A Love Life?

[txgrneyes]

I just saw the movie The Wedding Date...which was pretty good.

In the movie Nick (Dermont Mulroney) basically stated that women choose the kind of love life she wants. What I am asking from you all is Do you really beleive that? I guess this can go for the guys as well... just curious to know what yall think.

Do you beleive that people (men and women) choose the kind of love life they have?

Even if they are sad and alone to haveing the best love affair ever? Or do other factors come into it?

[nicole2309]

that's interesting... personally, I think that other factors have to be part of the equation. I mean because there seem to be plenty of people out there who are looking for what they want, but for one reason or another just haven't found it yet. I'm sure that personal choices do play a role in it... but there are definately other forces at work

[WildIrish]

I think we can't help who we're attracted to, and depending on how in tune with yourself you are, by choosing the ones we do...sometimes we create our love affairs, and sometimes we discover them.

I know, it seems like a total non-answer. But it's hard to describe. I guess what I'm trying to say is that some seek out people whom they know they'll have a certain kind of relationship with, some people start with the idea of the relationship they want and look for someone to fit it, and others have an idea of what they want...and it all goes out the window when they meet someone.

For me, it's deja vu. It's always new, yet like a favorite sweater.

[PantyFanatic]

......Do you beleive that people (men and women) choose the kind of love life they have?......
Define “love life”.

If ‘love life’ is the sexual acts, interests, fantasies, and fulfillments of each other physical desires and pleasures, we come to a place like Pixies to be with others that are open and comfortable with this aspect of ourselves.

If ‘love life’ is sharing the interests and experiences of the world and life as we explore and pass through it, we finds like others where we chose to spend our time.

If ‘love life’ is when we learn and evolve our mutual ideals and values of importance, fair, respectable and acceptable for both to share, we communicate beyond ourselves.

If you get these parallel attractions together in two people at the same time, you just call it ‘love’. That’s the tricky part.

[bare4you]

For some people it is not necessarily a choice but a lack of options. I have always tried to keep my options open to life as a whole and it has led me to some really wonderful people and it's also led me to some folks who had an elevator that didn't go all the way to the top floor. Much the same holds true for one's love life. We learn to enjoy ourselves in a certain way and then we stick with what feels comfortable to us. A lot depends on our socialization and what we've been taught is "right and wrong" and the rest comes from expriementation. Finding someone who is willing to open up their ability to enjoy new experiences is a blessing. But I have found that for me, comfort is more important than new experiences.

[Lilith]

I totally believe you are in control of the sort of relationship you attract.