Foreplay

[Jax]

What do you think. As you get older. Becomes less important? More important?

In my marriage (almost 18 years), I don't think we do much just kissing and 'making out' really. Get a little warmed up and into action from there.

Works for me, but I wonder if I should focus more on it for her. Can't tell, she never says anything about it.

[WildIrish]

I think it's just as important.

But as our lives get busier and busier, and sex becomes something to fit in around the rest of our "things to do", foreplay takes a less significant role.

I also think foreplay is so much more than physical contact. It can start with a coy glance in the morning and last all day in IM's.

[Irezumi Kiss]

I usually don't think of foreplay as "foreplay." Or maybe I should say that I don't really consider it a separate issue from the "actual" sex. It's all a part of a whole when you get right down to it.

Trying to compartmentalize it as a prequisite makes it seem like a checklist to run down before you get to the "real" stuff, IMO...that can make it seem like a chore...

For example, I like massaging and feeling a woman's body. I love running my hands up and down her flesh and muscles and all those wonderful good bits a woman has, usually with a bit of scented oil. She might think that's foreplay and technically speaking, it is. But me, I just like doing it just to do it.

[Lilith]

define "coy"

[IowaMan]

Not married, never have been, but I cannot imagine foreplay being separated from the actual act. Sort of the grease that gets the whole thing rolling kind of thing for me.

[osuche]

Depends.

SOme days I love foreplay. Kiss the back of my neck or my shoulders and you have me ashiver. Stroke the insides of my ankles. Taste the tip of my tongue.

Other times...I enjoy sliding onto his hard cock, while I am still dry and unexcited. The shock to the system gets your blood flowing quickly.

I think it's a shame when foreplay is *always* gone, rather than sometimes absent.

[IowaMan]

Depends.

SOme days I love foreplay. Kiss the back of my neck or my shoulders and you have me ashiver. Stroke the insides of my ankles. Taste the tip of my tongue.

Other times...I enjoy sliding onto his hard cock, while I am still dry and unexcited. The shock to the system gets your blood flowing quickly.

I think it's a shame when foreplay is *always* gone, rather than sometimes absent.
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[Glyndwr]

"Foreplay" is still extremely important but the line has become blurred. Sometimes the foreplay stretches out and becomes everything. Gratification for both of us doesn't have to be through penetrative sex just mutual satisfaction, the warmth of someone your adore and your inner mind saying "WOW that was fucking magic!!"