Poping the cherry?

[sexystud34]

A couple questions here. Some are basic BUT I want to really understand this so excuse some of the "dumb" questions.

1) What is actually happening when you pop the cherry?

2) Why do they call it a "cherry"

3) A girl can do it themselves with a sex toy correct?

4) If I was to have sex with a virgin, whats the best way to handle this situation in terms of clean up and approach?

5) Im only 5 inches, but I am assuming I would pop her cherry correct?

[Mark Vieth]

1) What happens is you are breaking the hymen

2) Coz of the colour it gives off when you break the hymen

3) This one is best answered by a girl.

4) Lay a towel down on the bed on the area that they will be lying down on. Go gently when you start and when it happens and you have broken the hymen, take the towel and put it in the wash. The girl should also have a shower as well just to wash the area clean.

5) Size isn't important. It's what you do with the damn thing that counts!!!!

[cherrypie7788]

When you're "popping the cherry" you're actually breaking the hymen, a thin membrane that SOME, NOT ALL, girls/women who are virgins have.

A girl can break her own hymen in many different ways, and yes sex toys are one. Sometimes, she doesn't have to be doing anything sexual for it to break and a lot of women don't even have hymens by the time they're ready to have sex.

Handle a virgin the same way you handle everyone else :rolleyes2 You're probably expecting blood, I guess, but if that doesn't happen don't assume she's been lying to you.

Yes, it doesn't matter what size your penis is. You would still "pop her cherry".

[sexystud34]

So if I pop the cherry should I stop or should we both continue till we are finished?

5 inches, i am so self conscience about that. Yeah everyone says, "its what you do with it that counts" but my god, what ALL can you do,lol.

Whats the best position for a someone like me(5 incher lol) for the girl to recieve the most out of me?

I never did the missionary(sp) position where im not face to face. Im affraid to try that cause of me being small. Is it possible for me to do the position where teh girl is spreading her legs wide and im upright but facing her?

Doggy works great for me as does the missionary position where i am face to face.

[Lilith]

So if I pop the cherry should I stop or should we both continue till we are finished?

5 inches, i am so self conscience about that. Yeah everyone says, "its what you do with it that counts" but my god, what ALL can you do,lol.

Whats the best position for a someone like me(5 incher lol) for the girl to recieve the most out of me?

I never did the missionary(sp) position where im not face to face. Im affraid to try that cause of me being small. Is it possible for me to do the position where teh girl is spreading her legs wide and im upright but facing her?

Doggy works great for me as does the missionary position where i am face to face.

If she is a virgin then I would suggest face to face because you should be making the event all about her and very itimate. You should spend more time worrying about how you can touch, lick, tease, please her than the mechanics of fucking.

[sexystud34]

I never said I wasn't worried about doing those things(touch, lick, tease, please) I was just wondering if I could pull that position I mentioned above off with out looking like a fool.

[Lilith]

She's a virgin, she wouldn't know the difference would she????

[sexystud34]

Of course she would, she will be able to see it with her own eyes. Also im sure she has seen sex on tv, movies, maybe even porn, lol.

[Lilith]

Sex in real life is not like in the movies or on tv. It takes maturity and experience to realize that, so yes it will not be what she expects reagrdles of your approach or skill level. If you do everything possible to focus on her, then you should not be focusing on what you feel inadequate about. Insecurity about your size is not a physical problem that can be cured by finding a deeper, better position, it's a mental one that can only be cured by gaining self confidence. Learn to please women and you will feel successful in your amourous endeavors and learn to accept your size . The right woman will appreciate all your talents and you will both feel comfortable exploring ways to get the maximum potential from what you have to work with. If this woman is a virgin...your size and trying to get her to " recieve the most out of me" as you said...is not an issue. Chances are you will have no idea when and if her cherry pops because you will be so busy making the event as wonderful for her as possible, and be caught up in the passion.

