What do you do when he has a girlfriend?

[jolielefaye]

I met this man when he accidentally e-mailed me thinking that I was someone he once knew; we began talking, an as we began talking, the attraction between us grew. He and I began meeting regularly on the weekends for conjugal visits... and we decided that since he couldn't make it here other than upon weekends, we would remain friends with very many benes. He began seriously dating this girl who he met through a friend, but coming here at least twice a month, telling her that his job was taking him out of town. He and I have amazing sex together, but something more has grown in my feelings for him. I want him in my bed every night... making me scream every night... and I want her out of the picture for good. How should I go about this? Does anyone understand where I am coming from? If so, I would like to hear some advice. Thanks.

[Lilith]

I understand completely. Decide what you want and what you are willing to accept, if he can't/won't/doesn't want the same then at least you said your peace/piece.

[Loulabelle]

Yes, Lil is entirely right.

I had to do this once, and it was the most scary thing I ever had to do.

In the end I told him that I just didn't like having to share him with someone else anymore and he went very quiet and I thought I'd blown a great friendship, but in fact a couple of days later he told me he'd broken up with the other woman.

We're still together now and planning our wedding!

[bare4you]

Both of these ladies have given very wise advice. You will get to the point where you have to express your desires - take a chance. You never know the answer to the question until you ask the question. Life is too short to not seek happiness. Too often people are afraid to take a chance and when it comes to love, we fail to let our emotions show and then end up regretting it later. Take a chance! It worked for Loulabelle, it just might work for you too!! Good luck :x:

[Steph]

Could you make a big romantic dinner & 'proposition' him then?

It seems like the only reason you became friends with benefits was the distance. One of you could move, perhaps?

Good luck!