~x~ The Ties That Bind or Break ~x~

[Lilith]

I'm curious about your experiences with bondage...

Is it something you participate in regularly? Are you the tie-er or the tie-ee? Have you been each? Which do you prefer?

What materials have you used?chain, rope, scarves, ties, etc? Do you own special bondage gear?

Have you had any positive or negative experiences to share?

Do you have "rules" regarding bondage that you and your partner have agreed upon?

[osuche]

I have only been the tie-er...although I would love to be the tie-ee I have never found a man who was interested in performing this service. :(

I've tried (1) scarves, (2) rope, (3) handcuffs, and (4) pantyhose. I tend to prefer pantyhose -- you can tie it tightly enough so that he experiences a feeling of true bondage, but you can easily cut off the restraints (due to cheapness of pantyhose -- I typically use pairs with runs) and the material flexes enough that there are no marks.

Rules: No tickling. Ever. :D

[LordMagicMan]

I enjoy both... but it really gets me going to be the tie-ee.. Handcuffs and rope are about the extent...

As for rules.. none that I can remember...


What about you Lilith?

[Lilith]

I have been both. I love being the tie-er but can really enjoy the power release of being the tie-ee when it's with someone I trust implicitly.

All my experiences have been positive. I have velcro bondage cuffs, handcuffs, etc., including this foxy spreader bar I got as a gift.

Rules...no tickling. Well not if you plan to untie me, cause I'm gonna hunt you down and kill you after.

[Sharni]

Originally posted by Lilith
Rules...no tickling. Well not if you plan to untie me, cause I'm gonna hunt you down and kill you after.
LMAO....i can relate to that!

[Cobalt]

Have been both, like being tie-ee more I think, like it both ways, alot of fun and can't hardly wait till it happens again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Pita]

I am the tie-ee and we do it to different degrees at different times.


From him just holding my hands down to all out tie me up. We use a soft rope. I like being blindfolded. And we have this really cool little whip with leather strips that can be used very gently or not so depending on the moment.


All our expierences are good and if not we stop.


Rules: When I say knock it off he does.

[osuche]

Dammit, only 5 of us that ADMIT to this little activity?

<hangs head in shame>

[Sugarsprinkles]

I'm pleading the 5th ;) :D

[Sharni]

Must admit to never trying it...hmmmmmmmmm must remedy that :D

[gekkogecko]

Um, Lilith, you already know my answer to that question. Not from personal experience, of course, but hey, that can be remidied in the future.

[lakritze]

My entire experience with B&D consists of seeing the movie Tie me up,Tie me down and reading The Story of O.Not really in to it, but often wondered what would happe if I found someone I realy liked who was into it. I know,I would have to be the top but I'm not sadistic enough...NO,scratch that. I can spank and drip candle wax on nipples of a blindfolded sub with the best of them.

[Cobalt]

It is worth a try, then and only then can you actually say if you do or don't like something. It can and is in my opinion alot of fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:hot: :hot:

[Teddy Bear]

Have never done it but want to someday with the right person!

(I have a few in mind. ;) hehehe)

I want to be the tie-ee..... the thought of that is just so exciting to me. :D

Rules: Use of a safe word. :)

[kitkate]

hehe...just saw this thread and thought I'd add my name to the list of those fessing up ;)

My b/f and I actually just bought out first restraints (velcro bondage cuff things) yesterday and a blindfold and rubber "tickler" wand (as well as several other new toys!). :) I'm psyched- we've both tried the "holding" method and it works- I think he likes me to be the tie-ee for a bit and then agress back the most.

My pref? I dunno. I like being dominant, but my personality is VERY agressive so being the 'tie-ee' turns me on the most. the B/f isn't the most dominant guy, but when he gets the ok, he's an ANIMAL and I love it :) I'm excited to add this to our bedroom repertoire!

wahoo! Can't WAIT until tonight!

OOH! and forgot-

Rules: safe word (we always use the safe word from the family guy episode where they are performing bondage (just as a joke).

and NO TICKLING! which is hard, since I'm so ticklish its hard to touch me w/o setting me off on the tickles

[Vullkan]

myself I hate being retrained!--but love to lightly tie with silk ribbon...just secure enough to retrain the hands but not so to actually hols anyone down.

but there usually is lots of oral, ice cubes, lotions and the like

[Oldfart]

Nup!

My ties that bind are emotional, not material.

[darogle]

As of yet, I've only been the tie-er. We improvised and used a set of leg irons as handcuffs. Then I held onto the extra long chain to control her arms. Was a lot of fun and a hell of a wrestlin' match! :p I'd definitely like to do more and also to be the tie-ee. We have plenty of things to play with when we do, several sets of handcuffs, the leg irons, a hobble restraint, and god only knows how many scarves, leather straps and lengths of rope we have laying around! As far as rules go, just the basic "if it ain't fun, don't do it" and stop when told to.

[imaginewithme]

Well, found something I have never done!!! Have never tied or been tied. Yep, believe it or not...Miss Tease here has never done this! I am afraid one of us would fall over with a heart attack and leave the other tied up there for police to find..yikes! Yeah, I worry too much.

[Coaster]

^^^I have a very strong heart........ and very gentle hands! :D^^^

And am always up for something new!

I did it once way back in college days.... I was tie-er..... and it was fun cause of my teasing nature.:wink:

[BIGbad]

I have been the tie-ee on almost every occasion. Scarves, ropes, pantyhose, and just self-restraint to list a few of my experiences as the tie-ee. :p

I can only remember being the tie-er at one or two of my many trips into the realm of what I would call a minor S&M. :rolleyes: I don't think I could ever go down the hardcore road.

I think I like to be the tie-ee more than the tie-er, but I think I need to try being a tie-er a few more times before I make up my mind. :D

[Prophet Reality]

I have tried both, but I love to be the tie-er. I love the look and feel of a woman that trusts me enough to allow me to do what I want to her. As for gear, well I have soft rope, silk scarves, leather restraints, chains, and clothes pins.

I always use a safe word, or stop when she adamantly says to stop.

[imaginewithme]

^^^I have a very strong heart........ and very gentle hands! :D^^^
And am always up for something new!
I did it once way back in college days.... I was tie-er..... and it was fun cause of my teasing nature.:wink:


Welll...in that case........ :slurp:

[Glyndwr]

I have had the opportunity to experience both sides. I can't say that I have an out & out favourite but having the upper hand is generally more of a turn on than being the helpless tormentee.

[Lilith]

I have had the opportunity to experience both sides. I can't say that I have an out & out favourite but having the upper hand is generally more of a turn on than being the helpless tormentee.
You've just not had the right tormentor....I'm sure of that.

[WildIrish]

Does anyone enjoy being tickled?

Not that it "does it" for me, but I was curious.

Anyway, I've tied and been tied...each only once. I really enjoyed being tied but it would've been a bit more exciting had she been more enthusiastic. I did appreciate her willingness to try though.

[dicksbro]

My wife has "tied me up" a few times but isn't into being tied up, herself. Actually, we seldom do much with bondage at all. Probably been a couple of years since the last time. Looks more exciting than our experience would suggest.

[wyndhy]

i haven't been posting much lately and i just now saw this. i had to laugh out loud cause i have been stuggling with a story i've been working on about this very thing.
and since i'm checkin out the thread i'll answer: i've been restrained and liked it. i've restrained and liked that, too. i like to be bitten. (oh, and i'll bite you back if you'd like) and there are nights when i've been heard saying "ooo, spank me again" but it's never gone much farther than that or included any specialized toys. i guess i don't have alot of expeience with it, and maybe that's why i couldn't stop editing my story. anyway, this thread got me motivated (thanks, lil :sex: ) as of right now i'm gonna stop fuckin around with it and let it fly already! (okay...one more proof! and then i SWEAR it'll be done)

[FallenAngel5]

Well I suppose it's time I threw my hat in the ring. :) I love being tied up, as it quite obvious. It's happened fairly often, and I love it every time. I've tied up my lover before, and while I enjoyed it, it just didn't have the same effect on me as being dominated so does. :)

[Sassy Rose]

Haven't had the opportunity yet as I've not had a willing partner but one of these days I will, and I can't wait *LOL* Would love to try both but I'm naturally submissive!

[scotzoidman]

Well, I read "Of Human Bondage" once, but it wasn't quite what I expected...

Ok, smartass aside, we do like a little restraint now & then, from just holding her down with my hands, to using some scarves & whatnot...but it seems to kill the mood a little to have to dig out the appeopriate devices, & I'm not good at tying knots...we once tried her tying me up, but I don't think either of us enjoyed it enough to try again...

[rabbit]

I'm curious about your experiences with bondage...

Is it something you participate in regularly? Are you the tie-er or the tie-ee? Have you been each? Which do you prefer?

What materials have you used?chain, rope, scarves, ties, etc? Do you own special bondage gear?

Have you had any positive or negative experiences to share?

Do you have "rules" regarding bondage that you and your partner have agreed upon?

We enjoy bondage fairly regularly. She likes being controlled and so I am the tie-er, which I prefer. We usually mix in some fantasy play to go along with the bondage...this heightens the experience.

My favorite materials are velcro cuffs...I have a nice set for the wrist and the thighs that really works great. I blindfold when it suits me...sometimes I gag as well. She especially likes the gag when I am fucking her ass.

One rule we have is that if she says "stop", we stop. Also, no hitting or hurting.


rabbit

[GingerV]

I'm curious about your experiences with bondage...

Is it something you participate in regularly? Are you the tie-er or the tie-ee? Have you been each? Which do you prefer?

What materials have you used?chain, rope, scarves, ties, etc? Do you own special bondage gear?

Have you had any positive or negative experiences to share?

Do you have "rules" regarding bondage that you and your partner have agreed upon?


This thread just has me shivering. I've been tied up...well, I won't say a lot, but more times than I can count. It's not a regular thing, more a special treat. Although after reading this thread, I can sense that I'm going to start hinting again. I've been the tie-er once, and while it was fun....it didn't give me that same rush. Guess I just have a bit of a submissive streak in me.

We don't have any special gear....scarves and bathrobe belts work just fine. We've got a mask that I think he got off a night flight over the Atlantic that has been loads of fun. Other than that, it's all the standard toys....plus creative uses of household items.

No negative experiences, really. Well....I was tied up the night we discovered that I don't do hot wax well...but that's nothing to do with the bondage, just a phobia about fires/burns. Loads of positive ones. Each time different. There was one particularly memorable threesome when I let a couple I'd been fooling around with tie me up. Definately a postitive experience ;). And then there's the night my guy decided to play "guess what I'm using to fuck you, and you can cum..." Usually, I win after a few guesses. But there's something in this house that's wonderfully long, thin, and with a bit of a bend in it (I think) that I just can't identify and would dearly love to have in bed again. Never did find out what it was.

Rules....not loads. I don't like pain. I don't like loads of humiliation. But I love to be restrained, teased, denied, used, toyed with, and it turns out that I beg very nicely....turns us both on when I get pushed to that point. Definately a reason why we don't use a gag. Anyway, so long as it doesn't hurt me....no real rules. We did have a safe word ages ago, but I never did use it. In a pinch, I'm sure that if I shouted out "hedge hog" or something he'd at least stop long enough to figure out what was wrong.