Stale Mate

[Lilith]

as opposed to a fresh one like mine :D

Just curious how you all conduct yourselves when you have a difference of opinion with your loved one. Are you most often able to discuss it without it escalating to an argument? Or do things typically get heated?

Do you "fight fair", ie. keeping to just the issue at hand, explain it from your point of view without making accusations and placing blame? Or is all fair in love and love? Does your better half?

Are you the type of person who admits when you are wrong? Can you agree to disagree? Do you need to be told that you are right and conceded to? How do your disagreements usually end? Someone just gives up? Make up sex?

[wyndhy]

:blink:
:D

[Lilith]

you might need to plead the 5th

[wyndhy]

more like marital evidentiary privilege cause it's never MY fault :p

[Lilith]

Was that in the pre-nup?

[Cheyanne]

Cobalt and I are able to discuss things. I don't think that we have EVER gotten into a heated argument...we had too much of that sort of thing with our ex's.

We both recognize the fact that there are time that we will disagree or have a difference of opinion - and that doesn't make either one of us wrong or right - just different. Life is too short to spend any of it arguing or getting upset about something to the point there is yelling or anger...

[wyndhy]

i shall absolve myself of any and all blame and point the finger at my astrological pre-diposition. your anus was in her sinus or some shit...so i'm a scorpio and prone to MINOR and TEMPORAY fits of rage and/or murderous intentions.



it's really TOO bad i don't believe in that crap

[wyndhy]

Was that in the pre-nup?
LMFAO!
(missed that before somehow)

[Mae]

Believe it or not, we have foam bats. Like Nerf bats? We go grab them and start whacking each other. After about 10 minutes, we're laughing so hard that the disagreements fade, and all becomes ridiculous. :)

Sure, there are some times when we have heated discussions. But, that will usually pass. And in the bigger scheme of things, is it REALLY that important how the butter is placed on the butter dish? (Well, to him it is. LOL)

[Lilith]

LOL or if the toilet paper comes over the top towards you or under the back

[Mae]

Bingo! (For lesson in restraint, see post in "Pet Peeve" thread.) :rofl:

[wyndhy]

LOL or if the toilet paper comes over the top towards you or under the back
HA!
i'd be thrilled if he would just replace the damn stuff :p

he'd be thrilled if i would remember to close the butter compartment's lid in the fridge so it doesn't fall out and bash a pound of rock hard butter onto his foot when he opens the door. :blink:

[BIGbad]

or when you put the empty boxes back in the fridge, freezer, and cabinets!

[wyndhy]

:rofl:
it's a tactic...i just don't to what end yet. :p

[Steph]

If things get heated, I like to leave the room or the apartment just to let things calm down. I do that especially when I see he's about to say something unrelated to the topic at hand (pet peeve #5596).

[Oldfart]

We're like Cheyanne.

[LixyChick]

It's rare for us to have a "knock down-drag out"...but we bicker a lot. Specially if we are doing a home project...cause I am the solver of all problems and he is the swearer of the universal adjective! Seems he swears more when it's a project that'll benefit me more-so than us or the household and how it runs.

Now...it's a known fact, worldwide, that I am usually right. If I'm not (and it's happened once), I'll admit it and appologize. I don't rub it in...I just say, "Told ya" and that is that! What? Oh...that's gloating and is the same as rubbing it in? OK...I'll stop that then...NOT!

Most times we resolve the bickering before it gets out of hand...by me shutting my mouth and letting him make the damn mistake that I was trying to prevent initially...so I can say, "Told ya"...and he can roll his eyes and get it over with! Takes less time and energy than my insisting that we do it my way just one damn f&%*ing time.

I honestly can't remember the last time we had a "big" fight. It's been years... I do know that. I guess we just bicker everything out before it becomes big.