Women

[Belial]

Sorry if this doesn't make sense.

For a long time I was convinced I was hideously ugly and boring. I'm no longer convinced of this, but I'm having problems reconciling this with my apparent inability to attract women. So, what is it women are looking for? And where are they looking? Cause I can't find any that will give me much more than the time of day, and those that will don't want to be anything more than a buddy - which is nice, but that still leaves a hole.....

Anyway, I'll shut up now and leave myself open to any suggestions you might have.

[Fangtasia]

Many of my buddies have become more over time

[osuche]

I think there can be such a thing as wanting it too bad. I find that I pick up the most men when I'm not even looking for a relationship...and I've had several guy friends tell me the same thing.

Every woman is looking for something different -- it's tough to generalize other than good hygene (which I know isn't a problem). You have a dark sense of humor -- maybe you're looking for the lady who really appreciates that?

Good luck, my friend. ((((Belial))))

[fzzy]

Congratulations on your change of how you look at yourself!!! Allow yourself to adjust to that in as many ways as possible, it will send out a more positive vibe to the people around you and I think you might find it amazing how things begin to change .... in the meantime, I'd just like to say that I'm very pleased for you that you've managed to begin to see yourself in a better light ... that isn't an easy transition and it takes work! Great job!!!! (((((Belial))))

[Loulabelle]

I think fzzy hit the nail on the head hun.

Women want to feel good about themselves (just as men do) and so tend to gravitate to people who make them feel good. That's why a positive attitude is so important and it's something that feeds off itself. The more positive you are, the more positive those around you are, which in turn makes it easier for you to feel positive too.

It's great that you're starting to realise that your self perception has not been very accurate up to now.....keep working on it, and keep being prepared to step outside of your comfort zone in terms of social experiences and your confidence will grow and grow.....you'll also learn more about the kind of people you like to be around and what kind of woman you're looking for. Most people will tell you that finding someone who's attracted to you is the easy part.....finding someone who's just right for you is harder, but I have every confidence that it will happen hun. And as others have said here, it usually happens when you least expecting it.

If all else fails, save up for the airfair to England sweetie....I'll hook y'up. ;)

[PantyFanatic]

You should have PM’ed me.:) I could have saved you all the worries. ;)

You ARE ugly!

All guys are ugly! There is no way any guy can ever be in the same universe as a woman when it comes to being “appealing” to the eye, so give up trying to be “attractive”.

And that’s not the only difference by a long shot. In spite of “Gender Equality”, they are a different species. Equality is only about the functioning in the shared, outside world we live in. It’s the powers inside of them that are the REAL difference. They have what is magical powers to us.:dizzy: They can feel and sense things about you inside, in the same way that the outside of them cause reactions in us.

The best we can do from an appearance standpoint, is to not be repulsive.:yikes: They can ‘see’ what you’re feeling, so you have to do the things that ‘feel’ good for you. When you’re super clean and neat, you ‘feel’ good. ……………… They know it! When you ‘feel’ clever or comical, …they know it! Not when you’re just horny, but when you ‘feel’ really sexy, …they know it. When you have your act together and are ready for the world to try and screw with you, …they know it. And when you feel like a pathetic piece of garbage, they know that too! They know all that shit!:rolleyes2……… Even when they don’t know they know it. ;)

So the best thing to do is to cut your own best path through the woods and pay attention. They find you….. and it just happens. I don’t understand it at all, but it is a good system and it works. :D

:cheers:

[cowgirltease]

OMG!!!!!!!!! :yikes: HE KNOWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You weren't supposed to know all that. :p

[Mercury_Maniac]

Well Belial.......i'm in the same boat, hand me a paddle and a beer and we can set sail away to the island where women don't want us.

Its really frustrating i find where you can meet wonderful, beautiful, intelligent women on the internet, who are in fact interested in you and think you are attractive, but yet in the immediate area in person with people you see everyday don't think much of you and don't even have a hint of some kind of attraction.

I myself am clueless.

[cherrypie7788]

^^ I'm moving to wherever you are to give those chicks a reality check!

[boilergirl1]

although the preceeding posts are hitting it on the head as they say i couldn't resist giving you a huge HUGGLE and a passionate kiss those ladies who aren't interested are just plain dumb and probably will never have a meaningful relationship themselves anyway. like the others have said it really does happen when you are least expecting it to.

and pf shame on you beauty is still in the eye of the beholder and omg you really do know!! lol

[sodaklostsoul]

OK.....PF who told you!!!!!!!

So Belial & Merc.....while you 2 are paddling to the island look out for the waves cause they will sneak up on you!!

We love you both and when the time comes you will find that special someone. It took me a very very very long time and 785 miles to find mine. If I can then you guys can too. Like I've said before....the waiting sucks!!!!

Think positive and find the good points and yes you both have good points!!!!!! I bet if I was to meet both of you in real life after an hour of chatting and getting to know you I could list at least 5 good points for each of you. I could list a few now but it's harder online to get to know someone. I'm thinking that when your someones come along they will be treated like queen's.

I hope this makes sense.....I have'nt had enough coffee yet! :)

[nicole2309]

if you two head off to a secluded island... I wanna go too please, please, please

I'm sure you will both find someone who will appreciate you for the sexy men that you are. Some girls just take longer than others to get over the 'i wanna bad boy' thing, and actually start looking for a good man. I mean I know I'm 23, and just got to that point in the last couple of years. The girls who realize what wonderful catches you two are will be very luck women.

[GingerV]

Amen Nicole! Lucky ladies indeed.

And holy smokes, PF....I think you may have just qualified for a key to the girls' locker room. I think you've just about got us figured out...didn't think guys ever managed that ;).

