How to keep a guy from cumming before you want him to?

[SexKittten_18]

I was talking to a friend about this, and we were discussing how some of the guys (she's been with more than 1, I've only been with 1) in the past have cum too soon. Is there a way to stop this? Other than starting to talk about his mother in the shower I mean? Because, while that could be comical, it could also be dangerously traumatizing lol. I'm sure he wouldn't want to picture his mother every time he was having sex... that'd be just a little weird. Anyway, now that I've completely gone off-topic. Does anyone have any suggestions or tips?

Oh, just one last thing, if a guy hasnt done anything for a long time, is it possible to control when he cums? This was a discussion with another friend lol.

Thanks guys and gals!!! ^-^

[WildIrish]

Ironically, the best thing to do is NOT to think about baseball, mom, hot apple pie, or anything other than how good it feels. By focusing your concentration on exactly what you're doing, you will recognize that you are approaching the "point of no return" and be able to react before it's too late.

And there's always round two! :D

[jbh3]

My gf and I usually will stop the other,depending on who's ready to cum, and change positions......then "re-start" so to speak with different "contact points" between penis/vagina......we'll do this as often as we can but,some times we don't get past the first position ;) as often as we'd like :)

[calihotguy]

like the above....I have found taking a breath works, i.e. the stop and start method.

Its ok to slow down for a second and regain a second wind so to speak. The pinch the tip method can be a decent training tool.

Having it be the first time for a guy in while can be a huge part of it as he may be out of practice in being able to control himself and that first time may be too much stimulation. However, as time and practice goes by, he can get more control over himself and the girl will be able to see the signs.

Most importantly, just communicate. I mean there are things u can do to slow down the orgasms without making it seem mechanical and interrupting the natural flow of things. Different things stimulate without overstimulating, so just talk about it outside of sex and during.

[SexKittten_18]

Oki doke ^-^ sounds good to me. Thanks for the advice guys! I'll be sure to keep that in mind this weekend =) Think we can fit enough practice into 5 days? lol.

[Lilith]

I would reach down and massage his balls til they relax and come down lower in their sack. He'll either spew or slow down.

[SexKittten_18]

I heard some guys are very sensitive there, so if they are, wouldn't that be a bad thing? O.o A little new at this (not sex, just trying to keep him from cumming lol)

[DanarcIncubus]

Ok this will not stop him from having his orgasm but it "should" let him keep going if what you are looking for is a longer night of fun. I personally have had this problem for years, lack of concentration or too much concentration either way does not work for me, start and stop does not work for me either, I also tried to use delay creams and gels that are supposed to desensitize me also did not work at all. What I have found is a nice herbal supliment that allows me to stay hard, I am guessing much like viagra (never used that stuff before though), although I have my orgasm. Since I have been using it I have yet to leave my wife unsatisfied with the duration of our sexual exploits. We found it while shopping in our towns only adult store and if this is something that you are willing to try it is called Vigor-25 and yes they have thier own website which is www.vigor25.com where you can read about it a bit before you try it. So if nothing else helps you I really suggest giving this a try as it has been the only thing that has worked for me. I can now pretty much go for hours and not have to worry about if I am cumming too soon and leaving my wife unsatisfied.

[SexKittten_18]

It's not that I'm worried about him cumming too soon or not being satisfied, I just want to pro-long his pleasure as much as possible before he does =) And besides, if he hasn't had any in a while... wouldn't it make it even better if you were right on the edge a few times before you finally came? =) I know it always makes it better for me ^-^

[DanarcIncubus]

Yes that sounds excelent but I have never been able to have that as my stimulation does not die down it stays at whatever level it is which is why stopping and starting does not work for me to prolong it. There is something else that was mentioned earlier about gently pulling the testicles back down into a more relaxed position in the scrotum, that also does not work on me not because I am too sensitive but because of a medical reason that has caused my scrotum to be more "form fitting" and therefore there is not really a relaxed position which is probably my biggest problem in this matter. So I wish you good luck in finding what works for you and yours and maybe someone can put some advice in this post that will help me save money on that herbal suppliment. :D

[bare4you]

I think the only sure fire way to keep him from cumming before you want him to is to abstain! But what fun is that????? :D

[rabbit]

I would reach down and massage his balls til they relax and come down lower in their sack. He'll either spew or slow down.

I guaran-damn-tee you that I would S-P-E-W if that were done to me!!!!

:p

I would just use a cock ring. Whenever I haven't gotten off for more than a week, I'll use one to keep from cumming too quickly. Of course, after round one, I don't have to worry!

:D

[dnr21]

Why not just cum and then prepare for the second round. its better. Better not to stop or prevent. whats better than cumming? Cumming Twice?

[acepen]

First I make sure I am breathing, sometimes guys tend to hold there breath this can cause early errption.
Second if you squeez the base of the shaft hard for 10 seconds
Third i count sheep will pumping takes my focus off cuing

[Jude30]

Acepen you just continued one of the worst myths about premature ejaculation.

The whole idea of thinking of something else to take your mind off of it is a falsehood. A person who really suffers from premature ajaculation needs to do the exact opposite. They have to pay close attention to what they are feeling and experiencing so they can change what they're doing to prevent the ejaculation.

[acepen]

I was not talking about premature ejaculation. Just ways in which I have had success in prolonging the sexual experience. These techniques may not work for everyone.

[denny]

I would reach down and massage his balls til they relax and come down lower in their sack. He'll either spew or slow down.

Whew!! Sounds like a sure fire way to guarantee fireworks. I agree :p , that would make me SPEW if I were close anyway.

[SexKittten_18]

uhhh... I think you misunderstood... I wasn't talking about him cumming prematurely... I just wanted to make sure he got 150% enjoyment from the experience =)

[Mark Vieth]

uhhh... I think you misunderstood... I wasn't talking about him cumming prematurely... I just wanted to make sure he got 150% enjoyment from the experience =)

There is another way SK. Try different positions to vary the pace. Guys do like the change of pace just like women do.

[Wicked Wanda]

By the time my date and I have got to that point, if he has control problems, it's too late. If this is going to be a long night, I just let him cum, rest, then we go again. He always lasts longer the second time... well most of the time, anyway.

"raising the dead"

Wanda