Cyber Problem

[Negi]

I have a boyfriend who I want to cyber with, but I don't know how and to compound the problem, I'm a virgin.

He's not-Online nor off. I could just ask him what he likes, but I'd really like to suprise him.

Teach me, please!

Any tips on to what to say and how to say it?

Any help will be appreciated.

[OzKristin]

go with the flow..just cuz you're a virgin doesn't mean you don't have all kinds of naughty thoughts i'm sure....the best way is to do what's comfortable for you and be open with you're thoughts...but most importantly...have fun! I'm sure the thought in general would make you're b/f sure glad he's with you!

[Moonchild]

If you have ever had an erotic dream or fantasy that's where I would start. Most guys seem to get off if you describe what you are wearing, even if you're not wearing it tell him you are, unless he's there he won't know. Just relax and be creative with him, as he responds you'll know what he likes and then you can give him more of what he likes. Just have fun its like a fantasy anyway.

[kathy1]

Read some of the wonderful erotica here and at other sites. That should certainly get your mind a-twirling with ideas. Ozkristin is right...just have fun with it. My first thought is to tell you to go with whatever you already want and desire to do with him.

[GingerV]

Cybersex isn't an act...it's a shared fantasy. I've never done precisely the same thing with different people, so there's no formula. But it's far far from the only erotic conversation that can be had on the phone. Tell him what you fantasize about, ask him what HE'D like to do, describe what you are doing as you masterbate, just talk about anything that turns you on...and let him know you are. It's not so much a series of steps, as letting down the barriers and talking about sexy things.

Just let yourself go, and you'll find it comes naturally :).

G

[Negi]

I worked up the nerve to initiate. I took Moonchild's advice of starting with a dream and I think that's why it came so naturally, for the most part.

I probably have some work to do. I don't know if I was typing too fast or too slow, or if when he took over the fantasy, if I responded too much or too little.

He really seemed to enjoy it and I LOVED it, so I suppose that's all that matters.

Thanks for the advice!

[GingerV]

He really seemed to enjoy it and I LOVED it



Then you did it right! Now, practice practice practice ;).

G

[flutelady]

I'm not big on cybering (I find it impossible to simultaneously "whack and yack"), but there was a time that I wanted to surprise someone via cyber-seduction. I had some chat friends who invited me into their private room and allowed me to observe while they cybered.... it was very interesting!

The main thing I learned is that it's easiest to take turns.

[Negi]

At first I found it difficult to give up reign. LOL. But then we took turns. Sometimes he completely took over and when he became too "busy" to concentrate, I stepped in.

The give and take part became very natural.

"Wack and yack"?

It's not impossible. Being able to multitask is without a doubt a plus. :grin:

[flutelady]

Whack and yack= masturbate and type

[Negi]

I know.

[imaginewithme]

Sounds like you know what you're doing....but if you're not ready to go thru with the real thing with your boyfriend yet, be careful. It'd be hard for me to tease someone that I see being afraid they would think I was really going to act it out with them.

Go with how you feel hon, you'll do fine! :x: