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[AngelicVampires]

I never thought I would find myself debating so much about this. It's like a constant battle. Perhaps I should tell you what battle that is huh? lol. Is it normal for me to have such strong sexual urges/desires towards a guy I have only been with in person 3 times? I met him online a little over a month ago. Since then, we talk every night and are going to meet again today. He seems to be everything I could have ever hoped for. He's not pressuring me for anything, says that he doesn't want to do anything that would make me feel even remotely uncomfortable. My imagination is totally happy with thinking about doing all these things but I keep myself from doing them physically. The whole "sex" thing was avoided in my family so I have learned that it is bad and should never be discussed or attempted. So, as you can imagine, I'm confused as to why I have such strong urges but can't express them. Granted, I'm not in a hurry to cash in my v-card.....I know that I have to wait until I feel the time is right. In the meantime, can anyone give me some pointers on how to deal with the raging hormones?

[PantyFanatic]

Cold showers will help:)......................... until you turn off the water. :rofl:

[AngelicVampires]

Perhaps I should talk to "Mama" Lilith, lol :)

[BIBI]

Cold showers will help:)......................... until you turn off the water. :rofl:

PF...you hit and run so much that it is amazing your still allowed to drive! :devilish:

It has been so many damn years since I was a virgin that I have a problem remembering being one!


Sorry I can't think to give you any advice right this moment! :)

[imaginewithme]

I dont think there is ever a right time or place to loose your virginity. I thought so growing up also, but it just happens. If you let it happen and don't feel good about what you've done, just watch yourself the next time. These are real feelings you're having, even if you've never met the person face to face or have known him for years.....it's real and it's a nice feeling to have towards someone.

You do what YOUR heart, mind and body says........you are the only one that can make you happy, in this and in everything.

Hugs!

[wyndhy]

Is it normal for me to have such strong sexual urges/desires towards a guy I have only been with in person 3 times?
yes! never doubt for a moment that it is.

and since your already waiting for the right time, you don’t want any advice there. :D (darn, i thought i might get some practice :D:D )

and your family may not be able to talk sex but you are….you’re here. plus, you’ve got a plan and your stickin’ too it. sound thinking.

so my advice for your hormones? act like a lovesick teenager, if that’s how you feel. and some necking wouldn’t be remiss either ;)

[Lilith]

Exactly!! My advice....enjoy the sweet torturous bliss. There is nothing in this world that compares to the tingle you feel welling up deep inside you when he kisses your neck and you feel his palm graze your breast for the first time. Damn! makes me damp just thinking about it. Make out, smooch, rub anything and everything, work eachother into a frenzy and then if you decide it's time to stop then go home. Of course once there you could always fantasize about the evening and what it would have been like had you decided not to go home, while you bring your self to orgasm.

[boilergirl1]

amen sistah lilith!!!!!!

lost mine too early to know , but like they already said when you are ready you will and it wont matter whether you been siiting around obsessing about it or not.

soft hot thoughts, bg1 :x:

[Scarecrow]

No one has pointed out that to help, besides that cold shower, is to use your hand. It has been the relief of virgins since the beginning of time.

[maddy]

Ah, Scarecrow you beat me to it. I just was reading this thread as another virgin, and know just how to make those urges go away on my own. Let your fingers walk your body and feed the urge, or invest in a two or three. If nothing else it will allow you to become very comfortable with your body and the physical feelings it can go through, as well as finding what you really like for pleasure.

[PantyFanatic]

PF...you hit and run so much that it is amazing your still allowed to drive! :devilish:....
*BEEP-BEEP*:drive:










:D

[Kaelynn]

Oh my lil roomie what a tangled web you weave...

Girl you know how much I love you, I have told you time and time agian. You are such an amazing smart girl and I love that I have gotten the chance to live with you. You have helped me through so many of my own problems, questions, and issues, I can't thank you enough. So now it is my turn... let me tell you what I think of the situation happening between you two...

