experience

[Joe UK]

hey guys just wanted some advice, im 19 and i was in a long term relationship and the girl i was with was my 1st sexual partner. Ive started dating someone new and shes 22 and more experienced. i think we're getting to a stage where we're going to sleep together soon and im worried that im not going to be experienced enough for her.

[Aqua]

I don't think you have much to worry about. Have you discussed your previous experience with her? Communicate your worries and I'm sure it'll be fine.

[BigBear57]

As the master Aqua suggests, communication is the key... relax and talk about it.... it's all good after that.

[Jude30]

Watch "Chasing Amy".

:)

[Lilith]

More experienced men aren't better lovers if their experiences are bad ones. A willing to explore and learn attitude beats experience hands down.

[nicole2309]

I always thought I would be willing to teach, that was until I came across someone not experienced. Now, I want someone who at least understands female anatomy, and some kind of idea about technique. The willingness to explore is always a big plus

[OzKristin]

hey guys just wanted some advice, im 19 and i was in a long term relationship and the girl i was with was my 1st sexual partner. Ive started dating someone new and shes 22 and more experienced. i think we're getting to a stage where we're going to sleep together soon and im worried that im not going to be experienced enough for her.

i jus got out of a long relationship, he was my first..so i know how you feel. I've started seeing other men and have slept with my second now so far and had the time of my life. Just relax and have fun is all you need to do.

[LixyChick]

As Lil said...experience isn't all it's cracked up to be if it's "bad" experience. There's nothing better than a blank canvas to make a work of art that is you...from the heart...and not what others have painted you to be!

Relax hun! We've all had to start somewhere.

Be attentive. Ask what she likes. Show/tell her what feels good for you. Always be honest and never stop communicating. If it hurts...say so. If you fear you are hurting her...ask. But don't fear the exploration. It's the most beautiful trip you'll ever take!

Time is on your side and you have many, many new and exciting sides to your sexuality to discover. Don't be afraid to show your true self. Keep her in focus, but don't lose yourself in the process. Tell her if you don't understand or know what she likes. Tell her if you've never tried something and you want to know how she'd like you to approach it.

I'm telling you hun...we women are some of this planet's greatest creatures and when we like a man (which I am assuming she likes you enough for you to feel that "it" is about to happen) we go all out to make an experience between us the best it can be!

Be yourself...never lie or boast...and ENJOY!

P.S. Welcum to Pixies Joe UK! Hope to see more posts from you around the forums...and keep us updated here if you can...k?

[Joe UK]

hey thanx for your help guys really helped alot she seemed to enjoy herself and i did to. duno wat i wud do without you all:D

[bare4you]

hey thanx for your help guys really helped alot she seemed to enjoy herself and i did to. duno wat i wud do without you all:D

You would do just fine! Too often we allow ourselves to think that sex has to be perfect each and every time has to end up with a mind-blowing orgasm. This just isn't the case all the time (don't we all wish it was) We all have had those experiences when the mind was willing but the body was weak (or sometimes the other way around). Just share yourself fully each and every time and no matter the outcome, the two of you will learn what works and what doesn't. Remember though - practice safe sex at all times! Unless you are ready to make that life-long commitment to what may result from your romantic interludes, you must take the step to be responsible. Geez - now I sound like you dad! Sorry - didn't mean to lecture. Just relax and enjoy it as it happens! :cheers: