Bitch, say my name!!!!!

[WildIrish]

How do you know it's ok to go there without her freezing up, turning around and saying "what did you just call me?"?

I mean, it's not like you start out by discussing your intentions for the encounter. :p

[Oldfart]

If there's the slightest doubt it'll add to the experience, don't.

[Loulabelle]

While it doesn't really bother me to be called 'Bitch' and it has happened on the odd occasion that I've dug my nails in really hard to tip him over the edge, in general I don't understand why men want to say it....can you shed any light?

I'm not quite sure why a woman is considered a bitch if she's having sex with you! LOL

[WildIrish]

I guess it's a calculated risk. I mean, anyone that I would be intimate with would by then know that I'm not in to calling a woman "bitch" just to disrepect or demean her and that it only happened as part of role-playing sex. But still...that one's not as easy to laugh off as "I love your HUGE cunt!" was. lmfao

[WildIrish]

While it doesn't really bother me to be called 'Bitch' and it has happened on the odd occasion that I've dug my nails in really hard to tip him over the edge, in general I don't understand why men want to say it....can you shed any light?

I'm not quite sure why a woman is considered a bitch if she's having sex with you! LOL


I would derive pleasure from it in knowing that it would turn her on. Me? Hell, I could tug your hair and bang you hard without ever saying that but from what I'm seeing on the boards...well, some chicks dig it. ha ha

And I have to say, if you dig your nails in really hard...you're not hearing the B word from me! You're hearing me shout out to heaven to warn the Big Guy I'm on my way! ;)

[Loulabelle]

Oh don't worry WI.....the bitch comment wasn't to make me stop digging my nails in.....quite the opposite.....like you, he's more than happy to take the rough with the smooth. ;)

It turned me on when he said it in that context very much so.....and it can be a turn on to be called a 'dirty bitch' or a sexy one when the time is right.

[ScottWaz]

Lou.....

as far as guys wanting to say it? Maybe we all just want to fuck a bad girl once in a while, and calling her a "dirty bitch" or whatever, helps with the mental jump ? Ive never said it, but had it said TO me "fuck me like the little whore i am" so maybe it does have something to do with wanting to be "bad" ?

[WildIrish]

.....and it can be a turn on to be called a 'dirty bitch' or a sexy one when the time is right.


I think there's more than a five hour time difference between Loulabelle and Mrs. WI. lmfao

[gekkogecko]

I mean, it's not like you start out by discussing your intentions for the encounter. :p


Oh, yes, I do. Then again, I'm only likely to say something like this during some sort of of BDSM play, where it's almost a given that limits should be discussed beforehand.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

Oh, yes, I do. Then again, I'm only likely to say something like this during some sort of of BDSM play, where it's almost a given that limits should be discussed beforehand.


I'm with gekkogecko on this one, WI. When it's time to play the "bad girl," it's either been discussed between us beforehand, or he uses my alternate BDSM "name," the name he calls me when we play like that, to let me know we've switched over to THAT kind of play.

My sweetie and I have a high, healthy level of respect outside of the bedroom, and that carries over inside the bedroom as well. I know if he calls me that or some other flavorful noun, it's meant in the context of the moment and not as a reflection of how he feels about me in general.

[Neige]

I have always been with men who were very very quiet during sex. If my current man all of a sudden called me a bitch, it wouldn't be the word that would astound me but that he actually spoke it :p Like IAKaraokeGirl, we really respect each other, and I know he would probably never call me a bitch for fear that I'd think he meant it in another way. That's where we are now, though... I am hoping to corrupt him more in the future! :D

[Pita]

I don't mind being called bitch, if it fits the mood like the other ladies already said. There are times I love really dirty talk and lots of hair pulling. :p

I use bitch with my women friends and family as an endearment almost. I don't mind it and they don't either. Like my sister is proud to be called "Queen Bitch of the World" She worked hard for that title! ;)

Now if it's meant to demean me then you can bet I will come back with a few demeaning words for you too. Then we will see who wins that battle. :D

[osuche]

Substitute "bitch" for "slut" and you've got my interest. :D There are times I want him to treat me that way......he has only dared to do it once, and I had a great time.

