[Oldfart]

And if the date was going really badly, wake up one of the dogs and take it out instead.

[Lilith]

She's smart.

[Booger]

If it was staged it looks like you passed. She let you take her home insted of getting her friends to do it.

A piece of advice don't over analyse every date so much. You seem to have a good time on the date but then after you start trying to pick apart what happened. If you have a good time ask for a second date. If they had a good time they'll say yes. It will be hard to get to far in a relationship if you analyse every little thing that happens.

[Eastern]

truely if a blind date she was probably playing it safe and smart. give the woman some credit for brains.

[Mark Vieth]

It's not such a bad thing as it gives you an insight into who she surrounds herself with. If her friends are ok people then you might be able to find out more about her through them.

[Mr. 3G]

""don't over analyze every date so much... ""

They ARE women after all and hence completely BEYOND our scope of understanding or analyzing in any logical format that makes sense to US. We just have to hang on for the ride, hope they like us to some degree and let let us have a little bit every once in a while.

[Loulabelle]

Oh, I DIDN'T just read that.....

*Walks away to go and be illogical somewhere else, musing on whether or not to 'let my man have a little bit' this evening*

[mayhem1978]

Im with most of the people here. If the date was going well, and it seems it was, then call for a second. If she didnt enjoy it then she will say no. BUT as she let you take her home then i feel that the date went well.

Sometimes you just have to trust your gut.

[osuche]

Oh, I DIDN'T just read that.....

*Walks away to go and be illogical somewhere else, musing on whether or not to 'let my man have a little bit' this evening*



Amen, sister friend

[Glyndwr]

Oh, I DIDN'T just read that.....

*Walks away to go and be illogical somewhere else, musing on whether or not to 'let my man have a little bit' this evening*

WooHoo

"Fussy's gonna get lucky, Fussy's gonna get lucky" :rofl:

[wyndhy]

considering it was a blind date, i have to agree that she'd be foolish indeed not to have some sort of support. after all, you could have been some nut who got all handsy, slipped her a mickey and shoved her in your trunk for later use and abuse.

[Booger]

considering it was a blind date, i have to agree that she'd be foolish indeed not to have some sort of support. after all, you could have been some nut who got all handsy, slipped her a mickey and shoved her in your trunk for later use and abuse.



SSHHH wyndhy don't give away all my old dating secerts

[wyndhy]

whoops...i thought you combed the high schools. :D

[123pickme3]

I think the replies you have gotten say it all don't over analyze. If you had a good time and want to go out with her again call and ask her if she says yes then she must have enjoyed you.

[Oldfart]

"And that, your honour, is how this 15 year old girl came to be in the trunk of my car."

[LixyChick]

I'll go a step further...

Since it was a blind date, someone you and she knows set it up or you went without pics on a site...right? Maybe her girlfriend was just being nosey and wanted to see what you looked like!!!???

You have to tell us this first though (in order to figure this out). Did she know you were going to that particular mini golf place prior to meeting up. She would have had to know the area to pick the place you had dinner. But curiously...mini golf can take a half hour up to two or more, depending on who's in front of you and how fast (good) you play. Your date would have had to keep this date on a tight schedule to make sure you and she were at the restaurant in time. at the exact time, for the girfriend show. So...if you spoke with her during the game and asked her to suggest a place to eat and then she went to the ladies room after the game, or as you got to the restaurant, she could have called her friend and told her to come check you out. Or...her friend could have told her before she went out that she wanted to check you out if the opportunity arose at some time during the evening.

OR...it could all have been just a coincidence and you are reading in way too much!

I've got an idea! Why not ask her?????

With a smile and a nudge you can be honest right out of the batters box and tell her you've been curious!

[Oldfart]

This seems to be one of those times (like watching Futurama) where you just put the brain into neutral and see where the experience takes you.

You need to forget that relationships have a downstream component and live in the "now" for a while.

If a date can't play that game, she's not likely to be THE ONE anyway.

Chill out.

[-=Kenshin=-]

^^ that's an interesting and direct approach.

