My little girl is growing up...

[Cheyanne]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry!!!! My little girl - my baby, started her period yesterday. She will be 11 in January. I don't know why this was such a suprise to me as I started at age 10 too but she is my baby.

I am not sure if I am ready for this next stage. I knew it was coming, we already had the other changes - bra, shaving legs, armpit hair.. lol!! She still wants me to tuck her in at night and give her a sloppy (kiss) and fluff her blankets as she is laying in bed.

I took a good long look at her today - she is going to be a beautiful young lady both outside and inside - she is growing up and it made me smile.

But still....why am I sitting here wanting to cry????

[darogle]

Well Chey, you're not alone. My daughter is 11 and I'm going through the same stuff. She's older than my perception of her. To me she's still 5, and I just took her to her first day of school. :) But, ya know, they'll always be our baby... whether they be 10 or 40. If tears should fall, let them be joyful.

[osuche]

((((Chey)))) and ((((darogle))))

Don't let them grow up too fast..... :)

[Cheyanne]

(((darogle))) You are 100% correct about her always being my baby. I still get hugs & kisses in public lol - so I should be grateful!!!


(((osuche))) - I think that is what is bothering me so much. I just seemed like yesterday she was cuddling on my lap wanting to thumb wrestle or just listen to my heart beat in my chest. LOL - now she is only a few inches shorter than I am and before long will be taller. It went by soooooo fast!

[PantyFanatic]

My sweet little girls twin is 6 now. :love: ………. Oh wait!:shock: That’s HER daughter that’s 6 now. :rolleyes:

[thereIam]

This morning, as my son took his nap, I could not help but notice just how adorable he was. Curled up upon my chest, one hand entangled in my chest hair, the other clutching my beard, he grunted and drooled his way into the Sandman’s castle. Such a happy little baby, always ready to play with daddy. Content, I drift off into sleep myself…

Cheyanne, I am crying with you as I write this. For you see, when I awakened from my nap, my cute little baby was gone. Somehow, he had been replaced by a gangly, hairy, and worldly fifteen year old. Yes, he is a very handsome lad. Still eager to do things with his old man, even though other things beckon. Intelligent too, though I will not bore you with details of his scholastic achievements or extracurricular activities. He is turning out to be everything that I could hope for him. Yet, in the bottom of my heart, I still yearn for those grubby little hands…I am sorry, I got carried away a bit.


Cherish every fleeting moment you have with her, the time goes by so damned fast.

[Lilith]

I'm feeling so many of the same things you all are feeling and it's so good to know I am not alone.

My 13 year old grew up without asking me if I was ready. I'm not. I just needed about 20 more years to fingerpaint more, read to him, hold him in my arms without him squirming to get free, teach him about life before he learns the hard way, and to just let him know he is loved.

Damn it now I am verklempt!!!!!

((((hugs))))

[Teddy Bear]

The days of dandelions clutched in pudgy little hands, playing in mud puddles and begging for 'just one more story Momma' are long gone from my house. While those days were great, where we are now if terrific too! I get to hear about college experiences, dates and concerts.

I can't help but think of that song from Fiddler on the Roof..... Sun rise sun set. 'Where is that little girl I carried? where is that little boy at play? I don't remember growing older, when did they?.....'

[wyndhy]

*sniff* you guys are making me feel nostalgic and mine are both still little...lol. i don't have an opinion or answers from the point of view a mother of adolecents would but i can tell you this: as a daughter, it wasn't too far after these years that i began to see my mom and dad as friends and not just parents. so, along the lines of what teddy said, although it is a big change, it is a forward-change and soon enough you will realize that you still love her as your daughter and also cherish her as a close friend.

[WildIrish]

Our daughter turned 9 yesterday and has started wearing a bra. She's still my little girl in so many ways, but I know the time will come when we too are experiencing it. I am not looking forward to it at all.

Our oldest son turned 12 on election day and has hairy legs already. Like Lilith, he grew up when we blinked. And when I say grew up...I mean grew UP. He's 5'10 and more closely resembles a high schooler than most of the high school kids in town. I'm not ready for him to be a teenager, and it seems he already is.

Our youngest will be 7 in a few months. Luckily he's not stingy with the hugs because we're gonna need them.



Damn. :(

[BigBear57]

Awwwwwww Chey, Hon I DO know how Ya feel. My lovely daughter is 16 and my son is 11 and it only seems like eyeblinks ago they were toddlers. I'm proud of the people they've become though. My son's a bright witty charmer and my daughter is funny, smart and determined young lady. She's not one to take crap and she's tactful when challenged. (unlike some Dads I know LOL) I've had several tearful days thinking they've grown up too fast but then they make me feel good by showing how well they've done it.
BTW just wondering. how could you daughter NOT turn into a beautiful young lady with the Mom she has? I'm sure the ladies will add the father too.... she's got the makings on both sides.

Nothin' in the world like kids.... no doubt about it.

[Aqua]

Our daughter turned 9 yesterday and has started wearing a bra. She's still my little girl in so many ways, but I know the time will come when we too are experiencing it. I am not looking forward to it at all.
My girl is 11 and has been in a bra for awhile now... I figure she is pretty close to starting and I am not looking forward to it. At least she is not trying to be too grown up.... although I do a fair share of discouraging and act her age much of the time anyway, so acting grown up to her is a very immature thing. LOL

Our oldest son turned 12 on election day and has hairy legs already.
Uh-huh... following in the footsteps of good ol' Uncle Aqua. :p

He's got my birthday, he's got my legs... he's well on his way to being a Wookie! :jedi:

[Cheyanne]

You all are so great!!! Here I was feeling like a fool for being so mournful of what was past and by your responses I know that I am not being foolish. Silly me. I guess I just needed a day to adjust. She will always be my little girl and I realize even though she doesn't snuggle or call me mommy anymore what we are going to experience will be just as precious as what we have experienced. I just needed to step back and look at the whole picture not just the pieces...

((((HUGS))))

[jay-t]

Our youngest will be 26 in Jan. every time I see her I see a little blonde haired girl with chipmunk cheeks and her telling me "squirddles wive in hickowy twees " yes I still want to grab and hold her and tickle her like she was 2( but the son-in-law looks at you funny when you do).But grand kids come along fill the void,then you get to start overwhat fun it is! One thing we did for our girls was put a dream catcher over each bed then evey week or 10 days we would ask "what did you dream about" we would write down whatever they told us and date it with thier name put it in a leather pouch(a dream keeper) one day we will give them their childhood dreams back to them.So hold on tight but dont smother them to much.

[PalaceGuard]

...
But still....why am I sitting here wanting to cry????
...

Because you are a MOM, and you are growing.

[maddy]

I'm not a mom, but gosh you people are all so wonderful, and I hope each of your children know how fortunate they are to have parents that cherish them.

(((( pixie moms & dads ))))

[joys]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry!!!! My little girl - my baby, started her period yesterday. She will be 11 in January. I don't know why this was such a suprise to me as I started at age 10 too but she is my baby.

I am not sure if I am ready for this next stage. I knew it was coming, we already had the other changes - bra, shaving legs, armpit hair.. lol!! She still wants me to tuck her in at night and give her a sloppy (kiss) and fluff her blankets as she is laying in bed.

I took a good long look at her today - she is going to be a beautiful young lady both outside and inside - she is growing up and it made me smile.

But still....why am I sitting here wanting to cry????

Congratulations Cheyanne,

You have brought up a very qute little girl to be a beautiful young lady.. Look at it this way.. We all grow up sometime.

[Scarecrow]

All of you parents with children in or near their teen years, please get your questions ready for you will find out that they will know it all. LOL

My Babe girl is 27 and through college(twice). Now if she could just find the time to come home once in awhile. She was in Calf. last week learning to operate some new fangled machine for work. She is a lab tech in a hospital.

I do have to say the grandkids are great, you get to spoil them and then send them home to mom and dad. hehehehehe

[joys]

My boy is 5 yrs old and seems he knows all the answers already.

[Pita]

((((((((Parents))))))))

My baby girl will be 13 in January. She now has this major attitude, thinks she controls the radio in the car, wears my make-up and lives on the phone. :rolleyes:

She started her period this summer and has not been a very happy camper. Her cycle hasn't regulated and is starting about every 20 days. The last time she just broke down and cried saying she didn't want to be a woman. It's hard to tell your baby that she is going to be one for a very long time to come.

[Cheyanne]

(((((((((Everyone))))))))))

Here I was feeling low and somewhat depressed and look at all of you who came to my rescue! Again, not that I needed the proof, but here it is, Pixies peeps are the best! What an amazing group of people.

I got to thinking after I started the thread - what was I thinking??? This is a SEX forum!!! But after reading the responses, I am glad I did. Sexuality is the topic, but this place is sooooooo much more than that!!! This place is real.

Thank you all for being there for me and helping me over my little bump in the road.....