[sexystud34]

^^^ Well said and I agree completely. Me talking about that position really is a question I wanted answered with someone my size. Cause it would make her feel good and allow me to mix things up a bit.

[Loulabelle]

I can guarrantee that virgin or not, she'll not give two hoots about how large you are and what it feels like in what positions.

For a start if you want a woman to feel pleasure you'll focus on pleasuring her clitoris which is outside of the vagina and will not be in contact with your penis during intercourse. The best way for me to get pleasure in the right spot during intercourse, is to have the guy kind of grind his pelvic region against mine, which effectively squashes my clit between our bodies. That's where the pleasure is for me rather than in a mindless pumping of his organ in and out of my vagina. For this to work you need to be as close as you can possibly be to each other, so a smaller penis is actually better (shock horror!!!!). In the position you want to try, I'd suggest that you'd both enjoy it if you also gently stimulated her clit with your fingers while gliding in and out of her.

It's never even occurred to me that the size of a guy's dick would make a difference to whether a guy could 'pull off' a certain position.....the two of you can either get into a position or you can't and that's all there is to it.

Plus, if want to make sure the lady in question really enjoys herself in your company and will remember you forever as a fantastic lover, then learn to perfect the art of making her cum with your mouth and tongue. I'm sure you would agree that a woman could be fat or thin, short or tall, brunette or blonde but if she gives a great blow job you're going to have fun in bed. Women really aren't so different.

[Mark Vieth]

Just to add some more here, check a thread of mine that I started if you have any further questions. It will answer some questions that you may have. Now it did cause quite the stir so don't be alarmed by some of the responses. It is called "How to woo a virgin". It may or may not help. But I think it will.

Lou is right about size,which I also voiced my opinions on. If you are going to do it with a virgin then you are best to do the missionary position. It means more to them and that is what it's all about.

Just to put your mind at rest as well about size. There are guys out there who have large penises. Now they have a problem with sex, as some girls won't have sex with them the minute they see it. So as Lil said, it's all mental. As long as you let go of that anxiety that you have about your size, then I doubt that whoever you are in bed with, will even notice.

[Oldfart]

The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayna talks of three types of woman, whose vaginas are

of three sizes, basically small, medium and large.

It suggests that men seek out compatible women for sexual harmony.

[sexystud34]

Thanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot.

[Stinger]

Alright...let me put myself out there.

People have explained what cherry is.

Let me tell you about my wife and my first time together. We were each other's firsts. I popped her cherry a week before we went all the way with my thumb. She freaked becauase we were in a dark room and she didn't realize until she got home. She was achy and her panties were red.
So when the time came, I had her totally relaxed and it didn't hurt. She actually asked when we were done, "Is that it?" She swears it is because she expected it to hurt becuase that is what all of her friends have told her. Of course I took it as it was me being inexperience as well. I am sure it was both.
Remember, this is more meaningful for girls that it is for us guys. Make it special and put all of your focus on her and not on you main man. You will get one chance to make this a very special moment for her. How do you want to be remembered by her? You nervous about being small or that you made her toes curl?

[DangerousPet]

well i guess i'll add my two cents here...

My first time was well... less than memorable. For a few reasons, some of which i take responsibility for.
First--he wanted to do it because it was 'the thing to do' and 'everybody was doing it' I said yes because honestly it was just the easy way out. I didnt have to fight him on it if i just gave in.
Second--it was uncomfortable. both in that neither of use knew what we were doing and i was so nervous and tense... if anyone's heard of the 'wam-bam thank you mam' expression... it was that exactly. The only difference was it was the first time. We didnt 'prepair' i guess you could say. We were both really tense and nervous and to be completely honest... it was one of the most painful things i've ever experienced in my life!!!!

My advice... seriously, take it slow. For girls its not the same, we (steriotypically now) do not go bragging to everyone that "hey we shagged X lastnight..." Make her feel special, and safe. Dont rush things. If she is completely relaxed things go much smoother, believe me. And she will remember you as a great lover. bonus for you :)

thats just my view though