I think I will bring it up once I give her a call and see what her reaction is hahah ;)

The game of mini golf went by pretty fast. It was actually 16 holes instead of 18 cuz there was a goose laying eggs on the course so they closed down 2 holes cuz of it. I think we finished the course in 35mins or so. I don't recall her pulling out her cell phone but she did goto the washroom at the restaurant...BEFORE her friends showed up...so it just might be...lol.

But to answer some of your questions...She knew where we were going for mini golf as it's an entertainment complex where we met up. Come to think of it now...it's leaning more and more like she made a call in the washroom to her g/f to say "come check this cutie out" hahah.

I'm not going to make a big deal out of it but I will tease her about it on the 2nd date if i get one. We'll find out when I call her tomorrow as I like waiting 2 days.

[wyndhy]

why do you wait two days?

[-=Kenshin=-]

Well the reasons are...

If I call the day of in the evening it'll sound desperate which i'm not (or i'm really digging her which isn't the case...I like her but doesn't mean i'm all crazy about her type of deal)

If I call her the following day it feels too soon to be talking about it. I want to give her time to think about what we did and reflect upon it. I also like to sit back and think about what we did also. Hang out with friends, maybe talk about it with buddies etc. If I called her the next day it might also give the impression that hey, this guy doesn't have a life type of deal and he's just always after the 2nd outing (my 2 cents anyways).

Now if i called on the 2nd day in the evening it gives time to clear out the thoughts and all. Not only that you can also bring up some topics that were talked about and see if she remembers (yes guys test girls too lol). But it also gives you sometime to iron out what you want to do for the 2nd date. Cuz if you went out on say Sunday, wait 2 days it'll be Tuesday and you'll get an idea if something is coming up for Friday or the weekend etc.

What do you normally do Wyndhy?

[Loulabelle]

Wyndhy's married so hopefully she's got beyond all the game playing and 'testing' that you're talking about.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you're not in High School anymore so forget all the 'calling on the first day sounds too needy' bull...if she likes you and you like her then that's all that matters. When you call her won't make an ounce of difference to that, it's just your way of kidding your brain into thinking it has some control over what this girl thinks of you.

Hands up all married people here who found their love once they stopped 'playing the game' and started doing what comes naturally?

:wave:

[wyndhy]

never did play the game much, even in high school. i am what i am, and that's all that i am. if i look stupid or eager or uninterested or skeptical, it's prolly cause i am. :D

[WildIrish]

You know to call right after the date ends "when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible".

[Eastern]

ME !!!! :loveshowe


Wyndhy's married so hopefully she's got beyond all the game playing and 'testing' that you're talking about.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you're not in High School anymore so forget all the 'calling on the first day sounds too needy' bull...if she likes you and you like her then that's all that matters. When you call her won't make an ounce of difference to that, it's just your way of kidding your brain into thinking it has some control over what this girl thinks of you.

Hands up all married people here who found their love once they stopped 'playing the game' and started doing what comes naturally?

:wave:

[themi01]

Wyndhy's married so hopefully she's got beyond all the game playing and 'testing' that you're talking about.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you're not in High School anymore so forget all the 'calling on the first day sounds too needy' bull...if she likes you and you like her then that's all that matters. When you call her won't make an ounce of difference to that, it's just your way of kidding your brain into thinking it has some control over what this girl thinks of you.

Hands up all married people here who found their love once they stopped 'playing the game' and started doing what comes naturally?

:wave: hands up

[Mark Vieth]

Blind dates....I was always thought that when you were on a blind date you had to wear blindfolds, that would be funny when you think about it. Trying to get to know each other in darkness and only able to listen them talk. Having sex with them would be akin to doing it with the lights out. :line:

[cherrypie7788]

Blind dates....I was always thought that when you were on a blind date you had to wear blindfolds, that would be funny when you think about it. Trying to get to know each other in darkness and only able to listen them talk. Having sex with them would be akin to doing it with the lights out. :line:

I reckon that'd add a whole degree of difficulty to mini golf







:p

[Oldfart]

Back to the serious side for just a moment, a call thanking her for a wonderful time does not make you "needy".

You don't need to broach another date, just show appreciation.

It makes you look a little more together (and more desirable).