Who cum's 1st

[Xpose]

This is a bit of an old chestnut question I know. It would be nice to have a quick vote and see the results.

What I am asking is, in your steady sexual relationships which of you, male or the female, USUALLY cums first.

I was in the habit the habit of waiting for her to cum first. But Mrs Xpose introduced me to the idea that I might cum first, then I can concentrate and help her to reach her orgasm, perhaps by using my fingers and tongue, cocks usually too soft :(

But the important thing is that there is no routine, and we can cum, and go as we please.

What do you think?

[tummykitten]

when i first started to have sex with my man he made a concentrated effort for me to cum first but the frustration just about killed the pair of us!! in theory it sounds dead sweet but in actual fact my guy usually ends up gettin so turned on when hes tryin to get me to cum that we have to stop everything to let him calm down. so now he usually comes first....but hey whos complainin coz that bits fun for me too and it means that ive got his attention for as long as i want it without any interuptions!!

[Nubian]

but most of the time I make sure my wife comes first. I love licking and eating her pussy, even more so than her do me, and this alone is enough to bring me to the edge. It doesn't take much from there to push me over;)

[Xpose]

Is quite amazing, it is great to just watch on, and maybe lend a helping hand. Love my fingers squelching around in her pussy sopping with a combination of hers and my juices.

Agree entirely TummyKitten (great name too)

[scotzoidman]

unless it's that time of month, and she's just giving me some relief :D , she cums first... & 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc....

[RipCord]

I usually let my wife have a few orgasms first, then I blow my load...and if she wants more and I am soft, I either finger her or use her toys to let have a couple more. On average she has about 7-8 a love making session. I am happy with 1 or 2!

But sometimes I can blow my load just like that!!

Like just now, when I saw Diva's pics!! And what a big one it was ;)

[m45]

She cums 1st no matter what!!!......
I have always made sure that in my years the lady cums first!
and like scotzoidman said, and 2nd and 3rd and 4th.....;-)

:p :D

[ROCKHARD]

but thats because i like haveing her go that way by the time the second one comes around i blow my load bigger and longer than if i went right away.

[bigbob40]

Who cums first,
Most of the time she does. I really enjoy eating pussy and she really enjoys having her pussy eaten so that makes pretty certain that she goes first. Then we try to time our orgasms together when were fucking like crazy.:D

[Irish]

Using my;toungue or fingers;I always get my wife off 3 times!
Even when we were going together,she always could orgasm;at
least;3 times.After that what we do always varies.I have found
that;thru the years;if you keep the other person satisfied it's
always easy to have contact with them again.They know that
you don't think only of yourself and are not going to be frustrated!
If the other isn't satisfed then it is not enjoyable for me! Irish

[Lovediva]

Wow..all your wives are lucky!!!!!!!

He usually ends up cumming first!!! Then he needs a 1/2 hour break....
Guess he can't handle me ;)

My sex life sucks...... lol.. glad I have my toys!!!!!!!!!

[Prophet Reality]

Poor Diva! I alway make sure that the lady I am with cum at least 3 times before I even consider trying to. Then when we have sex I know that she will cum a couple more times before I do.

And Diva... if you ever want to tried him in for a different model. Please let me know!!!!

[Lady Pleaser]

It's more fun and it has worked for us for 25 years:)

[J.O.Y.]

It is so much fun to cum together. We have a penalty system and the one that comes first has to do what the other one wants for the next 3 days. hehe some fun. I win a lot.:)

[Nubian]

to keep a relationship fresh. I think my wife and I will borrow a page from your book J.O.Y.

[Oldfart]

She does, because that's the way we like it.

When we "race" the one who comes first buys a

nice bottle of Merlot.

I Love to win!

[Pussy Willow]

I usually cum a few times before he does.

He really gets off making me cum. Then when he finally cums,

it's either in my mouth or deep inside my pussy............................

Either way we both end up very satisfied !!!!!!!!!

[comet]

My wife cums first! Always! When I'm fucking her from behind, she's rubbing her clit to orgasm. This may happen two or three times before its my turn and when I do, she can feel my load going off inside of her.

[andyhart]

You always hear about the guy cumming and leaving her to want... So I make sure shes exhausted. I have tried to see how many times she would cum before I did. It backfired once and left me hanging so to speak.

[sweetstuff]

I always cum first, several times is not unheard of.. but I make sure to save up enough to cum with him when he explodes.... it's most satisfying to cum at the same time.

[chief4]

I don't think that most of you guys are being totally honest. Men get too horny too quick and normally cum first. I personally cum first if I fuck my wife with nothing else, I like to make her cum first with licking her and finger fucking her, until she leaks her cum all over my face and sheets.

[horseman12]

i usually try to get the lady i'm with off first, and then i can blow, after that just try to build up to that cresendo, where she cums just from the sensitivety of all the stimulation, and then try to cum together

[axe31]

hard question for me to answer
when haveing sex i allways delay cumming
go till your just about to cum then back off
keep doing it till you can stand it no longer
then when you do cum bang the earth moves
you here music
tho some times you just need a fast fuck

[rusti.1]

My wife always cums first as I get great satisfaction if she does

[nikanik]

We tend to race and i tend to lose cause superman is just so talented. but then again i have my days

[sabbadoo]

I always try to make her cum first. Cock, tongue, finger, toe, whatever it takes. I don't rush, it's not a race. The amount of time is not particularly an issue (unless we're doing it in public). Just the moment.

[Steph]

I agree - the woman cumming first seems to work best. Like in 69, for example - I always find that if he cums first, he's too overwhelmed afterwards for me to cum.

Men who want the woman to cum first tend to be more selfless - but some of you who've replied to this thread do it differently and it seems to work just as well for you! :)

[slywolf]

Normaly when I get it she comes first :D

I have this werid deal with condoms. Can't feel a dang thing, so she ends up coming before me. :redghost:

[Lady Tango]

I would like to think we cum together, but it is only 50% of the time that happens. I'll never cum first if it's just penetrative sex, I must have lots of foreplay and oral. That's what gets me to my orgasm.

[sadora]

Twisted always makes sure I cum at least once before we do together(we usually do). I know that I am spoiled.... I ususally have several orgasms before he does, but that is the way he likes it. I have to agree with Steph... selfless men are better in bed.

[andrew]

She does 90% of time. I really enjoy feeling her cum, she usually gets 1-2 or 3 etc, I have had a mega shag fest where I got her to orgasm 11 times. Love eating her pussy, love sucking her nipples to orgasm. If I come first I feel drained but I always do all I can to get her to Nirvana.

When I had a boyfried he always came first between my cheeks.

A.

[bucksman]

It always used to be that I came first - lack of control being the main problem, especially with a new partner. Now I try and either cum with her or shorlty afterwards.

However, as Lady Tango said, it helps to get Buckslady worked up with a lot of oral and finger foreplay, then when I penetrate, her clit is already highly stimulated.

[love_2licku]

I hate cumming before the woman does. I usually eat my way to her orgasm a few times then poke her good until she cums again :) Control is the key ;)

[Murphy]

My DW is soooo sensitive, she usually comes just as I'm penetrating....then 4 or 5 times before I get there, and then 2 or 3 more while i'm just resting there, inside her, feeling her pussy spasm around my wilting member.

[mista T-bone]

she does without a doubt!

[belenos]

Honestly it depends on how long it has been since I've had an orgasm last. My penis will be especially sensitive if it's been a long time and therefore it's more difficult to control things. My S/O usually climaxes first, in ideal circumstances.

[Ruff Eek]

My wife is usually incapable of vaginal orgasms! Which of course means more joy for me as I get to eat her to make her cum BEFORE intercourse. The feeling inside a just-cummed woman is HEAVEN!!!

[Loren]

Actually, we generally come just about at the same time--the movements she makes as she comes will generally drive me over the edge. Also, she likes it vigorous as she comes which also is likely to push me over the edge.


As to the earlier poster who feels that many of the men on here are lying--a lot of it comes down to what you do to her. If you have sex like in a porno movie you aren't going to last very long and she's probably going to be far from orgasm when you blow.
Instead, we have two basic actions: A gentle thrusting that doesn't really involve the traditional in-out movement. I remain basically fully penetrated but alter how I'm pressed against her. It's not as intense as traditional sex but I'd much prefer 20 or 30 minutes this way to a few the traditional way.
The other thing we do is a very slow full stroke, taking perhaps 10-15 seconds to fully withdraw and reinsert, then often remaining pressed against her for another 5-10 seconds as she bucks from the intensity.

[Sodbuster]

My GF and I don't have full intercourse because she won't until she's married... so it's just limited to hand/fingers and oral. I pretty much take care of her first because she seems to like it that way. I wonder if that takes care of all her enthusiasm since she seems kinda straight-forward on satisfying me... no teasing or anything. When I don't get her off first she often gives more effort....

[Irish]

You mean that someones supposed to come?No wonder;we always get so frustrated;during sex;and avoid it;if possible.Our
daughters(2);were concieved;by immaculate conception! Irish

[skipthisone]

Id say my SO and are about 50-50, however when i do come first she is ussually close and i can ussually keep it for 5 to 10 minutes

[ericthered]

Men can cum once easily; ladies several times with a bit of practice and TLC. So it makes sense for the man to save it up for the Grand Finale. Unless, of course, he is going to cum twice.

Question : When do men want to cum twice?
Answer : Before they've cum once.

Poor men - so deprived of orgasms....

[dicksbro]

I usually try to help my wife to cum first because so often once it happens to me, it's hard for me to stay as focused as I would like to be. I'm afraid after it happens, it's far too easy for me to want to roll over and conk out.

[A.K.'s Sex-Pot]

Nothing will push me over the edge like my partner telling me he's about to cum, so that usually meant that my ex and i would cum together.

The only trouble is, i sometimes suffer from the same problem a lot of the boys say they have . . . sometimes after i've cum once, i just can't focus as well on giving him pleasure and after orgasm, my vagina seems to tighten up so if he's brought me off using his fingers or tongue, i really don't feel like being penetrated.

We found it worked best if he'd get me really close with fingers or tongue or both, then penetrate me and we'd usually cum together, because he couldn't usually last very long. That was probably my fault though because i just loved to watch and feel him cum inside me so rather than encouraging him to slow down and control himself, i just used to egg him on!

It did kind of make for rather short love making sessions though!

[dzbuster]

i think it's interesting reading the men's posts and comparing them to the womens. it relates to the "do men talk post". by what men tell me i'm lucky to be average. i claim total adequacy and i usually cum first at least the first couple of rounds

[juiceyjackie]

Does it matter ? as long as someone does.... I come sometimes and he does sometimes and we both do a lot... but it doesn't matter whose first or sometimes together... sometimes I am first, middle and last! ....lol:D

[sw_juggalo]

I always try to get her to cum first.. I like to finger her for awhile and get her to cum that way atleast once, after that she climbs on top of me and rides me till she cums, I try to get her to cum once or twice then we cum together... It's very Intense and Erotic for us!!
( you know you gotta love those climax control condoms)

[Santiago]

when I first started having sex I did and we would just keep goibng, then she did a little while later

I used to be able to cum 3 or 4 times a night, now im lucky if i can do 2, I always do 1. She cums 3 or 4 or 5 times before i do now...

[Wombat]

Originally posted by scotzoidman
unless it's that time of month, and she's just giving me some relief :D , she cums first... & 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc....


That's pretty much how it goes around here too ,although occasionally I'll get woken with a blowjob and not be expected to reciprocate. She usually gets her turn later in the day though, ;) :D

[Devillishgirl]

My SO tends to cum first....but always makes sure I follow :p

[Cold One]

As I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body she does.

I don't bother keeping track of time or the amount of orgasms my partners have as that takes concentration away from them. I beleive in giving your undivided attention to your partner and just tuning out the outside world no matter where you happen to be. (can also get you into trouble....) Anyways, mutual orgasm is also a wonder when it can be acheived but I have only a few experiences with this one as none of my "relationships" were actually the long term typed ones in the past few yrs. The only tip I can give here is to keep your body under control and to maximize your partners pleasure at any chance you get. Errogenous zones are relatively easy to find on any woman and thus you can assure her pleasure and of course your own. Excellent lovers are made not born, contrary to most peoples opinion.

[Brian_Watt]

when we have oral sex, she is afraid to cum first, don't ask me why. Most of the time she gets me to cum first. She has been close a few times.

[dm383]

I've found as the years roll on (Ahem!) my partner tends to cum first ...... not sure if it's age, experience, age...... LOL!

My current lady says cumming first is pretty new to her.. and she loves it! Must say, I do too!! :D

DM

[BigJohnson9]

bump

[divot109]

in my bed!!!

Like to start with a little back-and-forth foreplay, then I concentrate on her using my lips and tongue which always brings her to a brainshattering orgasm. Next, she goes down on me until I have an earth shattering orgasm into her mouth. Afterwards, we cuddle and touch for a spell, then I go back down on her until she reaches another intense orgasm, by which time I am almost always hard again...we can then go at it in a variety of positions for quite some time since I already came once!!!

[Catch22]

Who's on first and I don't know is on 2nd base.

[Pinot Noir]

I like to spend some tongue time on my lady and letting her cum first.

[Lilith]

Lately I cum first and last ;)

[kathy1]

With the ex, it always depended on our mood....sometimes me first and sometimes him first.....i really liked when he came first because by the time he got me off, he was ready again....and that one always lasted a loooooonnnnnnngggggg time....*sighs at fond memories*

[sodaklostsoul]

The last S/O I had it was a trade off.

[Pita]

I will usually cum two or three times during foreplay. Then when we do intercourse I like to wait for him to cum which will trigger mine. Its best for me when we can cum together.

[Merlin]

I'd have to say she really enjoys the oral so much that, she's usually the first to cum.

[Scarecrow]

bummmmp

[bare4you]

Always my pleasure to pleasure her first and ensure she has her orgasm first - that way both of us can relax for the next one.

[moozilla_78]

When I am with someone I get her to cum first and then I get her off as may times as I can before I do. I guess you can say I am a giver when it somes to that. I love to completely wear her out, and have her in a state of pure bliss.

[quisath]

She will always be the First to Cumm .......... After several times (orgasmic bliss) then it's my turn.

[Oldfart]

Well bumped.

[Coquette]

I cum first....or sometimes we do it together....

[Yamada]

I always come first. My guy is absolutely the expert at holding back until I've come. Sometims he'll be fucking me, and I'll be really enjoying it-like I'll be laying on my back, I pull my legs way up toward my chest with my hands, and I'll start to moan because it feels so good-that'll kind of set him off, especially if he's been holding back for a while-all of a sudden he'll pull out of me, and I'll say,"no, baby, not yet" and he'll say "no, just letting some out" and he'll kind of go uhh and this large amount of semen pours from his dick-it doesn't shoot, like it does when he has a complete come, and he doesn't scream either like he always does if he's losing it-then he recovers a few seconds and stuffs it back in me and he can last for much longer after that. Later on, if I'm still not worn out from coming, he may still pull out and let a little more out and keep on going, but it's all about whether I'm satisfied first. I'm glad I've got somebody that cares that much about me. I see girls that have husbands/boyfriends that kill themselves making them happy, and they couldn't give a shit. Those women deserve to have some guy that jumps on and squirts, and then rolls over and goes to sleep. Then they might appreciate the ones they've got a little more.

[fd4130]

I make sure to please my woman firet before letting go.

[Loulabelle]

Am I the only woman out there who sometimes wishes I got to cum last?

An orgasm really really takes it out of me, and just sometimes, I'd like for him to cum, then keep pleasuring me with fingers/tongue/cock (he doesn't go limp for quite some time afterwards) so that I could have the last orgasm of the night.....just so I can be selfish and stop when I'm satisfied, and not have to fight all those natural instincts to collapse on the bed exhausted and go to sleep.

Men often seem to pride themselves on holding back until a woman has cum, but surely a truly gallant act would be to carry on after he was satisfied......am I the only woman who feels that way?

[Lilith]

I like that too Lou. Happens here.

[Salacious]

We usually have what I call vessel sex. He cums, he's done. End of story.

No wonder I now have more toys than will fit in my toy box.

[Coaster]

Am I the only woman out there who sometimes wishes I got to cum last?

An orgasm really really takes it out of me, and just sometimes, I'd like for him to cum, then keep pleasuring me with fingers/tongue/cock (he doesn't go limp for quite some time afterwards) so that I could have the last orgasm of the night.....just so I can be selfish and stop when I'm satisfied, and not have to fight all those natural instincts to collapse on the bed exhausted and go to sleep.

Men often seem to pride themselves on holding back until a woman has cum, but surely a truly gallant act would be to carry on after he was satisfied......am I the only woman who feels that way?


She cums first most all the time. We both like it that way because once I've done most of the "work" I collapse and am useless to her for several minutes. By then, she's "lost it" never to be found again during that session. I don't want to say she's a lazy lover but then again, she's not the most active either. So it works for us