Rape/sex fantasies

[Lilith]

I know for anyone who has sufferred through it rape is not at all about sex but about violence. That;s not the sort of rape this thread is about.


I often think sex fantasies that include rape are usually about power struggles and/or about not being responsible for what you are forced to do. They can also just be about rough sex.

I have a wicked nonconsent fantasy streak and I think it's about not being in control ( seeing as how I am such a damn control freak). Having no choices, not having to figure out what he wants because he is gonna just take me how he wants and I have no say in the matter.

For those of you who have nonconsent fantasies, how do they play out and why do you think you have them?

[Shadow_Kitty]

The few I have are all very nasty and evil, and don't really involve people I care for. It generally involves a means at getting back at very twisted and controlling individuals, giving them a taste of their own medicine, generally in public. Obviously these are just things that remain in the mind, lol! :p Honestly I have a lot of different fantasies that I can't say I'm proud of, but hey, I'm a game designer - if I wasn't a controlled enough person to keep the scary shit in my head, I'd already be a mass killer, lol! :D

[cowgirltease]

I fantasize about having my clothes torn off of me and being strung up in the barn and being left to think about it because I won't suck his cock. Then he comes back and mercilessly teases me but won't let me cum. Then he grabs my by the hair of my head and forces me to suck him off then leaves again. He doesn't come back unless I beg him to.
I think I have them because I've always gotten what I wanted. I'm spoiled to be honest.

[Lilith]

The few I have are all very nasty and evil, and don't really involve people I care for. It generally involves a means at getting back at very twisted and controlling individuals, giving them a taste of their own medicine, generally in public. Obviously these are just things that remain in the mind, lol! :p Honestly I have a lot of different fantasies that I can't say I'm proud of, but hey, I'm a game designer - if I wasn't a controlled enough person to keep the scary shit in my head, I'd already be a mass killer, lol! :D
Well you are certainly describing the violence, revenge, humiliation, and aggression that is often seen in true rape.

I am referring to rape/sex type fantasies in which although you may feel scared you are certainly not left with the impression of being a perpetrator or a victim. Or maybe that's just the way my nonconsent fantasies play out.

[Lilith]

I fantasize about having my clothes torn off of me and being strung up in the barn and being left to think about it because I won't suck his cock. Then he comes back and mercilessly teases me but won't let me cum. Then he grabs my by the hair of my head and forces me to suck him off then leaves again. He doesn't come back unless I beg him to.
I think I have them because I've always gotten what I wanted. I'm spoiled to be honest.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm now that is a fucking hot:hot: visual!

[Shadow_Kitty]

Yeah...sometimes fantasies like that are nice, but when I really want to make love to a woman, I want it to be romantic and feel like we're a part of each other. I can get aroused about taking a woman like that, sure - but it really just doesn't carry the same effect.

[cowgirltease]

I guess thats where you and me are different. I've been thru 3 husbands in my lifetime. Gave my heart and soul...... I can get into their head and not have to give them my heart and it's still romantic. They just don't get all of me anymore. Comin down off the "high" hurts to bad darlin.

[Shadow_Kitty]

I know that feeling but I'll still never give up. It is my life and my destiny, and I will NEVER stop giving my all. Even when I'm your age, twentyish years from now (you CANNOT be 40 yet, can you?) I can't see myself being any different. I am the death of apathy. (dammit why can't we have a little grim reaper or a skull or something)

[Pita]

I got an online girlfriend that loves non-consent play. I do a role playing story with her on another board and have had some fun times in chat. It's not my nature to be the aggressor but with her it's easy and fun because she loves it so much. :D

[Cheyanne]

I have been mulling over this the past day or so too. I noticed a few women who I consider strong and in control have this "rape" fantasy although I don't really think of it as rape - only used for lack of a descriptive word for that particular fantasy. I wondered why they would have this fantasy as it is usually connotated with violence and hate toward women and not pleasure...

LOL - ok, I know - sometimes I think too much. Then from that thought my mind considered it more of a "control" issue. Basically what you said Lil, being led, not actually forced, to do something that you wouldn't normally do and not be in control of the situation yet be excited by it. Very similar to being totally dominated without the violence.

I also think, like you Lil, that it is about not being responsible for what you do and how you react. In a normal situation, a woman may not be interested in being tied up, but given a dominating "rape" situation, she may find herself excited about it and it is ok to react that way because it wasn't a decision that she made, but was led to do.