[joys]

I talked to very fine members of this place when I was deep depressed, none of the talk was sexual, and all gave me power to go on...

[flutelady]

(((((Cheyenne)))))

(((((All the Pixie's mommies and daddies)))))

Oh boy, I know all about babies growing up in the blink of an eye. My oldest baby is 26. It was a rough ride for us, but we dearly love and respect each other now. She calls me Mama... I love that. She knows my dearest secret.

My baby boy with the fuzzy blonde hair, who I defended with clenched teeth when some kid looked at his baby hair and said "hey look mom, that baby looks like an onion" (what nerve) is now a man of 25 and one of my most cherished confidantes.

The next baby is 22 and was a beautiful bride this past summer, her older brother performed the ceremony. Wasn't she at my breast just months ago? It sure seems like it.

My 18 year old baby is a senior in high school with a list of accomplishments under her belt. She told me not too long ago that she doesn't want to grow up and leave... I couldn't agree with her more. She was her older sister's maid of honor. I used to rock her to sleep every night after nursing her. I'd rub her ear and whisper "good girl". Her first words were "good girl".

OMG, my heart is so full.

Youngest baby girl is 13 and in 8th grade, mouthy one minute, hugging me the next. Wearing too much mascara, then wanting to go outside to play with the girl down the block... not quite a little girl, but far from grown. How can I keep her here, or at least slow down the speed of her growing up?

My baby boy is 10, will be 11 in February. He has the sweetest, most loving soul. He was very premature (14 weeks early and weighed 1lb 5oz at birth). He's got some learning issues, but he's so talented, so witty, so willing to forgive anything... he has such a tender spirit. My youngest and last... a baby last time I blinked. He was the best man for his new brother-in-law.


Where does the time go?

Life is short. This I'm learning more painfully each day. But I'm also trying to embrace the wonderful things and people in my life and appreciate each stage and each adventure. Trying hard.

[Galatea]

SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP! *puts fingers in her ears and makes babbly noises* My little girl is 3. I don't wanna think about her growing up! *cries and runs away*

[dicksbro]

All our girls are married and gone; but when we see them, giving them a hug is still something most special. They've all become very beautiful yound ladies with wonderful families of their own. I'm so proud of them.

I know what you mean, Cheyanne, about sometimes just wanting to cry. I know us guys aren't suppose to, but sometimes I think about our family growing up and it does cause strong emotions inside.

(((( HUGS )))) to ya', and pass the Kleenex when you're done. :)

[sodaklostsoul]

My girl will be 8 in March. I'm going to miss all the hugs that are given now and the out of the blue "I love you's". Hugs are ok, but try and give her a kiss in public (rolling eyes)......sometimes I already think she should be a teen with how much she worrys about what she's wearing and to think she just lost the training wheels this summer.
They change from day to day so fast, can't take enough pics to capture it all.

((((((((Chey)))))))

*hugs* to all the mommies and daddy's

[LixyChick]

Oh (((((Chey)))))!

I'm not a mom...but my heart still aches for you...and all the Pixies who have shared the same feelings as yours!

I'll NEVER forget the day I got my period for the first time. I was elated, in a sense, to know what some had told me was the first day of the "best" of my life. I was sad, in a sense, to not be able to turn back the clock and just be a little girl for a moment longer. I was scared because I had no idea of all that would be expected from me from month to month. I was proud to finally be able to call myself a woman...even though, in my head, I had felt so mature eons before the chemical change. And...I cried and sat on my mother's lap cause I didn't really feel very good that day and I had hoped it was because my body needed to get used to the changes it had undertaken. To my chagrin...the shitty feeling of that day hasn't lessened from month to month...but gotten more unbearable as the years go by. Please don't mention that part to your daughter now...cause she may be one of the lucky ones who escape the wrath of Mother Nature!

I think what I am trying to say is...

Even though my mom has been gone for 22 years, I still think of her, and still call her (when with my sisters) Mommy. I'll always be her "most down to earth" daughter...and she'll ALWAYS be...in my heart and soul...My Mommy!

Don't fret sweety! Yes...they grow up. But, as they grow, so do the wonderful memories...for you and for them!

[Cheyanne]

OMG!!! Lixy... (((((HUGS)))))

As I read your post I realized that I was being woefully selfish! I was thinking with only my perspective and not my little girl's! I remember when I first started, the feelings I had, the symptoms that went along with it, and that I was almost afraid of growing up! Thank you!!! If I am feeling the way I am, I can only imagine what she is feeling by what I went through.

She is on her fourth day...I am afraid that she is going to be like I was, and that really sucks! I think we are going to have a mommy/daughter day this weekend...to take this opportunity to be closer even more...

((((((((((LIXY))))))))))))

[Glyndwr]

Hi Chey

I miss my little girl, the one with the blond curls and disarming smile. But sometimes when a beautiful teenager hugs me and grins I find her again and realise she's not gone just grown up.

[LixyChick]

OMG!!! Lixy... (((((HUGS)))))

As I read your post I realized that I was being woefully selfish! I was thinking with only my perspective and not my little girl's! I remember when I first started, the feelings I had, the symptoms that went along with it, and that I was almost afraid of growing up! Thank you!!! If I am feeling the way I am, I can only imagine what she is feeling by what I went through.

She is on her fourth day...I am afraid that she is going to be like I was, and that really sucks! I think we are going to have a mommy/daughter day this weekend...to take this opportunity to be closer even more...

((((((((((LIXY))))))))))))
"woefully selfish" is "motherly" in SpainiFrenchyGermanianRussianansky...and so on and so on...

NEVER doubt your concerns...and ALWAYS trust that whatever you feel , you are not alone! Mother is the most defining word on the planet...cause it soooooo lives up to it's meaning (you decide the meaning...that's the best part!).

I hope you have the most wonderful mother/daughter day there ever was!!! I remember those days with my mom...and all I can do is smile!

(((((((((Cheyanne & Daughter)))))))))

[RainyDay]

I'm not a mother, yet, but I'm just as protective of my 2 younger sisters. One is 16 and the other is 12.

I remember the older one coming to me one morning with her bed sheet in her hands when she was 13, covered in blood.

"WHAT THE BLOODY HELL IS THIS!" She screamed.

I gave her the talk, and some "things" (she still calls them that), and she was fine.

I still remember when the youngest was about 3, she was allergic to milk and wasn't allowed those little pot shot yogurts. I remember my mother catching her at the fridge, surrounded by empty pots, covered in yogurt.

"Stacey, what are you doing?"
"Me, mam? Nithing mam" (North east of wscotland accent here)
"What's that on your face?"
"Nae wogurt, mam."
"You sure?"
"Me nae eat wogurt, mam, me nae loud wogurt."

She was so sweet, a mop og strawberry blonde curls, big blue eyes.

my mother told me a few months ago she'd started her period. Painful periods seem to run in our family, so I got the kettle on, hot water bottle & a cuppa for her. I went into her room, and here she is, crying her big blue eyes out in pain.

"I don't want to grow up, I don't want to be a woman. Roll on the menopause."

I was horrified, where had my wogurt stealing baby sister gone?

[cowgirltease]

Mine went thru that already too. She has painful ones also. Last nite my 14 year old daughter laid on the bed with me and played around letting me do all those silly lttle things to her that used to make her smile and giggle and put goosebumps on her legs. Sang her songs that I sung to her as a baby. She loved it and so did I. I think we both needed it.
She still calls me Mommy. :)

[ChinesePussy]

Congradulation to you Cheyanne

I think I start to have this type of feeling now a day. I am close to wanting to have my own baby. :rolleyes:


I don't know whether to laugh or cry!!!! My little girl - my baby, started her period yesterday. She will be 11 in January. I don't know why this was such a suprise to me as I started at age 10 too but she is my baby.

I am not sure if I am ready for this next stage. I knew it was coming, we already had the other changes - bra, shaving legs, armpit hair.. lol!! She still wants me to tuck her in at night and give her a sloppy (kiss) and fluff her blankets as she is laying in bed.

I took a good long look at her today - she is going to be a beautiful young lady both outside and inside - she is growing up and it made me smile.

But still....why am I sitting here wanting to cry????

[Cheyanne]

Mine went thru that already too. She has painful ones also. Last nite my 14 year old daughter laid on the bed with me and played around letting me do all those silly lttle things to her that used to make her smile and giggle and put goosebumps on her legs. Sang her songs that I sung to her as a baby. She loved it and so did I. I think we both needed it.
She still calls me Mommy. :)


That is so excellent! Moments to cherish... very special moments. :D

[Cheyanne]

Congradulation to you Cheyanne

I think I start to have this type of feeling now a day. I am close to wanting to have my own baby. :rolleyes:

Thank you CP...from your posts I believe that you will be a very loving mom. When you do have your baby - cherish every moment for they are fleeting.