Nudity...cause and effects

[WildIrish]

I live in a situation that I'm pretty sure is uncommon to most.

Mrs. WI hates clothing. Once the kids are in bed (around 8), she sheds her clothes. Now that summer is here, and with it the hot weather, she doesn't even need a throw/blanket. Don't get me wrong, for I'm not complaining, but she just doesn't understand what that does to me. I love her, and her body excites me. Her breasts are beautiful and they're just sitting there commanding my look. I can't take it anymore. I get horny and I want to touch them, to nuzzle them, to suck her nipple into my mouth and feel it harden against my tongue. She gets annoyed with me, because apparently...she should be allowed to sit around naked without being subjected to my manly reaction.

I've tried everything from coming right out and telling her "Please cover up, because I can't help but get turned on by your body and it annoys you." to sitting next to her on the couch naked and stroking my cock while watching the tv (pretending she's not even there). Nothing helps.

I don't know if I'm looking for suggestions as much as I'm looking for some kind of insight into her thought process.

Women - Do/would you do this? How do/would you handle his reactions?

Men - How do/would you react?

Please tell me I'm not the only one this happens to...every fucking night.

[osuche]

(((((WI))))))

If I am naked and in between tasks (say...showering and getting dressed) sometimes I do rebuff Mr Osuche. I am so damn Type A that if I am in the middle of something...it's often hard to distract me. However, if I am naked and parading around in front of you, you can be sure that I have sex on my mind. :hot:

One thing that *will* get me annoyed, however, on certain occasions....is too much nipple play. My nipples are very sensitive (like every woman's). And depending on the time of the month, over-stimulation can be a very big issue. And too much stimulation *hurts* and gets me out of the mood.

One way to seduce me...always...is to caress my skin, kiss me, nibble my neck. But stay away from my boobies unless I indicate that attention is warranted there!

Perhaps trying a different (non-boobie) approach works? Damn....if you sat next to me and stroked your cock I couldn't think about any TV show!

[WildIrish]

The issue is not nipple play...it's attitude. When she gets naked each night she's not looking for sex, she's getting comfortable. I'm supposed to just understand that she's nude as a preference and not seeking sex, and curb my desires. While I do know that her nudity is not meant to entice me...I can't help but get aroused.

What bothers me is that she's allowed to be naked...and I'm not allowed to get excited by that. And the fact that I can't help it is my problem, not hers.

So is this a sane thought process for her to have or is she being extremely selfish?

[Loren]

I'm inclined to take your side of it.

You shouldn't do unneccessary things you know will arouse desire in your partner if you're not prepared to follow through.

[wyndhy]

i think your wife has a point. i realize it's torture for you and of course any involuntary reaction on the part of a certain...erm...prominent protuberance is unhidable. but you’re wife just doesn’t like clothes. and you know she doesn’t feel turned on just because she’s naked. and she doesn’t get naked to turn you on. it's a function of comfort, not foreplay.

at the same time, it isn’t exactly fair to you. and for there to be issues about you getting turned on...may i be frank? :D that's crap. and you should tell her so. can't help it. get used to it. period. end of conversation.

so compromise, maybe? if your wife could stay clothed and comfortable, she should – at least every once in a while. and when she MUST be nekkid but doesn’t want your advances, then you should keep them to yourself…and that includes diddling yourself next to her on the couch :D or going on about how sexy she is all nekkid like that and you jus' wanna jump her bones.

for the part about her frustration when you tell her that her body excites you...dude, that's tuff cause you just can’t get her to see that it’s true. i know how much she turns you on, and how much you tell her she turns you on, and how uncomfortable and provoked that makes her feel. perhaps you could tell her in a less overt way. use subtlety and hold back on saying stuff like, “you are the sexiest woman i know” too much. they’re pretty intimidating words, imo.

[WildIrish]

I think part of the problem is that she doesn't acknowledge my response as reasonable.

I'm not saying that I paw at her everytime I see flesh, but her nudity does not go unnoticed, and it leads to more of a sexual tone for the evening than there would be if she were dressed.

