Virginity, and losing it.

[LilAngie]

well I'm just here to ask, what girls think of losing their virginity? what goes through your mind when it happens? what reasons you choose to do it. is as horrible as I'm told? why do guys and girls make a deal of getting it over with? what you thought of your first times. and anything I may have not asked as far as giving a future woman good advice please.....ok, now the guys, I want to know what makes a virgin such a thing for you all. why guys dont seem to have a problem asking over and over for sex with us? whats in it for a guy to have a virgin? does it even bother a guy ( be honest ) to have sex with a virgin? and what in your opinions is too long to hold on to virginity? and anything else you guys want to add. please respond soon! thanks Angela.

[Lilith]

It was not how I imagined. I had all those silly fantasies generations of fairy tales drill in your brain. Losing my virginity was a let down but since then, I've learned to trust myself and others enough to allow them to become intimate partners. Something that lusty teenage fumbling, doesn't hold a candle to.

[LilAngie]

I dont quite understand???

[cherrypie7788]

I was 18 when I lost mine. I certainly didnt rush to "get it over with" and honestly it was a fine night. Not because of the sex, because of who I was with and the feelings we had.

You should hold onto your virginity as long as you feel the need to. It's a personal decision.

[LilAngie]

I'm looking for more answers please!!!

[cherrypie7788]

Then maybe you should have been more specific!

[Lilith]

Maybe you should review the answers you got the last time you asked. http://216.150.68.37/forums/showthread.php?t=27482

[LilAngie]

well open to anymore words of wisdom?!?!

[osuche]

Direct snippets of wisdom:
- Use a condom
- Pick a man you trust, who won't talk about you to your friends
- Don't expect the first time to be perfect (they never are)

What was I thinking about? Well, the pain (he was kinda large) and also about how much I loved him and wanted to share this with him.

Does it hurt? Depends. Some women...yes. Others say no.


Bottom line? Every person's experience is unique.

[Neige]

I was 19 when I lost my virginity. (In fact, I was 19 when I got my first kiss - but that's another thread.) When it happened, I was ready - the man I was with was quite older than me, and I trusted him not to hurt me. For me, making love to Lake for the first time wasn't "losing my virginity" - it was making love to a really cool guy with whom I was honestly falling in love. When it happened, there was a moment of "Oh, is that it?" (I had broken my hymen myself years ago), before all such silly thoughts left my head.

Why did I do it? Because I wanted to. Because we wanted to. Because his fingers and mouth made me feel so damn good I knew it would be fantastic. Because he (genuinely) cared about me.

How old are you, LilAngie?

[LilAngie]

well Neige will you get upset??

[Neige]

Will I get upset if what?

[LilAngie]

i sent you a message neige!

[Neige]

I don't understand why I'd be upset - I'm merely asking because the advice for which you are looking could vary according to your age.

[LilAngie]

may we talk privately away from here pleae neige?!!

[Neige]

Can you get into chat? I am there now.

[LilAngie]

ill try to yes

[IowaMan]

Not really sure what you're looking for but I'll give it a go.

Does it bother a guy to have sex with a virgin? I'm taking it that you're wondering if a guy would feel bad for having a one-night stand with someone who is a virgin, would he feel guilty about it. Knowing me, I probably would but I don't do one-nighters so that really wouldn't be an issue. I would think though that it sort of depends upon the situation. I mean, normally I would think a man would want to make a woman's first time very memorable for her and have it mean something in a relationship. But if the situation came about where she was really wanting it and not seeming to care that it was a one time fling then I can see where maybe it would be easier for him to put the sensitive side away and just go ahead with it.

If you were meaning in general does it bother a guy to have sex with a virgin then I guess I'd say no. There must've been some sort of emotional and physical connection there that made him desire the lady in that manner in the first place. About the only time I can see where it would bother a guy is if it was somebody he simply didn't care about. Then again, that's just speaking from the experiences I've had. I've only been with one virgin and I didn't feel badly about it at all. It was also my first time and we were in love.

Guys are always asking you to have sex with them because you're a virgin? :confused:

I obviously can only speak for myself but I don't find that it's a big deal to have sex with a virgin just because she's a virgin. It's not a goal of mine to find a virgin and "make a woman of her" so to speak. If I find someone that is a virgin and things would end up that I would eventually be her first then that's fine but to want to have sex with her simply because she's a virgin, nope can't say that makes sense to me. My advice would be that you really don't want to be having your first time with someone who would be wanting you simply because you are a virgin, I wouldn't think anyway.

About all I can really say is just make sure it's something you really want to do and that you're with someone that you really care about and be safe.

[Jude30]

Looks like I lost $5.

[VeryLonelyMan]

I think the main attraction with trying to "get" a virgin is that sex is that whole "being manly" thing. Was watching a video in my sociology class talking about the guise that boys and teens have to take on to appear to be "one of the guys". And while it didn't discuss it on the video, sex popped into my brain on this topic. And I see it as the typical "I scored dude," "Dude you rule" crap that is always around a high school. Sex is just another gauge by some to show how big and bad they are. And regretfully "bagging a virgin" would be seen as a quite a trophy. I'm not saying it is right, but I just recall my high school days and that was what I saw. Kinda like the hunter bagging a elephant or something rare or something like that. Something to gloat to your friends about and stroke your ego.

If you are thinking about losing your virginity take what osuche said to heart. Use protection and find someone you truly trust, but that doesn't mean you can't trust men. It's just that sometimes we have only enough blood flow for one brain at a time.

[mikaylasmummy]

Loosing my virginity was not what I expected either. I thought it would be alot more painful then what is was my friends at the time who had already lost it kept on telling me how painful it was, but when it happend for me it was the complete oppisite. I was 15 at the time

[Eastern]

Hi gang i was 21 and lost my virginity to my husband..first one..Can i say damn that should have showed me and not married him. it was over in seconds and it was not wonderful throughout marriage. I can say now i have found my soul mate who make me laugh and cry and smile in bed. all things work out for a reasonvb