Cheating

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Do you or would you accept your partner cheating on you???
Would you ever cheat???

I have been cheated on in previous relationships and I no wait at all accept this behaivour in my relationships. My theory is if you fel the need to cheat as you are unhappy in a relationship why not speak to your partner and break it off, so no one gets hurt?

One other point that I feel I would like to make is if you hve cheated on a partner in the past....

What bought it on?
Were you unhappy??
Looking for something new?

Or is there another reason that you cheated.

I beleive that when cheaters get cheated on it is Karma..

What are your theorys on this topic??

[Lilith]

I have never have never cheated and consider myself to be poly so I am not sure where my feelings come from.

I think people cheat for a myriad of reasons and to say it's one thing would be odd considering the factors that could be involved.

[Oldfart]

As Lil said, cheating is defined within relationships differently.

I cheat a tiny bit every time I see a desirable woman and go "Hmmmmm".

Cheating for me is doing something deliberately you know will hurt someone who has reason to believe you won't.

[Loulabelle]

To understand cheating, one first must understand attraction and that's something that is beyond most of our capabilities.

This site is full of theories and questions about what attracts us to someone else and the answer is, there is no answer. It's as complex as the biology that makes us human.

What I do believe, is that for some people, for whatever reason, being faithful is not a possibility. I think it's important that people like that recognise it in themselves and are open about it with potential partners. There is no point trying to fit a square peg in a round hole, yet many people consistently enter into monogamous agreements which they then dishonour as they do not know themselves well enough to realise that being faithful is not a viable option for them. Yes time, and 'the right person' may well change that, but why bother hurting lots of people along the line until you have found that person or reached that point in life where you are ready to settle down?

[dm383]

To understand cheating, one first must understand attraction and that's something that is beyond most of our capabilities.....

... What I do believe, is that for some people, for whatever reason, being faithful is not a possibility. I think it's important that people like that recognise it in themselves and are open about it with potential partners. There is no point trying to fit a square peg in a round hole, yet many people consistently enter into monogamous agreements which they then dishonour as they do not know themselves well enough to realise that being faithful is not a viable option for them. Yes time, and 'the right person' may well change that, but why bother hurting lots of people along the line until you have found that person or reached that point in life where you are ready to settle down?

As so often, Lou, I think you've hit the nail right on it's nasty metal head!
As I advance into my (dotage!) middle-age years, I look back at some of the times I cheated - or wanted to - and wonder, why? Why did I do what I did, why did I cause pain and hurt to people I (was supposed to) love? And I say "people", because I don't believe it's ever just one person you hurt when you cheat - it's also the person you cheat with, and anyone else caught on the periphery, in my case a (at the time) 8 year-old daughter.

And guess what - I am still not sure why it happened, not really. All I know is, this time feels different - I don't have any urge to cheat, unless you count being here as cheating!!, and I don't believe I will in the future. (Above mentioned daughter loves my lady to bits - she'd kill me!!) Maybe I've just grown up!!

I'm going to buzz off now - rambling again!

DM

[dicksbro]

Using the definition, would you have sex with someone other than your spouse/so without them knowing and approving of what you're doing ... the answer is: No I haven't, no I"m not, and, no I wouldn't.

Like OF, I like to flirt and appreciate seeing a very pretty lady like our Pixie gals ... but I don't think of that as cheating any more than my wife saying something like Tom Selleck is a handsome bloke.

[LixyChick]

"I DID NOT have sexual relations with that woman"!

We define "cheating"...each unto ourselves. Cheating is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore, "it" being so personal a definition, I'll go by...if I have to hide it, it's cheating!

Now...I don't include perusing the internet or sharing pics and thoughts here at Pixies. But then...hubby knows about Pixies and cares not that I share myself here. Then again, I've "shared myself" in other situations on the net that I didn't tell him about and yet there was no "real" physical contact...so I don't consider it cheating.

WTF was the question? I'm gonna need a break from these bright lights and a drink of cool water please!

*giggle*

Carry on!

[dm383]

"I DID NOT have sexual relations with that woman"!

We define "cheating"...each unto ourselves. Cheating is in the eye of the beholder. Therefore, "it" being so personal a definition, I'll go by...if I have to hide it, it's cheating!

Now...I don't include perusing the internet or sharing pics and thoughts here at Pixies. But then...hubby knows about Pixies and cares not that I share myself here. Then again, I've "shared myself" in other situations on the net that I didn't tell him about and yet there was no "real" physical contact...so I don't consider it cheating.

WTF was the question? I'm gonna need a break from these bright lights and a drink of cool water please!

*giggle*

Carry on!

Darling Lixy......... I LOVE it when you giggle!!......... and, you've succeeded in confuddling me once again!! ....... more power to ya!!

DM