Timeline: Meet the Parents

[BlondeCurlGirl]

Alright, so I've been dating a great guy now for about 2.5 weeks...we are already sleeping together and things have been going well...and he's a grad student from out of state, plus 7 years my senior. :)

Today he surprised me on the phone by telling me that his family is flying into town for Thanksgiving and then I'll get to meet them. I was a bit taken aback by this, because for me it seemed really soon into our relationship to take this big step. I guess I'm not opposed to it, just really surprised and maybe not 100% ready to at this point.

Any opinions out there as when it's a good point in a relationship to meet the family? Is it just me thinking this might be too soon, or am I overreacting? :rolleyes:

[Booger]

normaly I would say it might be a little early to meet them but because they live out of town he may want you to meet them now because they might not be back in town again right away

[PantyFanatic]

I go along with Boog on this one BCG. He hasn’t asked you to spend Thanksgiving WITH his family, only to meet his visiting folks. Meeting the dates of your kids today is not the same today as when you “brought somebody home to meet the family”.:shock: This may be a good opportunity to see how deep the gene pool runs and if you WANT it to go further. ;)

[Lilith]

I'd take it as an opportunity to decide sooner rather than later if you are getting involved in something great or if you are over your head. met Mr. Lil's parents the first night we went out.(and married him anyway :D:D:p)

[LixyChick]

I'm in agreement with those guys ^^^, BCG. The parents are coming in to see him...he's not taking you to meet them in that all so famous "traditional" way. That he invited you to meet with them sounds like he didn't want to exclude you from something that might take some of his time away from you and your new relationship.

Now, I'd get a bit concerned this early in the relationship if...when you meet them he introduces you as "the woman who will bear their grandchildren" and proceeds to point to your breasts and tells them there is plenty there to feed the 7 grandchildren they so long for...LMFAO!

Sorry hun...I got carried away. *giggle* But seriously, it seems like a nice gesture to include you in his time spent with his parents. Relax and just see how it goes. You'll understand his intentions better once you get past the meeting.

Good luck (((((BCG)))))!!!

[osuche]

How would you have felt had he not invited you? I know I woulda been peeved.....

I guess maybe I share a different view. Family is *important* to me ~ I see my mom every 2-3 weeks, and she comes and stays with us a lot. Mr. Osuche's mom is the same way.

Mr. Osuche met my mom early. Like, a week intot he relationship. No pressure at all, was just introduced as a guy I am dating. However, he met her. And for him to get to the next stage in our relationship, he had to get along with her. :D

[wyndhy]

i don't put a lot of stock in the whole "meet my family" implication. like osuche, my family is very close (drives bigbad a little bonkers :D ) and they are just, well... around all the time. they are a part of my life so for me to introduce someone to my parents doesn't really mean a whole lot, just that they happened to be there when the person that i introduced them to came over.

[OzKristin]

hmm I waited a few months before my b/f met my parents lol but it was sooner than that when I met his mom. I kinda had lied and told them he was my age, when he is like 6 1/2 yrs older than me and I was still in high school, so I had my own worries prior to that lol. I think whenever if feels comfortable and right should be the right time though, in my own opinion.

[Sharni]

I see no need for a time limit on meeting family...but thats me

[Teddy Bear]

I agree with Sharni. Meeting the parents on the first date or after 6 months shouldn't be an issue. To me it says he cares about you enough to 'show you off' to the family and it also says he cares for his family in such a way that he wants to share someone he likes with them. Both are good things. :)

I was told that you can tell alot about a man by the way he treats his mother. ;)

Good luck.... relax and have fun!!

:)

[BlondeCurlGirl]

*deep breath*

Cross your fingers and wish me luck...I'm off in about 15 minutes to meet his sister...

and tomorrow night is dinner with the whole family... :eek:

:wave:

[osuche]

Good luck, sweetie! Knock em dead!!

[Lilith]

I'm sure they will love you...we all do!

[dicksbro]

My wife and I introduced each other to our parents very shortly after we met. In fact, I met her folks on our first date when I went by to pick her up and she met mine certainly within a few weeks. At that time, I was smitten but not sure she was yet. :lust:

Never-the-less, guess things worked out after 41 years of marriage and 44 years of knowing each other. ;)

Hmmmm ... maybe that's not what you wanted to hear. :rolleyes: Maybe you'd better stick with all the above. :D

[Scarecrow]

I actually knew the parents first.

[LixyChick]

Sending good vibes for all to go well with each meeting. As Lil said...we all love you, so they will as well!

Unless.................you've eaten some bean soup, eggs and beer the night before! *giggle* Just don't do that and you'll be fine hun!

((((((BCG))))))