[osuche]

I'm still stuck on the thought of you stroking your cock while sitting on the couch....

I think she has a right to be comfy in her own home, but I also think that you have a right to be turned on by her body. Plus...if I were her, I'd be flattered that I was so irresistable! I suspect the root of the issue is a mis-matched sex drive....you are ready and she is not.

Perhaps you can work out a compromise with her? On Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays she can lounge nude unaccosted. Tuesdays and Thursdays her ass is yours. :yikes:

Or maybe a series of quickies will do it? :spin: I am *always* up for a quickie!

[osuche]

BTW....in this (at least :p ) your response is very reasonable.....nakedness turns most people on! (((WI)))

[imaginewithme]

Wow....

I would love to be sitting watching tv naked and knowing my husband couldn't control hisself just by seeing my naked body. I think I will cry right now knowing that that won't happen here. I think it's awesome after so many years of marriage (not sure how long) that just seeing your wife sitting there naked turns you on is awesome!

Sure, I can understand her side to, she's getting comfy, but let me tell you this much. If she was with a man that would say "why are you lying there naked, someone might see you thru the windows".....she'd appreciate your longing for her more!!!!

And like Osuche said, if I saw my man pull it out, hard and stroking, oh man would it be on!!!!

Wish I could help....honestly I wish I could :)

[WildIrish]

so compromise, maybe? if your wife could stay clothed and comfortable, she should – at least every once in a while


It's simply not going to happen. She will remain naked and I will be treated like a bad puppy for thinking she is sexy. Compromise only works when it's more than one party participating.

I understand that she's naked because she's more comfortable that way. I understand that just because she's naked doesn't mean she wants sex.

She doesn't understand, and I have to believe she doesn't understand because the alternative is that she doesn't care, that her nudity excites me, and she's unwilling to acknowledge it. She thinks it's unreasonable that I get turned on (at all or ever) by her constant state of undress, and that I really should be more mature than that. I've even gone so far as to tell her I refuse to apologize for finding my own nude wife sexy.

Sorry for what sounds like a rant, but some days it bugs me more than others. My intent for the post was more of a request for a peek into a woman's brain.

[WildIrish]

I'm less interested in reserving the right to rub one out than I am in not being thought less of because of my finding her nude body attractive.

Maybe I'm wrong. :confused:

Maybe I really should be able to see my wife nude and not get excited unless I know she wants sex.

[wyndhy]

nope. ^^^
i really don't get how she gets angry at you for your libido: if she's allowed to be free to do what she feels/wants with her body, then you are too.

i also don't have aclue about how to make her see that if she already doesn't or won't

you could just say, screw it. you'll never get it. forget it. i give up. you win. ive noticed that sometimes that gets the other person to see how unreasonable they're being about the whole thing.:D
sometimes not. :truce: :D

[WildIrish]

I could always tell her that I have an offer from IWM to switch places.


But something tells me that the thought of me wacking off in front of Mr. IWM won't help Mrs. WI understand my conundrum. :roflmao:

[imaginewithme]

I could always tell her that I have an offer from IWM to switch places.


But something tells me that the thought of me wacking off in front of Mr. IWM won't help Mrs. WI understand my conundrum. :roflmao:
Hell, in that case, I'm staying to watch!!!! :sad: :corn:

[imaginewithme]

Wonder what's going on at the WI household right now.....

[Oldfart]

I'll probably get smacked for this, but when did Mrs WI come to find being naked around you not sexual?

[Loulabelle]

I am naked a lot of the time at home....it's just natural and comfortable for me, however Fussy rarely gets excited by it. :(

He tends to wander around in just his boxers and I can't help but ogle his behind and the bulge in the front, and I find it difficult to keep my hands to myself, but unfortunately I don't provoke the same reaction in him. :(

At present, he's more likely to touch my tummy than any other part of me, since it's becoming increasingly difficult to miss. I can't help but think that he finds me less attractive since I've put on weight (before getting pregnant, I mean) however he denies this when I mention it to him.