Really guys, as cliche as it is....in my experience, women are attracted to confidence. And I know, I know....it's a chicken and egg thing. Where's that first dash of confidence supposed to come from? It sounds frustrating, but only until you see that tacitly, you're asking the wrong question. My guy friends have had screaming fits at me when I said it was that simple....but they thought "confidence" was "sexual confidence". It seriously doesn't have to be. Have you SEEN some the pug-uglies that women have put up as poster boys? Jagger just never was a pretty man ;). Hell, there's something especially breath-catching about a guy who's confident about everything else in his life...but whom I could give sexual confidence to.

Look into yourselves, find what you ARE confident about, find what you love, and let that show through. Focus on your strengths, and so will the women around you. Contrarily, if you focus on your weaknesses or your insecurities....so will the people in your life. It is pretty much that simple, even if simple doesn't always mean easy. But have faith, you'll get there. And as a happy bonus, if you find a woman who's attracted to what you love most in life.....you've got someone to share that part of your life with, as well as your bed.

[Belial]

Look into yourselves, find what you ARE confident about, find what you love, and let that show through. Focus on your strengths, and so will the women around you. Contrarily, if you focus on your weaknesses or your insecurities....so will the people in your life. It is pretty much that simple, even if simple doesn't always mean easy. But have faith, you'll get there. And as a happy bonus, if you find a woman who's attracted to what you love most in life.....you've got someone to share that part of your life with, as well as your bed.

In my experience, what I have been confident about means nothing to virtually any women I've met.

[Belial]

IMost people will tell you that finding someone who's attracted to you is the easy part.....finding someone who's just right for you is harder...

Those people should speak for themsleves :p

[Loulabelle]

:spank:

[Syngoodgirl2]

Don't be so hard on yourself guys. I have found that worrying about such things makes life harder than it should be. I used to be in the same situation you are in (except I am female). And ya know I enjoy life soo much more just being me and having fun with it. I have made soo many more friends in this frame of mind than worrying about everything.

BTW I wouldn't have a problem going out with either of you. :hug:

[Doxis]

removed post due to posting under the wrong god damn name AGAIN, I'd like to know why it does this whenever I use foxfire, I'll just have to use IE to do all my posting on this site

[Fangtasia]

I'm not familiar with Foxfire....

But it maybe because IE is putting a cookie on your system to remember you....and when you change and use firefox i'd say the IE cookie doesnt work

Dunno just an idea

[Lilith]

removed post due to posting under the wrong god damn name AGAIN, I'd like to know why it does this whenever I use foxfire, I'll just have to use IE to do all my posting on this site
Since you have several nicks, I'd be glad to close some of them and then you would not auto log into them.

[!rebeccakohl!]

The real aphrodisiacs for hetero Girls is when a guy is confident, funny, understanding and complimentary. Looking cute helps too, of course. :) If girls are wanting you as a friend they obviously think of you as a nice person, someone to be trusted. But you'll stay stuck there in the "Friendship Zone" unless you take control and move things to the next level. You need to let her know that you find her attractive (compliments work wonders: "You've got a beautiful smile" is sure to make her show it off to you). Be a bit cheeky with your advances. Feel free to borrow this line if you think you can pull it off with humour, charm and authority: "I've got this dastardly plan to kiss you on the lips. Do you think I'll get away with it?"

Even if she does say "no", she'll probably be amused and you won't feel like you've made an utter fool of yourself by just lunging at her suddenly when she's been thinking of you as a friend rather than a lover.

It's great that you're beginning to feel good about yourself. I'm damn sure that you haven't been rejected in the past because of your looks. It's more likely to be a lack of confidence, and that's something you can work on.

[Incubus255]

Thanks for the offer there lilith, naw dont' close it lol, see thats my girlfriends login, and we've recently had a bit of a spat shall we say and are split up and not living together at the moment lol so when I accidentaly post under her name and it gets sent to her email it just causes a bit of confusion, no problems I"ll deal with it lol sorry if I sounded a little overly aggrivated at the time ^_^

[Belial]

Thanks everyone for your responses, everything helps :) :hug:

[Kaelynn]

I can't speak for other women, but I have an idea of what I want...

I want a man that can be rough, but also gentle. A man that can teach me something I do not know. A man that can have fun just lounging around, but also knows when it's time for us to get out of the house. A man that Laughs as loud as I do. A man that Loves as deeply and as quickly as me. A man that knows when to stand beside me and help support me when I need him. A man that isn't affraid to tell me what he wants. A man that demands my time as much as I do his. A man who is honest. A man that thinks about me as often as I think about him. A man that needs me, as much as I need him. A man that can make love, and then turn me into his pet. A man that is a Master and a Lover. A man that is full of suprises. A man that is spontaneous. A man that is happy with him and with me. A man that doesn't want to change any part of me. This is my perfect man. It might be too much to ask... but this is my dream and ideal relationship.

Where do I look? I look everywhere... Honestly some Friends can become amazing lovers. I hope my man is also my best friend. The moment I have to lie to someone I am interested in, I know he isn't for me. When I know I am into it too deep with someone, is when I can't think about anything else but them, and just thinking of them makes me start singing. I hate and love this feeling, you might ask or wonder why I hate it... it's because it is never returned when I want it to be. Why I love it... because I feel like I am floating.

When I find a man who can float like I do, when I do, then I have found him, and I hope to be with him for the rest of my life.

Until that time... I have fun and try not to hurt myself too badly, Altho I am getting stung pretty hard right now... Why do you pixie men have to be so damn perfect and so far away!?