I'd like the "say my name bitch" line because it'd remind me of American Pie. :D

[mannis]

Hmmmmmmmmmmm a lady once informed me that she loved to be called bitch.......in her mind the acronym for bitch......was B:broad.....I:in........ T:total......C:control.......H: of herself.......so in reality to her......it was not a slur but a compliment, albeit not given as such in the context of the moment.With respect of your other in a relationship.....one is able to exact the true pleasure and and moments of passion.....and not be confused by spontaneous behaviour in the bedroom.Just my two cents........ :)

[WildIrish]

So I should wait to say it until she's on all fours in front of me, with my hand wrapped in her hair and my cock buried in her pussy. Her head's tilted back and her eyes are glazed over. Her ass cheeks are red from the slap of my thighs (and maybe a hand) against them. Her clit is standing out, crying for each time my swaying testicles bump it. Sweat is dripping from my face and chest as I'm thrusting into her and pulling back on her hair like I'm bringing a race horse to a stop.

















And not holler that out when they ask for our full names while we're at our mortgage closing? :D

[scotzoidman]

It might cause problems if you shout it out too loud when you've got her bent over the freezer in the grocery store...

[wyndhy]

i don't see why you can't discuss it first. you don't have to wait till just before sex. ask her now and if she's game, use it later.

[1nutworld]

And not holler that out when they ask for our full names while we're at our mortgage closing? :D

Sometimes that doesn't even matter....she doesn't have kids does she?

[WildIrish]

Scotz - she's liable to hit me with a god damn turkey! ha ha

wyndhy - You bring up a very good point. Just because we discuss it now doesn't mean it's what's on the menu for the evening. Breaking into a conversation like that will require a video with similar action though. Mrs. WI's not the kind of person that one says "I've been thinking of rough sex and in acting it out...I may want to call you a bitch. What do you think of that? Any feedback?" to. She's more of a "That looks fun, does the idea of it interest you?" kinda person. Excellent post! Thank you!

[wyndhy]

whatever works...you know her better than i. :D

i know i don't usually like discussing what's on the sexual menu, kinda kills it for me; makes it seem too planned or scripted...i'd much rather let the mood take us where it will and follow blithely along.

[WildIrish]

I don't have a "plan" persay, but I definately get in the mood for something in particular sometimes. To be blunt, I miss cunnilingus when I don't get my fill. ha ha

[Loulabelle]

I'm so with Wyndhy on this one.....talking about things just before, can take the whole spontaneity away from it. However talking about it per se is a good idea.....maybe when you're snuggled up at night, close together in the dark, when you've no intention of having sex, or else you have just had it.

I know I would be thrilled to be given any kind of kinky request for future use. I try and catalogue the things my man particularly likes to be used again in future!

[WildIrish]

I've always known that the best time to bring sex up in a conversation was when you have no intentions of having it. You don't want to run the risk of having the person you're talking to think you're bringing it up because you want to have sex because you are looking for something and not because you enjoy being intimate with them.

I guess what I was looking for with this thread was some personal feedback on how women that enjoy this kind of interaction prefer being introduced to it. And obviously because we're not all the same...the answer lies in how well we all know our mates and how free they feel about expressing their thoughts.

Sure makes for interesting and thought provoking conversations though.

Thanks all!

[flutelady]

All I know is that I'd LOVE for him to say that to me in the bedroom! I'd especially love it if I was blindfolded and/or tied up. Oh yes!

[Lilith]

Big difference between being a bitch and being your bitch, being a slut and being your little slut.

[Pita]

^^^^She's got that right!

[Coaster]

Well when we were really crazy and going at it I said "gawd your a hot bitch" and drove into her deep.................... by her response, I don't think she minded at all!!! :D

[Peaches]

Big difference between being a bitch and being your bitch, being a slut and being your little slut.
Hell yes.....and i would love to be someones Bitch or Slut right now........

[LixyChick]

Yes indeed there is a time and place for words!

For some lousy reason I do NOT ever like to be called a cunt. I don't like my pussy to be called a cunt. I HATE the word cunt! It makes the hairs stand up on the back of my neck. Might be from the area I was raised, I dunno. I know some folks from around the world routinely refer to a woman's pussy, or even a woman, as a cunt. It's HARSH and it's not sexy to me in any context!

As to "bitch"? I've heard, "Com'on you sexy bitch...squeeze me tight"...and stuff like that. In the moment and in it's context, it put me over the edge. In the moment you ask? I can tell when we are on the edge...when intense is working it's way to "fuck me raw"!! It's a matter of knowing your partner I think.

If, on the very first time I am with someone and they call me "bitch"...they'd better back up cause I am gonna smack the shit outta them! The word "bitch" can have so many meanings and conotations, and can be used in so many different context's that I think...I think...I have to know you well enough to catch your drift!

Make sense?