An Ex

[AngelicVampires]

I was talking with a friend a while back and we got to discussing what is acceptable "behavior" with an ex...so I figured I'd throw this one out into Pixie territory and see what you think.

[Lilith]

You forgot "murder them"

[AngelicVampires]

Hehe....sometimes I see that as acceptable behavior

[lizzardbits]

I think that the reason why I couldn't make a clean break from an ex was because he was a fuck buddy. we were on and off again in our relationship with each other for years.

The worst thing that I did was to keep having sex with him. It wasn't until we found other people, that the clean break was made.

[AngelicVampires]

Although there are few votes, the poll results are interesting thus far.

[wyndhy]

frankly, i think they all fall within what i would clinically and scientifically term as screwy behavior (zip it! no pun intended :p) i can't say any of them are least appropriate cause i think when referring to an ex, they are all inappropriate

[AngelicVampires]

I agree. She and I were discussing why (if things ended on good terms i.e. "still friends" and still love each other) was it wrong to stop. I'm not good at explaining things to her...so what should I tell her?

[wyndhy]

that friends don't have sex, lovers do and if you're lovers then you aren't exes.

[AngelicVampires]

that friends don't have sex, lovers do and if you're lovers then you aren't exes.

Oooo..now that's a quote to remember!

[wyndhy]

that isn't to say that lovers can't be friends, too. in the best of relationships, they are. but you can't have sex on a regular basis with a friend and not be lovers of some sort...call it fuck buddies...whatever, but i say if you are, then the relationship can't be categorized as over.

[txgrneyes]

My only advice is for her to remember :


They are EX's for a reason.


Just because things are good right now..."friends"... doesn't mean they have changed. Being lovers with an ex means your settleling for the little crumbs that they manage to throw at you. YOU deserve better than that. You deserve someone that will put you first above all else. If nothing else but to show your ex that someone can treat you with respect and even better than he/she could. :shrug:

[jbh3]

My ex and I would have sex on occasion after our break.It didn't last very long.It didn't take me long to realize that she was still a Bitch.And, it didn't take her long to realize I was still an Asshole.