Kaelynn
05-01-2005, 08:25 PM
Ok everyone... I need your help... There is this guy that lives next door that I really like. We have talked to each other a few times here or there and decided we wanted to watch a video together. I didn't hear from him for awhile until I suddenly received a drunken phone call out of no where. I laughed at him cause he was wasted and then made plans to get together again to watch Halloween, my favorite scary movie.
Well a few weeks go by and I finally make it to the library to pick it up and I call him and tell him I have it till Sunday so we need to get together sometime that week. He suggests that night. I was like ok, sure why not. So he comes over, he is sooo sweet kisses my cheek and holds my hand while I am curled up in a ball on my bed squeezing the life out of my pillow. Which by the way he took the floor until I pulled him up into my bed. Anyway, we started making out and he was really respectful of where he put his hands avoiding certain areas and keeping his hands on my shoulders or my back. The best part is he was an excellent kisser, definately on my top three list. He has the whole hair pulling thing down to a science... ANYWAY
A week passes, I call to see what he is doing and he is at another party getting wasted and I tell him I am going to watch a meteor shower and asked if he wanted to join. He said he would meet me there and he never showed up, he was so wasted he lost his cell phone for a little bit. When he found it he called and I was already at home in bed, he told me he had something for me. So I told him if he wanted to come over he could. An hour later he comes over, he brought me beer... Why did he bring me beer you might wonder... well a week before I told him I needed one cause I was stressed... so it was his way of providing a need I guess. Anyway we ended up having sex, after which I told him that it was a mistake cause I wanted to do things differently with him. I wanted a relationship...
So there was the background now here is where all of you come in...
A week after we slept together, we are talking online. He tells me we need to talk, but not then cause surprize surprize, he was drunk. Well I go for a three hour walk cause I was hot and sick. When I got back I instant messaged him and asked if he was upset with me. He tells me that he was so wasted he doesn't really remember what happened last week. I was like ok... Then he accusses me of telling everyone that I slept with him. Apparently he thinks everyone in his dorm knows, everyone in his frat knows, and everyone he knows, knows.
THIS is a crazy thought... I told 3 people, My roomate, My co-worker, and a friend who lives in the house with me. Now I know none of them talked and the only reason I told them because I wanted their advice, I was ashamed of what I did I wouldn't go shouting it from the rooftops, we had only hung out twice and then I slept with him, I wasn't exactly proud of myself.
But here is the kicker of how I know that none of the people I talked to told him anything... He apparently was called an Ass for inviting himself over and forcing his way into my bed with me, and for taking advantage of me. I wouldn't say this! WOULD NOT! Everyone I talked to I only said good things about him, I was just ashamed of myself...
So... what do I do now... I still like him... I want to hang out when he hasn't been drinking. He is a good guy that has a low self esteem at points, for example I would playfully tease and it would really hurt his feelings. Any suggestions would be appreciated, I understand this is a long one thanks for your time...
~K~
Well a few weeks go by and I finally make it to the library to pick it up and I call him and tell him I have it till Sunday so we need to get together sometime that week. He suggests that night. I was like ok, sure why not. So he comes over, he is sooo sweet kisses my cheek and holds my hand while I am curled up in a ball on my bed squeezing the life out of my pillow. Which by the way he took the floor until I pulled him up into my bed. Anyway, we started making out and he was really respectful of where he put his hands avoiding certain areas and keeping his hands on my shoulders or my back. The best part is he was an excellent kisser, definately on my top three list. He has the whole hair pulling thing down to a science... ANYWAY
A week passes, I call to see what he is doing and he is at another party getting wasted and I tell him I am going to watch a meteor shower and asked if he wanted to join. He said he would meet me there and he never showed up, he was so wasted he lost his cell phone for a little bit. When he found it he called and I was already at home in bed, he told me he had something for me. So I told him if he wanted to come over he could. An hour later he comes over, he brought me beer... Why did he bring me beer you might wonder... well a week before I told him I needed one cause I was stressed... so it was his way of providing a need I guess. Anyway we ended up having sex, after which I told him that it was a mistake cause I wanted to do things differently with him. I wanted a relationship...
So there was the background now here is where all of you come in...
A week after we slept together, we are talking online. He tells me we need to talk, but not then cause surprize surprize, he was drunk. Well I go for a three hour walk cause I was hot and sick. When I got back I instant messaged him and asked if he was upset with me. He tells me that he was so wasted he doesn't really remember what happened last week. I was like ok... Then he accusses me of telling everyone that I slept with him. Apparently he thinks everyone in his dorm knows, everyone in his frat knows, and everyone he knows, knows.
THIS is a crazy thought... I told 3 people, My roomate, My co-worker, and a friend who lives in the house with me. Now I know none of them talked and the only reason I told them because I wanted their advice, I was ashamed of what I did I wouldn't go shouting it from the rooftops, we had only hung out twice and then I slept with him, I wasn't exactly proud of myself.
But here is the kicker of how I know that none of the people I talked to told him anything... He apparently was called an Ass for inviting himself over and forcing his way into my bed with me, and for taking advantage of me. I wouldn't say this! WOULD NOT! Everyone I talked to I only said good things about him, I was just ashamed of myself...
So... what do I do now... I still like him... I want to hang out when he hasn't been drinking. He is a good guy that has a low self esteem at points, for example I would playfully tease and it would really hurt his feelings. Any suggestions would be appreciated, I understand this is a long one thanks for your time...
~K~