Dominating Him

[Miss-Honey-Bee]

You know, for a young thing, he's wild!

He's asked me to domainate him, I've had a go, but don't really know where to start. he's very into being teased, as well as the pleasure plain thing.

Any tips? x

[Lilith]

look online for bdsm surveys and see what he means by dominate first

[Miss-Honey-Bee]

Thanks Lil. After we both looked at that and experimented a bit, we're getting more and more into BDSM. Lots of fun! I subscribed to sexandsubmission.com last week and we're loving it.

Photos coming soon... x

[Lilith]

What's something that you have tried so far that you like, and something you did not like as much?

[Miss-Honey-Bee]

I bought leather wrist cuffs and a butt plug yesterday. I used both on him later that afternoon.

We now have a 'toy box' which contains: A whip (just a little pink one), metal cuffs (we're on our 3rd pair), leather cuffs, my vibe, a butt plug, durex tingle lube, clothes pegs, bondage tape, a blindfold, a cane, candles (drip, drip, yum) some porn and a cock ring. I love all of our new toys!

I find it quite difficult to be so assertive, I admit, I'm more naturally submissive (which we've toyed with too, he's very naturally dominant).

I really enjoyed dripping candle wax on him, while he was tied and blindfolded, then rubbing ice over his skin.

I also enjoyed sitting on top of him (he's restrained) and playing with myself, inches from his face, knowing how much he loves oral, knowing he can feel my heat, but not touch me. If he touches me without permission, I'll get the clothes pegs out.

Something I didn't enjoy, nipple clamps. Neither of us can take the intensity.

[Lilith]

Have you tried adjusting the clothes pegs and using them as nipple clamps?

[Miss-Honey-Bee]

I did think about fiddling with them, we both tried them on our nipples and again, it was too intense.

The more we do, the more pain we enjoy, so it seems. So who knows.

Oh, what fun!

[Pita]

I find it quite difficult to be so assertive, I admit, I'm more naturally submissive (which we've toyed with too, he's very naturally dominant).


I'm naturally submissive as well, but we have switched a couple of times and it's been lots of fun. We once switched for an entire weekend which allowed us both to really get into our roles.

Everything you mentioned is great. You could have some fun with a good ole mind fuck. Have him bound and blindfolded and tell him that you think a little knife play would be fun. *Before this begins, put a butter knife in the freezer ;) * Give him lots of teasing, especially about what a knife might feel like gliding over his cock or balls. Get that cold butter knife and fake him out good.

I know a friend who did this, and she said he screamed like a girl when she ran that cold knife over his goodies, but he also loved it! Fear is something that lots of people get into and it can be great fun to play with. :nod: