View Full Version : A decision of Lilith has forced me to leave Pixies
Grumble
10-31-2004, 11:31 PM
I posted a thread in the hope that Curvyredhead may see it and Lilith pulled it stating it violated her privacy
It could also have been the thing that brought her into contact as well
it seems that real life issues are less important.
I ask that all my post be removed and wish all my friends here all the best
Sometimes moderators take too much upon themselves and I believe in this case Lillith is wrong.
I ask that this post be allowed to stay for 3 days so all members may see it and be able to ask Lilith questions if they wish
Lilith
10-31-2004, 11:36 PM
I'm sorry you take issue with a decision that has long been a policy that you have consistently had trouble following. You have posted other member's private information on several instances and I have to protect all members. We have a PM system for members to use for private messgaes. Bringing private issues to the public boards serves no purpose other than to expose private issues. If she does not reply to you in PM then it's coercion to try to force her to by bringing it public. Member's privacy is not up for debate. Grumble I hate to see you go but you are responsible for your choices just as I am mine.
osuche
10-31-2004, 11:43 PM
(((Grumble))) ~ I know you're having a hard time. But if you look at Curvy's profile, she hasn't logged in since May...and although she may be looking at the board anonymously, it's hard to believe she would respond in so public a forum.
I know you're hurting, but I doubt this is the best way to approach the situation. Perhaps it's best to leave well enough alone. If you love someone, set them free....if they come back to you it was meant to be.
I wish you all the best of luck, whatever the outcome.
PantyFanatic
11-01-2004, 12:22 AM
I find it difficult to uncover a fault in the consistent policy we all take security in. :( It would seem your gallant challenge would not only create issues contrary to the LONG HELD ideals of Pixies, but would more likely defeat your fraught target to draw a public response to a complex and personal matter. You can’t throw a “hail Mary” with a hand grenade and expect to make a goal.
You know you are always as welcome to personally discuss whatever, as you were to my home and family. This distressed reach says it may be time to hold ground and regroup my friend.
Sharni
11-01-2004, 03:34 AM
If it had not been Lilith that pulled it...i would have
Sorry to see you hurting GG....but this is not the way to go about it
Belial
11-01-2004, 03:54 AM
I'm very sorry to see you go. I hope this is not forever.
..not sure what else to say....
LixyChick
11-01-2004, 05:26 AM
(((((((Grumble))))))))
I don't know what to say in this thread. I'll take my thoughts and questions straight to you, so please look for an email from me in the next few days!
jseal
11-01-2004, 05:52 AM
Grumble,
Good luck sir. I hope things break your way soon.
imaginewithme
11-01-2004, 07:35 AM
I am sorry to hear that you want to leave also.... I must say tho, I am thankful for the moderators. Lilith has kept my feelings from being hurt by watching what people post. We come here for a good time, to escape reality, not to have hurt feelings, etc. So I know from personal experience that the moderators are for our benefit.
I wish you only happiness and hope to see you around!
Oldfart
11-01-2004, 07:47 AM
Grumble
Your circle of friends here is bigger than one issue.
You have things you need to work through, so please do this and come back to us.
We have a history that I'd be upset to see thrown away to make a point.
When the shit settles, we'll still be here ready for your humour and insight.
Hope you hang with us.
Tony.
BTW, I think you have my contact details if you need a grizzle.
If you can't find them, it only takes a PM (not John Howard).
OzKristin
11-01-2004, 10:51 AM
I'm sorry to hear you're leaving Grumble, and also sorry to hear that your hurt hasn't been relieved yet......you know you can still talk with me okay? Take care
WildIrish
11-01-2004, 12:01 PM
We come here for a good time, to escape reality, not to have hurt feelings, etc.
I come here for a good time, but it is very real. I've had the discussion a few times where I've mentioned that Pixies is more genuine and real than a lot of aspects of the "real world" because of the safety of privacy. My best friend knows about a lot of things I've experienced in my past, and knows quite a bit about me personally. Most people at Pixies know more than he does. Although it's true that he hasn't seen my penis...I'm not even discussing that portion of what I've revealed. I feel very liberated to disclose what I do, to whom I do, and it's because of the comfort level I have in the security that's maintained here by the people in charge. They're not passing judgement on the quality of posts (thankfully...or I'd be back down to 1,000!), nor are they randomly smiting individuals that rub them the wrong way. They're just following the rules.
I too am saddened to hear that someone is unhappy. For any reason. And being a "healer", I want to fix everything. Some things I can't. I'm just a dumbass, but I have a big heart and good ears. (Or is it a good heart and big ears? I forget) Oh yeah, I try to use humor to help things too. Sorry if it just adds to the aggravation.
Anyway, That's what I think, for what it's worth.
flutelady
11-01-2004, 12:28 PM
Grumble sweetheart... I'm so sorry for all the bullshit and uncertainty in your life right now. I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I know that when I'm hurting badly, I strike out at anything and everything, meaning no harm, just trying somehow to feel better and make the pain lessen.
Please don't blame Lilith/Pixies for what's happening. I know they meant no harm to you, but are trying to uphold the rules and protect each of us and our privacy. Your lady has not been out of touch because Lilith pulled the thread, I feel that deep in my heart.
I hope you will do what you need to do to help you through this time. I also hope you will remember that there are many people here (Lilith very much among them) who care about you and who want very badly to help ease your pain... in whatever way we can.
Grumble, if you take time to really think about it I believe you will see that a member's right to their privacy here is one of the most important things to uphold at this site.
Another important thing we uphold at this site is to greet members with open arms if they have left and decide to come back.
Remember that Ian...
I hope things work out for you.
~Aqua
PantyFanatic
11-01-2004, 02:12 PM
I think Lilith made him ----^ say that. :cool:
j/k ;)
roflmao:grin:
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