As usual I am going to revert back to my own personal experience... James.
I had talked to him eight monthes before we met, and yes I did go back on my word when I promised I would take someone with me, but I havn't regreted it yet and I doubt I ever will. The very first night with him he gave me my very first kiss ever and touched me in ways I had never been touched before, he sent my head and heart right into the sky. That wonderful stary sky... When I first laid eyes on him, I started falling, he hadn't even spoke two words yet, and I knew right there that he was the man I had dreamt about. That afternoon, evening at dinner, and night under the stars he had my heart racing. I wanted to look into his eyes and did many times but always ended up looking away... I had a lust for him from the very start. I want to be clear in the fact that he always made it my choice and moved very slow with me to see if I would stop him. The very first time I met him I couldn't say no to his hands, his wonderful hands...

Now why was I like this you might wonder... well... my family wasn't ever really closed about sex, trust me it wasn't accepted for me to go out and be with boys all hours of the night... thus why I didn't do it till I was with James, two years after I moved out of my parent's house. My mom is very open to talk about sex if I wanted to with her, I don't want to, lol. If she asked me direct questions though I would answer her straight and wouldn't lie. It also helps me that my family was not religious, I was never taught or preached to about waiting for sex till I was married. (ps... I'm glad I didn't...)

Don't get me wrong there were some boundries I had put up to James, but we talked through them, he showed me how he thought of things, and then we discussed my oppinions. I learned so much from him, he completely opened my mind to try and discover new things.

Now Advice for you...
First and foremost, one thing that holds you back from him and doesn't let you give into your desires is how you look at yourself. You apparently see these flaws with your body... Girl I have looked at you a hundred times over (mind you through clothes)... From what I can see you have no flaws, you have an amazing beautiful body and you need to realize that about yourself.

Second, you have been taught to avoid sex, "sex is bad" I know you realize sex isn't bad, heck you have heard me talk about it enough, yet you still have questions and still don't quite exactly understands everything that happens, niether did I till I did it... lol. You are the type however that wants to know everything, know the potential bad outcomes, know the potential good ones, know everything you can before you do it, and you also will refuse to do anything that you feel might hurt you in the long run. This makes another part of you that I love. You are so careful and cautious, you will not get involved with anything that could potentially screw up your life. You don't want kids, so until you are 110% sure that you won't get pregnant... your not going to have sex. So we have the next reason for not giving into your desire.

Third, you want to know he is "the one." I think that is all I need to say here, there is no telling that... only time can speak to this one.

Now with all three of these reasons popping out at me all that it says is that you are doing the right thing by waiting. You aren't ready yet, simple as that, and trust me when you are, your body will scream it. The night I told James I wanted him then and there, my body wasn't nervous at all, all my desires just over took it, almost like I was a different person suddenly. Your body will tell you when you are ready, I wish I could explain this better but I really don't know how to... talk to me tomm when you wake up and read this, lol

As far as taking care of horomones, cold showers never worked for me, however, my right hand works very nicely. Also write... YOU LOVE TO WRITE, take it out in a poem, hot story, or whatever else your little heart desires. I always tease you about being contradictive, but it is so easy to be so open and "easy" online... to let your desires consume you and run a muck. You don't do it in real life because the "real world" doesn't work that way. It is impossible to have sex with so many different partners without any inhibitions. So if I have caused any of this worrying, my appologies.

You are a wonderfully amazing sweet smart girl, you won't make the wrong decision trust me. Just enjoy every moment you can with him, it doesn't matter if you have sex with him or not, besides take it from me, cuddleing and intense making out before even thinking about having sex... is sooo good...

I love ya girl, your on the right path just keep walking it....

[AngelicVampires]

I have the most absofreakinlutely wonderful roomie in the whole world, lol. Thanks my dear. You're right, there are a lot of things about me that I should change (mainly my view on things). You're also right that I like to be well informed about something before I commit to it. Thanks for the wonderful response!

:x:

[Master Scribe]

Well here is my old person take on the situation............

If you want it go for it, if you need it go for it, if you think you need it go for it, if you re not sure go for it and above all when in doubt....GO FOR IT !!!


Now for the good stuff....Sex can be recreational, or can be for procreation, or for any of a number of things but there is only one first time and only one first love and the two do not have to be at the same time.

Enjoy your time with him and then run to Pixies. read some of my stories (or others if you must) and find joy in personal pleasure. but in all things to thine own self be true and follow your heart.


Ok that is all for what it is worth.........