What a guy/girl needs to know about sex.

[rzande1]

So i decided to start this thread about what people need to know about sex for those that do not have alot of experience. Come on people lets collect the best techniques and positions etc.

[Loulabelle]

Hmm....now let me see. I can certainly provide a list of the things I find myself saying most regularly on other threads here at Pixies:

What a guy needs to know:
1. Size really doesn't matter. It doesn't. Really.
2. Women who really love sex are not necessarily promiscuous.
3. Women who don't want to have sex with you are not 'inhibited' or 'repressed'...they may just have standards that you don't reach.
4. It takes more than showing a woman your cock to turn her on.


What a woman needs to know:
1. Men love breasts...no matter how horrible you happen to think yours are, to men, they are wonderful, so stop worrying about them.
2. The right man will be attracted to a smart, sassy woman who stands up for herself and doesn't allow him to walk all over her. If he doesn't like it when you are your own woman, kick him to the curb.
3. The fashion industry is predominantly run by gay men......don't let THEM dictate to you who/what is sexy. What do they know about hips and waists and breasts?
4. Be open to new experiences and communicate your needs to your partner.

[wyndhy]

here's what i know: sex is personal. likes/needs/wants/turn-ons change from person to person and sometimes even from day to day with each person. the best way to find out more about sex it to talk about it openly and honestly with your partner.

:)

[BIBI]

Real life is not like a porn movie....or an article in Forum :)

[Oldfart]

Sex is what you do.

Love/lust is how you feel about it.

Pixies is where you come to enjoy it.

[Booger]

Real life is not like a porn movie....or an article in Forum :)

Is that why I never get my pizza delivered my a sexy woman who want sex?

[Oldfart]

No, just wrong Pizza company.

[Mercury_Maniac]

4. It takes more than showing a woman your cock to turn her on.






aw crap!

[alspals69]

i know several guys who think they are not good eough to get a gal... think they need cunning plans to gain the attention of the opposit sex.

Just be yourself. there really is no point in trying to be anyone else. And look at all the people out there already with girls they love... guys of all shapes and sizes and intelects...

Just relax, be bold occasionaly and treat people the way they deserve to be treated.

[osuche]

You need to respect and love yourself before you'll end up in a healthy relationship.

Good sex is about having fun. Even when the sex isn't great, if you're having fun it won't matter.

Take the time to enjoy your partner -- use all your senses. Taste them, touch them, smell them, and gaze longingly. Say something appreciative. Listen for a response.

Don't forget to laugh. Some of my best partners haven't been the greatest lovers, but they were the nicest people.

[Jude30]

Talk about it with your partner. Tell them what you like, and want. If you aren't in a place in your relationship that you can talk open and honestly about everything then you aren't in a place in your relationship that you can be having sex.

[Mark Vieth]

I think some of us missed the message in this post.......

So i decided to start this thread about what people need to know about sex for those that do not have alot of experience. Come on people lets collect the best techniques and positions etc.

I think he wants to ask advice for people who are having sex for the first time or are only new to the whole sex game. So to answer his statement on best technique and positions etc......

Well 69er is always a good starter followed by doggy. If that doesn't rock your boat then there is always girl on top and of course the age old favourite missionary which I think now adays is overlooked as most people just want to "get down and dirty" and just want to go at it fast and hard. Each to their own.

[BIBI]

I think some of us missed the message in this post.......


Did we?


:confused:

[Loulabelle]

No BiBi - I don't think we did......I think we offered advice that was far more pertinent and useful than trying to compile some kind of amateurs' sex manual.

[sodaklostsoul]

You need to respect and love yourself before you'll end up in a healthy relationship.

Good sex is about having fun. Even when the sex isn't great, if you're having fun it won't matter.

Take the time to enjoy your partner -- use all your senses. Taste them, touch them, smell them, and gaze longingly. Say something appreciative. Listen for a response.

Don't forget to laugh. Some of my best partners haven't been the greatest lovers, but they were the nicest people.
osuche's first sentence say's alot!!!!! (hint hint)

[Jude30]

I think some of us missed the message in this post.......



I think he wants to ask advice for people who are having sex for the first time or are only new to the whole sex game. So to answer his statement on best technique and positions etc......

Well 69er is always a good starter followed by doggy. If that doesn't rock your boat then there is always girl on top and of course the age old favourite missionary which I think now adays is overlooked as most people just want to "get down and dirty" and just want to go at it fast and hard. Each to their own.


Who in the fuck does doggy style the first time they have sex? Or gets "down and dirty"? Most women want their first experience to be a special and loving experience, and while I'm a big fan of doggy style it's not exactly the most intimate or loving position there is.