I have a MFM fantasy - I am at a party and am "cornered" by a man in a secluded area where no others would be or go and suddenly another man appears and I can't get away, and they both have their way with me. I give into my fantasy and yet am safe because it really wasn't me who decided initiate it and yet I enjoy it.

[cowgirltease]

I know that feeling but I'll still never give up. It is my life and my destiny, and I will NEVER stop giving my all. Even when I'm your age, twentyish years from now (you CANNOT be 40 yet, can you?) I can't see myself being any different. I am the death of apathy. (dammit why can't we have a little grim reaper or a skull or something)
LMAO! I'm 44 darlin. Yeah you're still a young un. :D

[Lilith]

Exactly!!!!!!!


Part of the beauty of a sex/rape fantasy is that essentially you are in control still of being out of control cause it's your own glorious mind who thunk it up :p


PS. Chey...that sounds sooo scrumptious

[cowgirltease]

Right cheyanne.... It's not about gettin physically hurt or degraded or hateful mean words. It's being able to let go and let whatever happen, happen....... letting his masculinity dominate you. if that makes any sense.

[cherrypie7788]

I don't know what it is about me really; I just like to be dominated by a male (when it comes to sex anyway). I love it when he throws me down and slams into me or when he bends me over without a word and slides in. I mostly like it when we "struggle", or in other words, when I fight back.

I have no street rape fantasy of course, but in a safe environment this is my big thrill lol

I guess it is a power issue, it's nice to be "helpless" sometimes.

[cowgirltease]

I don't know what it is about me really; I just like to be dominated by a male (when it comes to sex anyway). I love it when he throws me down and slams into me or when he bends me over without a word and slides in. I mostly like it when we "struggle", or in other words, when I fight back.

I have no street rape fantasy of course, but in a safe environment this is my big thrill lol

I guess it is a power issue, it's nice to be "helpless" sometimes.
I know another one of yours too cherrypie. I'll remember that. Maybe I'll use that on you next time.;)

[cherrypie7788]

You're welcome to use it ANYTIME CGT ;), she knows she is :p

[Cheyanne]

Exactly!!!!!!! Part of the beauty of a sex/rape fantasy is that essentially you are in control still of being out of control cause it's your own glorious mind who thunk it up :p

PS. Chey...that sounds sooo scrumptious


Doesn't it though??? :lust:

And CGT - that make perfect sense! Pretty much what I wanted to say but took a paragraph to communicate and with you one sentence.. lol!!! :D

[cowgirltease]

hehehe yeah you ol windbag. :p
*ducks and runs*

[Playful1]

I'm not going to say I know the exact workings of the female mind on this issue (no man ever could), but I am sure if DangerousPet were here she'd tell you about how exciting she gets when dominated.

I can tell you from the guys prospective that it is a huge turn on to feel like you have total control over her. To force her to the bed, to cover her mouth when she argues with you and to spank her till she does as she was told. It's all in the fun of it though as she knows I would NEVER hurt her or do anything she didn't already kinda want to do.

For her (from what she's told me) it's the excitment of getting as close to that line of fear as possible but knowing that after its all over nothing bad has happened.

[Cheyanne]

hehehe yeah you ol windbag. :p
*ducks and runs*


Yeah.. you better duck and run or I will be forced to do something I don't wanna do.. heheh

(Like chase after you and tie you up in the barn ripping off your clothes and having MY way with you.. never mind having a man around.. :lust: )

[Lilith]

Yeah.. you better duck and run or I will be forced to do something I don't wanna do.. heheh

(Like chase after you and tie you up in the barn ripping off your clothes and having MY way with you.. never mind having a man around.. :lust: )
hell yes!!!!!! I would pay big$$$ for the pics :p

[Cheyanne]

hell yes!!!!!! I would pay big$$$ for the pics :p

LOL - you wouldn't have to Lil.. ;)

[cowgirltease]

Yeah.. you better duck and run or I will be forced to do something I don't wanna do.. heheh

(Like chase after you and tie you up in the barn ripping off your clothes and having MY way with you.. never mind having a man around.. :lust: )

Oh you naughty lil shit. You KNOW I'd like nuthin better than that!:D

[Cheyanne]

Oh you naughty lil shit. You KNOW I'd like nuthin better than that!:D


Yeah, I am naughty aren't I????

[cowgirltease]

Yeah and I REAAALLLYYY wanna see you suck those fingers after I've dipped them into that sweet wet pussy of yours. :slurp:

[Cheyanne]

Yeah and I REAAALLLYYY wanna see you suck those fingers after I've dipped them into that sweet wet pussy of yours. :slurp:


That wouldn't be the only thing that I would be sucking on... ;)

[cowgirltease]

*takes her fingers out of her mouth and sticks them in mine while looking directly into her eyes searching them for what she wants.*

[Cheyanne]

*takes her fingers out of her mouth and sticks them in mine while looking directly into her eyes searching them for what she wants.*

<grins> I want to explore you and make you writhe and groan from my fingers and tongue...

[cowgirltease]

*runs her fingers underneath Cheyanne's breasts watching her nipples rise* oh yeah?

[cowgirltease]

*Chases Cheyanne back into the barn and pushes her down in the hay. Rolls over on top of her straddling her and rips her shirt open. The crotch of their jeans grinding against each other. Her chin in hand and gives her a passionate kiss.*
C'mon Cheyanne.... no one's watching. I want to taste your pussy.

[Cheyanne]

*Chases Cheyanne back into the barn and pushes her down in the hay. Rolls over on top of her straddling her and rips her shirt open. The crotch of their jeans grinding against each other. Her chin in hand and gives her a passionate kiss.*
C'mon Cheyanne.... no one's watching. I want to taste your pussy.


This is another one of my being controlled fantasies

I groan...wanting you so badly and yet a little scared.... my heart races and I give into your demands and unbutton my jeans and slowly slide them down and kick them off my feet....

[Playful1]

You guys should write this in the Interactive story forum....

Please don't stop :)

[cowgirltease]

Sorry this ended in a private IM. :D :)

[DangerousPet]

i definatly like to be the submissive one, haha he's very good at playing the dominant role. you all are right, there is somethign about being 'forced' to do something you enjoy really arousing. and of cousre you have to be defiant on occasion! it's a big game, and i love to play it! :)

[FallenAngel5]

As both a survivor and a submissive, I'm both compelled to not respond and to respond to this thread. :) you can obviously tell which argument won. Anyway. I've always had this sick fascination with people who have 'rape' fantasies, because I wondered how people could be aroused by something so horrible that I had lived through. But, reading these responses, I can tell that, for the most part, the title of 'rape fantasy' is fairly inaccurate. And my submissive side can see the arousal is most of the fantasies that all of you have spelled out. But I have noticed that they all spell out safety as a key ingredient of the fantasies. This strikes me as more of a D/s facet than anything else. But what am I to say. :) If we are asking about D/s fantasies, then yes, I have tons of those. But 'rape' fantasies? No. :)

[Lilith]

FallenAngel5,
What separates rape/sex fantasies from D/s fantasies is that in a D/s situation submission is intended from the beginning. From the beginning the submissive chooses to submit. Well that's how I see it anyway.

[WildIrish]

For me, and my personal rape fantasy scenario, it's about being freed to enjoy the experience without guilt or reprocussions. With control goes responsibility. Take away the control and create a victim...and you've removed guilt and remorse from the equation. How can this be held against me when I was taken against my will?

[osuche]

I have several rape fantasies, but I think the most predominant is where a (increadibly sexy) man I have never met attacks me on a long dark and deserted street. He forces me into the entranceway. He pushes me against the door and uses one hand to hold my arms above my head. He tells me that if I scream, he will kill me....and he places a knife against my throat for a minute. Then he uses the knife to cut off my skirt and panties, and has his way with me......

Strangely, this man knows how to have sex just the way I like it....LMAO....and he smells good and only hurts me a *little* ....LMAO....and he is terribly sexy in a very macho way.... <sigh>

When you break it down, I think the idea is that I am a little tired of always being in control during sex. I love my husband dearly, but he is *not* dominant. I always control when, where, and how we have sex....and most of the time I like it that way. But sometimes I dream about a situation where I am not in control, and not responsible for what might happen....where someone else calls the shots.

[Playful1]

For me the difference bewteen a D/s and a Rape Fantasy is that it is expected from the start. If I feel like being dominate I let things play out a little bit. Let her fight me for a little while and play is done more in a loving master/submissive role.

Where as a Rape fantasy is more of the whole come home in the middle of the day, sneak upstairs, grab her mouth and throw her to the bed, cut off her clothes and have sex as raunchy and rough as I want to be.