I wanna get to know the ladies...

[hungmann]

Hi I travel with my job alot. ALOT. So I when I'm at home, in NC, I don't get out very much. And, the industry that I work in is predominantly male, so I don't meet many women. One of my big frustrations is that I have an overactive labido, or at least that's what I've been told. I have a couple of questions...one, where do you ladies like to hang out? Bars are quite obviously not the best place to meet woman. Maybe I'm too picky, but I am rarely impressed by the female patrons of some of the establishments that I have visited. Most likely, I am "shopping out of my league", but thats ok too. So, where are all of the available women? Since I travel with work alot, I see different parts of the country quite a bit. Up and down the east coast, the mid west, etc... however, I can't locate where you all are hiding! My other question, is about women and relationships. This is the age/old question men have asked generation after generation... how do you find a woman who's not looking for Mr. Right, but for a fun evening or week? How do woman REALLY feel about this? Are women really looking for a husband, or the father of their child, or just to have a pleasant evening? Please let me know, because I feel that I have been missing something, and I'm not sure what. Fill me in!

[Lilith]

Just wanted to say welcome. I'm not seeking anything so I can't help you with your querry.

[Kaelynn]

I have an overactive labido, or at least that's what I've been told. I have a couple of questions...one, where do you ladies like to hang out? So, where are all of the available women? how do you find a woman who's not looking for Mr. Right, but for a fun evening or week? How do woman REALLY feel about this? Are women really looking for a husband, or the father of their child, or just to have a pleasant evening?

First Welcome :) Let me see what I can say that might help...

Overactive labidos get you everywhere around here... cause frankly I think all the members have one, including myself.

Hanging out places... hmm... sometimes I go to a pool hall with friends, other times clubs, but you mostly men don't notice the "nice" girls in the club, only the ones with their stuff all showing out on display. I am not that type. Most the guys I meet are off pixies or in class where I go to school. I don't know where all the other available ones are...

Fun evenings... You have to get to know the woman. I personally am looking utimately for someone to "settle down" with, but as of right now I have yet to meet someone I am jumping to marry... so while I continue my search for "Mr. Right" I like to have fun with the others that I enjoy being with. Don't get me wrong I don't sleep with all the guys I meet, just the ones I really enjoy being with. So... you just have to get to know the girl :)

I hope I helped some! :x:

PS. my grandparents live near you...

[dicksbro]

Hey, hungmann ... welcome to Pixies. I think I'd listen to Kaelynn ... obviously a woman of great wisdom. :thumb:

In the mean time, play around at Pixies. It's not quite the same ... but definitely a lot of fun. Who knows, you might even meet someone here. Stranger things have happened. :)

[osuche]

Welcome to Pixies.....from a fellow Engineer. ;)

I'm a coffee shop and bookstore person myself, but I never take anyone home from these venues. I don't go clubbing, and I only go to bars when I am with people from work or otherwise entertaining and thus am not available there.

What am I looking for? Friends, no more......but I wish you luck in finding your more.

[Loulabelle]

Hm....personally, when I was single, I was never looking for someone to be 'Mr Right' but I did not sleep around either.

To be quite frank, despite my powerful libido (just ask FussyPucker about that!) I saw little point in exposing myself to the dangers of one night stands, for, what seemed to me to be little opportunity for gratification.

I mean, think about it, if a guy I meet is not willing to put time and effort into getting to know me before we have sex, the chances are, he's probably not going to put much effort into making it a pleasing sexual experience for me either. I put a lot of effort into sex, and I want at least some guarantee that my efforts will be reciprocated.

My frustration as a single woman was that men either wanted to fuck me and leave (something that was completely unacceptable to my sense of self respect) or they wanted to marry me and keep me barefoot and pregnant within a month of knowing me (seems I 'ticked all the boxes' of what a wife should be).

Whatever happened to meeting someone, finding them attractive (on multiple levels) getting to know them better and seeing where it goes. Most women don't want to have to commit to marriage or sleeping with a guy on the first day they meet them, because at that point we just don't know where we want it to lead, if anywhere.

I think that this is the view of your average, intelligent, independent, well adjusted woman of the year 2005 and my advice would be to steer well clear of the ones who are talking about marriage on the first night you meet them and be careful of the ones who are willing to sleep with you within hours of making your acquiantance too. In both cases you're leaving yourself vulnerable to all kinds of problems further down the line, not to mention possible health issues and getting yourself a reputation as someone who sleeps around (that's a big turn off to a lot of women, these days - gone are the double standards).

So, to fill you in on what you're missing, I'd say: Women don't come in just two categories i.e. 'Nice' ones who want to get married and 'fun' ones who want to get laid. There are women out there, like Kaelynn, who want both eventually, but you have to prove yourself worthy of their attention first and that takes time.