[Mark Vieth]

Who in the fuck does doggy style the first time they have sex? Or gets "down and dirty"? Most women want their first experience to be a special and loving experience, and while I'm a big fan of doggy style it's not exactly the most intimate or loving position there is.

Jude I was only saying that for those who just want to get on with it. I did state that if it's not for them to try missionary. We have all been in that situation where we just want to get on with it. Male and female. When you are horny you just want to get on with it.

In the ideal situation of course a girl wants to make sure it's a memorable time, but there are many types of "memorable" from person to person. We are all individuals and so what may be good for one person may or may not be good for other's.

[jonik]

If I may make a suggestion (as a longtime lurker and new member): I've found the key (for me as a male) is to pay attention to my lover and relax. The more attention I pay to my lover (in this case, my wife), the better my performance. Likewise, the less uptight I am about looking/feeling like a porn star, the better.

So here's what you need to know about sex (in real life): It's not about you. Sure, you can have a heck of a good time and the experience could feel fantastic, but sex done right (IMHO) is not about secret positions that work for any woman or "techniques" that never fail. There are no such positions and no such techniques. Every woman is wonderfully different.

Take it easy and get to know your woman. Find those little spots that drive her crazy? Discover how (and if) she likes to be spoken to during sex. Learn her natural inclinations and fantasies. It takes a little time to get to know each new partner, but it's well worth it. Why? Because what ultimately makes you a stud in bed is your ability to please your lover! And pleasing your (female) lover is about patience, listening, and sensitivity to her desires more than it is about having a secret knowledge of "all the best techniques and positions." All the techniques in the world won't make you a good lover if you don't know how your woman likes them to be used... ;)

[WildIrish]

All the techniques in the world won't make you a good lover if you don't know how your woman likes them to be used... ;)



Excellent advice!

[Loulabelle]

If I may make a suggestion (as a longtime lurker and new member): I've found the key (for me as a male) is to pay attention to my lover and relax. The more attention I pay to my lover (in this case, my wife), the better my performance. Likewise, the less uptight I am about looking/feeling like a porn star, the better.

So here's what you need to know about sex (in real life): It's not about you. Sure, you can have a heck of a good time and the experience could feel fantastic, but sex done right (IMHO) is not about secret positions that work for any woman or "techniques" that never fail. There are no such positions and no such techniques. Every woman is wonderfully different.

Take it easy and get to know your woman. Find those little spots that drive her crazy? Discover how (and if) she likes to be spoken to during sex. Learn her natural inclinations and fantasies. It takes a little time to get to know each new partner, but it's well worth it. Why? Because what ultimately makes you a stud in bed is your ability to please your lover! And pleasing your (female) lover is about patience, listening, and sensitivity to her desires more than it is about having a secret knowledge of "all the best techniques and positions." All the techniques in the world won't make you a good lover if you don't know how your woman likes them to be used... ;)


I think I have a new crush!!!!!

Great advice jonik and welcome to Pixies!

[wyndhy]

i agree. i'm sensing a theme in this thread. :D

and welcome jonik!!!

[jonik]

You all are too kind.
We'll see if you think so highly of me after I submit my first story... :eek:

But seriously, don't you think that's right? It took me a few years to figure that stuff out, and here I am just giving it out for free... I should write a book. :D

[mabelode]

Loulabelle, your first post really sums it all up. I've noticed from reading your posts that you have a knack of getting to the heart of the matter.

[Loulabelle]

Aw, thank-you mabelode!

*blushes*

I put it down to the fact that I take a bath every morning, not a shower....it allows for much more thinking time...s'where I have most of my Eureka! moments. :)

[SexKittten_18]

I don't think there is any one thing you need to know, other than that you can trust your partner and that in some way they love you and won't be critical if you make a mistake =) But then again I guess that doesn't work so well with one night stands... hmmm...

[calihotguy]

the clit is not some mythological land

a guy is often sensitive down there after he cums

foreplay is important and can start with simply talking...doesn't always have to be physical

communication is key, don't be afraid to say what feels good when it does or ask questions (in sexy ways)....don't be afraid to talk about stuff outside sex either and be open about fantasies (no matter how kinky they are, so don't judge eachother...accept).

We all share the same basic places that turn us on, but sometimes some people are more sensitive in certain places, or more or less sensitive in those places than other people. Make sure you know what areas really turn eachother on or what areas u have to be careful with. An example is I know some girls who love their nipples played with roughly and then some who if I nibble at all it hurts them...it really depends on the person.