Sex Post-Menopause

[Lilith]

I know we have a mature crowd here at Pixies who might be able to speak to some things I have been wondering about. For those women who have already been there and for men who are lovers of women who have been there, can you tell me how menopause affected your sexlife?

[Sugarsprinkles]

I'll be more than happy to give you a response, Lil. I'm on my way to bed and a bit too tired to compose my thoughts coherently enough right now. I will definitely revisit the thread tomorrow and post a reply. This is an excellent idea for a thread, btw.

[Oldfart]

It goes through ups and downs as the libido flutters, but settles back down again.

Some women blossom sexually with the removal of the fear of pregnancy, hence the old expression "will you be my bud?".

[Aqua]

My wife is periomenopausal... meaning she is entering menopause and her sex drive has diminshed a great deal.

We still have good sex though... as recently as last night. http://piercn-amethyst.com/emot/Smitten_emoticon.gif

[bare4you]

Aqua my brother - we are in a similar situation (except about last night that is). I am going to keep an eye on this as I have much interest in the subject for obvious reasons.....

[Loren]

Postmenopausal wife here.

If she's off her horomone replacement for a week or more sex becomes an impossibility--she's simply too tender.

Other than that I'd say a slight increase in the amount of sex as there's no longer a time when it's off the menu. (The same tenderness problem has always existed from the day before her period starts/the day it should have started {whichever comes first} and the day after it ends.)

[Lilith]

Thanks for the information. Does anyone have experience with someone not on hormones?

[Oldfart]

No known survivors, but there's a rumour about a bloke in Sydney who . . . .

[Wantsome]

For the last 20 years my sexife has been not very active.
I love my wife very much and always have the, important thing isn't sex it's undersanding that she has feelings, and not to hurt her
She wants me to have a sex life, but I don't know any one and am a bit afraid to look.
We have been married 51 years now.

[scotzoidman]

Like SS, I keep promising myself that I'll come back with some kind of commentary on this subject, if & when I just have a little time to compose my thoughts properly...

[Oldfart]

Wantsome,

You need to know if she's not feeling sexually active because of low hormones, a non-related medical condition, low self esteem or low interest.

It's amazing the number of things that can become sexual without penile penetration.

HINT The world needs to know, through independant experimentation, which flavoured syrup makes the best lubricant for a post-menopausal woman, taking special note of how many times it needs to be re-applied before final orgasm.

We anxiously await your detailed and annotated report.

[Wantsome]

We (my wife and I) both know many ways of satisfaction, but after awhile that isn’t what’s missing.

We are reading a book titled “Reclaiming your sexual self” by Kathryn Hall Ph.D.
It addresses many subjects, like low self esteem and other issues.
It’s not about blame, it’s not a problem it isn’t going to ruin our love for each other.

We are working at solving what maybe the problem, but they aren’t any wrongs involved.

My wife is 68 years old and I’m 69, I have a sex drive she doesn’t.
We are friends, lovers and life long pals.
Sex is a act of relaxation and fun, she wants me to enjoy.

[Irish]

May 1st,my wife & I will be married 41yrs.Our sex life is slower than when we were 21,but now we each know the others turnons.Plus after that time,you
develop a trust & respect for each other! Irish
P.S.I wouldn't want to put up with me for 41+yrs,but I don't have any choice.
She does! :confused: