Dominant seeking submissive.

[Soldm9]

I am a former professional dominant now looking for a submissive for a more personal relationship. I am 27 years old male, retired and living in Houston, TX. I am 5'10" and 190lbs. I am into photography, art, games of all varieties, movies and books. I have been dating a lot, but it is difficult to be open and honest with most women you meet in clubs that what you desire is a submissive. They either freak out or think I desire a slave without a will of their own. So to reiterate I am looking for a woman who is either a seasoned submissive or someone who is seeking to expand their visions of pleasure. I am not posting a pic on this link, but would be happy to share photos. Distance is of little matter, as I have the time and the means to travel. Please message me directly if interested.

[Lilith]

Hi soldm9!

I've always wondered how lucrative being a male professional dominant would be...was it all that you hoped it would be?

[Cheyanne]

Hmmmmmmmmmm... I am not a submissive - I am just wondering if you are still a massuse for strippers and if not - give us some pointers on how you were able to retire at such an early age???? :D <sigh> I would love to be able to retire while I am young!

Oh, and welcome back to the boards!

[Soldm9]

As a dominant, I got paid fairly poorly. Men in the field typically get paid on the average of 75 dollars an hour where as a woman will get paid on the average of 250 dollars an hour. A woman I worked with, and well was sorta my mentor charged 500 dollars an hour and I have seen some women charge close to a grand for their services. I like doing it as a job, but it was less personal then if you have a partner who is a submissive. The emotional connection makes it much more satisfying. Also as a professional dom, I had male clients as well. One of my best clients in fact worked as a senior stock analyst for JP Morgan. He was an older man whose wife tried to satisfy him in that way and could not. She in turn suggested a male dom that way she would not get jealous of the attentions. When it is a job, at least with me, it is not about sex or my pleasure...just about fulfilling the fantasies of others.

As for my massage therapy. That is not as lucrative, but much more pleasurable. It unfortunately is a fickle buisness that leaves me going home frustrated as much as it gives me wild and fun times. So, I have a few clients that I have kept, but have not been actively seeking any new ones.

I have also attempted to seek my sub thru my massage clients since 90% of them are strippers, but that has had mixed results with few good outcomes. Most of the strippers I know are either dom's sexually or are sub's in relationships with abusive men. Cest le vie.

[Callie691]

Most of the strippers I know are either dom's sexually... have you ever tried being the Sub in a relationship. or train someone to be the submissive you want them to be. maybe to a point you could both take turns being the dominant one for the night?

i'm sorry you cant find someone, but i wish you luck. Hpe you are well.

[cherrypie7788]

I've not had much experience with being a "sub", really, but I am very submissive in general when it comes to sex with men. I don't think I'm really what you're looking for, but good luck in finding her!

[FallenAngel5]

Not looking for a Dom right now, but hi. :) :wave:

[BSOD]

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