PDA

View Full Version : Balancing Life and Love?


txgrneyes
07-28-2005, 06:39 PM
How do you balance life and love when you are a single parent?

That is my question to you. I want to be sooooo bad and enjoy my sex life but I have two sweet children. 1 boy (7) and 1 girl (10). Both curious as hell what mom is doing. I can barely get on the internet without one of them wanting to look over my shoulder and see what mom is reading, looking at or just plain doing or they just say I love you or kiss me on the cheek. It is like when the computer comes on it sends a signal to the kids saying, “mom is now on the computer” even when they are sleeping. I am open with them by explaining to them anything they might see. So far they have not seen anything I have done with the exception of when a “friend” came down to see me. They actually met him. Which was a first. Normally they don’t meet my interest.

Back to the question. It is like I am torn between what I want to do and what I know (from my raising). So how do I balance it?
Better yet… How bad :devilish: can I be and still get into heaven :wingang: ?

Any advice will help. :confused:

Aqua
07-28-2005, 07:30 PM
Not sure exactly how you blance it, but you do need to make sure you make time for yourself and your needs. Consider a 2nd computer... one for your room that you can retreat to at night behind a closed door.

Glyndwr
07-28-2005, 07:54 PM
Better yet… How bad :devilish: can I be and still get into heaven :wingang: ?

Any advice will help. :confused:

Hi txgrneyes

take a look at this thread it may answer your question
http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?t=25327

As for the children, it doesn't get any easier, as they get older they get more curious and want to stay up later at night, they also 'understand' more of what is going on, but without kids what would be the point?

lonelyarmywife
07-29-2005, 10:34 PM
Am also a single parent right now, but my child is only one, so it's a little different. The thing that I have learned is to take time for yourself. Sometimes you have to tell your kids "Mommy is busy right now and I need you to stay in bed please." Then give them a smooch on the cheekie and send them back to bed. I know it's hard, but if you don't take time for yourself you will end up resenting your children for time lost and I can't imagine how awful that would be.

(hugs)

LAW