Sometimes, I wonder if he's just become desensitised to the sight of my naked body, and perhaps I should cover up more....

[Casperr]

Hmmm.... ok.....

Well, as someone who has been to nudist beaches a bit and understands the nudist concept - being naked does not have to mean sex, which I think you understand. Sex is a matter of context - typically in western society that context is 'nudity', which is silly but then a lot of societies conceptions are.
I can go to a nudist beach and see lots of really really attractive women, but because I am not there for sex and neither are they, it doesn't turn me on. I don't get hard.
In the same manner if I was with someone at home and they were naked, just watching TV or doing something and it was clear they weren't doing it to be sexy, same thing. Not arousing. If they're naked and looking at me going "I want to wrap my lips around your hot, glistening hard cock and suck you to heaven before you pound into me from behind you manly, sex-machine, ANIMAL!" well then look at how Mr. Penis has suddenly swollen to the size and firmness of a giant baseball bat.

I'm not meaning to say you're wrong, WI, for being turned on by your wife - quite the contrary, I can understand it and I've no doubt you've made her know just how hot you think she is. But a little self-control, I think, and you can know when to get the horn and when to discuss poetry.
Assuming, that is, you like poetry.

Having said that, there are times when, quite frankly, I'm horny. And I want sex. That's different to "every night I see my wife's boobies and I wanna explode all over them".

Just my thoughts, and hey I'm probably being all prudish or something. Just let the big head rule the little head MOST of the time, that's all I'm saying.

And Loulabelle you know you're super-hot.

CasperTG

[dicksbro]

Men - How do/would you react?

Wow! That would be tough. After all, she's your wife. ;)

[musicman]

Or maybe a series of quickies will do it? :spin: I am *always* up for a quickie!

can I volunteer for that job? :devil: :69: :devil:

[Loren]

BTW....in this (at least :p ) your response is very reasonable.....nakedness turns most people on! (((WI)))

True, although one can grow used to it. I've seen other naked people without being turned on by it but seeing my partner naked is another matter.

[Loren]

nope. ^^^
i really don't get how she gets angry at you for your libido: if she's allowed to be free to do what she feels/wants with her body, then you are too.

i also don't have aclue about how to make her see that if she already doesn't or won't

you could just say, screw it. you'll never get it. forget it. i give up. you win. ive noticed that sometimes that gets the other person to see how unreasonable they're being about the whole thing.:D
sometimes not. :truce: :D

Good point.

If she's free to walk around naked and get you aroused you should be free to deal with that arousal if she won't help you with it.

[osuche]

can I volunteer for that job? :devil: :69: :devil:


Anytime :D

:jacques:

[Aqua]

I would react much the same as you do WI.

Anytime my wife is naked I get turned on... but she doesn't tend to lounge naked. It's either in the shower or getting ready for bed. There is a bit of a difference in that my wife is more understanding of my sexuality, or so it seems. Not that she accepts my advances, (she playfully pushes me away), but she doesn't make a big deal about it.

I wish there was a compromise the two of you could reach.

[Aqua]

I just had an idea... :idea:

I'll come visit and we'll both stroke off on either side of Mrs WI and then she'll KNOW it's ok and there's nothing wrong with your behavior. :corn:

[imaginewithme]

Wow! That would be tough. After all, she's your wife. ;)
hahaha that's cute DB!

[WildIrish]

I just had an idea... :idea:

I'll come visit and we'll both stroke off on either side of Mrs WI and then she'll KNOW it's ok and there's nothing wrong with your behavior. :corn:


I think that's a fine idea!

We can tell her that you're offering us a second opinion! :D

Perhaps Loulapucker can stop by as well? To verify that there's no way possible that a person can become desensitized to her nudity, of course. :hot:

[Lilith]

i call bullshit! i am gone for 2 days and now mrs.wi gets my :3way:



bullshit!

[Scarecrow]

Well Lilith the saying is - when the cat(kitty) is away the mice will play.

[sodaklostsoul]

:roflmao: I think someone or someone's are gonna get :spank:

[CindyJ]

I'd normally wear just a t-shirt when I'm alone at home but for some reason, if I'm with my guy, either at his place or mine, I love to stay naked all day with him. I love when he got sexually turn on by my nakedness and ofcoz htere will be somekind of sexual activities would follow. I'm okay with that but there was the time also that I'm not in the mood for sex, I just want to be naked but I don't get annoyed by that coz I know it can take just 5 minutes to get him satisfied sexually and he will not bother me for a while...lol

But that is me and how I handle the situation. If your wife get annoyed with you everytime you approach her while she was naked, may be you should just throw a "curve ball" to her for a change. Instead of drolling all over her like a horny coyote, just pretend that everything is normal and you doesn't feel a thing. That might get her attention...may be.

[Oldfart]

Be afraid, be very afraid.

Lilith with too much time on her hands and fun to be had.

[Loulabelle]

Perhaps Loulapucker can stop by as well? To verify that there's no way possible that a person can become desensitized to her nudity, of course. :hot:


Bleh...even with the ever expanding belly?!?!?!?!

[Oldfart]

If it's the belly of your love, of course.

[Lilith]

The least they could do to aid in my recuperation is to put on a man show. :jedi:

[WildIrish]

i call bullshit! i am gone for 2 days and now mrs.wi gets my :3way:



bullshit!


Uh.....welcome back...so soon. :roflmao:

[WildIrish]

Bleh...even with the ever expanding belly?!?!?!?!


Definately. You glow, remember?

[WildIrish]

The least they could do to aid in my recuperation is to put on a man show. :jedi:


That oughta pop a few clips, huh? ;)

[Loulabelle]

Definately. You glow, remember?

Pish! I'm still waiting for the glowing bit - I'm currently going through the palid spotty skinned nauseous phase! LOL

But I appreciate the sentiment. :p

[WildIrish]

Pish! I'm still waiting for the glowing bit - I'm currently going through the palid spotty skinned nauseous phase! LOL

But I appreciate the sentiment. :p


I'm sure Fussy sees the glow. But we'd require a before & after photographic comparison. :p

[AZRedHot]

I agree with the thought that if I'm naked between shower and getting dressed, I don't necessarily want to stop to fool around--but sometimes I do. I love to wander around in the buff when it's warm enough--it's comfortable. Apparently, I do it often enough that the Mister doesn't even notice, or if he does, he certainly keeps it close to the vest and I don't know about it. Sometimes I'll wander through more times than is necessary to see if I attract his appreciative eye. Sometimes it works, other times not so much--it's just me, naked. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that I have no useful advice for you whatsoever, and reading this comment is a minute of your life you'll never get back. It's a tough deal.

[WildIrish]

Every minute of my life is one I'll never get back.

I'm just glad that last one produced images of AzRedHot walking around nekid! :hot:

[Matticus]

We are naked all the time. So much so over the last 10 years that both of us have found ways to handle being excited about it.

Most times, my wife rolls over for the quickie if I just have to have it, she can tell by the look in my eye that this is something that needs to happen.

My job is to not get that look in my eye everytime she is naked but the two of us are firm believers in the fact that a happy marriage is sometimes based on giving some sex when you are not exactly in the mood. :blink:

[sodaklostsoul]

:boobs:

[WildIrish]

She finally understands.

A man doesn't see the little "flaws" that a woman thinks exist with her body. He sees a beautiful and sexy woman.

"A man loves the see the naked body of the woman he loves."


What made it hit home?

Dr. Laura :roflmao:

[AZRedHot]

NO WAY!!!! But also Yay!!! I'm so glad.

I never thought I'd appreciate Dr. Laura, but today I guess I do.

[wyndhy]

good deal!! (((hugs)))

[Matticus]

Glad that got worked out. And the good Dr is right. :loveshowe

[WildIrish]

I think I've figured out something.


I know, it suprised me too. :p




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Dr. Laura is a Pixie! :yikes:



Show us yer boobies, Doc! :D