blowjobs, do men lie?

[pepsigirl]

i was in an atlanta chatroom last night, and there was this gay guy in there talking about blowjob technique. well, i commented that i was very good at it. and he comments that no man is going to complain if he is getting a blowjob. he would just be polite. so, my question is, do men lie about telling us that we give good blowjobs, or do they not care as long as they are getting one. i say i'm damn good at it. :)))

[SuzyQ]

Most men don't lie about it I think..they are just damn happy to be getting one...I am not sure if I am good at it or not, but never had complaints

[buzby]

Here get your laughing gear round this. And I`ll tell ya if your any good or not !! ;-)
Personally I would never lie. But then I`ve never had a man do it.
And have no interest in finding out!!

[MrValentine]

Personally, I wouldn't lie about it.
I would never be so impolite as to tell a girl that it was rubbish, but I wouldn't tell her that it was wonderful if it really wasn't.
I am sure you are very good at it pepsigirl. Although I couldn't say for sure unless.............

lol

[pepsigirl]

well, my hunny compliments me all the time. "you're such a good cock sucker." "you're a whore for my cock." that kind of thing. and he keeps coming back for more. i've never had a complaint about a bj except for the first time i ever gave one, and that was the teeth complaint. and i've learned how to use my teeth properly during a blowjob. some men might not like the like scraping, but my man does.

[pepsigirl]

shoulda been light scraping.

[MrValentine]

I think it all boils down to knowing what your partner wants, really. That's the important thing. There probably is no 'perfect blowjob'. Every guy probably has his own idea about what feels best. If your man likes a little tooth action and that is what you give him then you are doing good.
I myself am more of a tongue man. Teeth make me a little anxious. lol

[pepsigirl]

oh i don't use the teeth all the time. i would say 10% of the time. mine is mostly tongue, lips and saliva. although i do wrap my lips around my teeth and go up and down on his shaft with a tight grip. he can feel the pressure of my teeth, but still have the feel of skin on his cock.

[MrValentine]

Wow. Sounds pretty good to me. I'm turned on just reading your description! Don't listen to the bitchy gay chatroom guy. You sound like an expert.

(MrValentine drifts off dreaming of pepsigirl on her knees in front of him.........)

[pepsigirl]

lol......yes, it is a move that definitely makes him moan a lot louder. :)

[scotzoidman]

Never had a bad bj, & I wouldn't tell her if it was...but my experience is they're all good, some are great, & once in a while...well, you know...
So if a guy wasn't enjoying a bj, you think he'd keep moaning his encouragement?

[true_casanova]

i have had a less than impressive experience, but i tried to be encouraging as i could. if she has a bad experience giving head she's far less likely to do it again

the more solid and long lasting the relationship is the more open she will be to genuine honesty - not because she doesnt want you to be honest, but any degree of criticism will come across as much less harsh or condemning as time goes on

[Vigil]

I imagine its the same with guys giving you head - you'll know whether you preferred one technique over another.

Enthusiasm for the job in hand is always a good start.

[BadChicken]

Pepsigirl, it's really quite simple. The presence of a blowjob is much better than the absence of one about 99.9% of the time. I, personally, have given CONSTRUCTIVE criticism on occasion, but only because I thought that it was desperately needed(teeth, WAY too much enthusiasm, etc.).
But, for the most part, I usually keep my trap shut as I am most grateful for the effort, even if it is not the best. For me, it's the thought that counts.

[SuzyQ]

How about guys who don't receive blow jobs well..too much jerkin' etc...?

[flutelady]

Lovemaking is a team sport. If I'm giving him a blow job and I'm missing something, I expect him to put me on track.. kindly and gently. I also expect that if he's doing something that's not working for me, or if I wish there was something that he was additionally doing... I'd tell him.

For sure he can be too used to the touch of his own hand, and that's ok too. He can teach me what he wants me to know, or he can help me get him off. Either way it's fine with me... it's all about the two of us and teamwork.

[rockintime]

EXTREMELY well put, flutelady.

[Loulabelle]

The closest I've had to a compliment on my blow job technique is: 'I've had worse' and then when I protested: 'Most of them'.

Something of a backhanded compliment, but I'm not really that worried...it's not as though most guys are perfect at giving oral pleasure so I think, if they don't tell me how they want it, they can't expect it to be perfect.

[Oldfart]

It's 90% wanting and 10% technique that sets a man's toes a-tingling.

[denny]

Originally posted by flutelady
Lovemaking is a team sport. If I'm giving him a blow job and I'm missing something, I expect him to put me on track.. kindly and gently. I also expect that if he's doing something that's not working for me, or if I wish there was something that he was additionally doing... I'd tell him.

For sure he can be too used to the touch of his own hand, and that's ok too. He can teach me what he wants me to know, or he can help me get him off. Either way it's fine with me... it's all about the two of us and teamwork. Whoa! Now that is so dead on, I can't stand it. Flutelady, you seem to have a real handle on this subject. I would not mind knowing you at all.:)

[flutelady]

Thanks Denny and Rockintime :)


Denny... I wouldn't mind knowing you, too :hot:

[darogle]

Why lie? I'd just nicely point her in the right direction, and hopefully,she'd be enough of a caring lover to listen.

[LarryL]

Originally posted by pepsigirl
i was in an atlanta chatroom last night, and there was this gay guy in there talking about blowjob technique. well, i commented that i was very good at it. and he comments that no man is going to complain if he is getting a blowjob. he would just be polite. so, my question is, do men lie about telling us that we give good blowjobs, or do they not care as long as they are getting one. i say i'm damn good at it. :)))

Do women lie about making us believe we are good in bed by having a fake orgasm, or do they not care as long as they are geeting screwed?

Sexually inexperienced or simply unassertive men usually won't say a negative word about getting a BJ. Some more experienced men will give suggestions for giving greater pleasure verbally or otherwise. Generally and stereotypically, women are more honest and direct than men.

During a blow job--good, bad, or otherwise--most men are probably giving thanks and praise to their higher power for just getting sucked at all.

"Dear (insert deity of choice). I humbly thank thee for the BJ I am receiving. Thou hast blessed me with this mouth to fuck. Thou hath guided this woman to perform this sacrement, and I art forever thankful. May mine dick be ever hard, and may there always be a woman-mouth to suckth it." Hands folded duing the combination BJ/Prayer are optional."

Suck On Sweet Ladies,
Larry

[Lilith]

ROTFPMPL:D:D:p


I see you and I worship at the same altar:p

[darogle]

Can I get an Amen, brothers and sisters! Hallelujah!!!!

[cowgirltease]

Baby do I give good blowjobs? Be honest now.:) ;)

[darogle]

I can honestly say that you give the best blow-jobs I have EVER had!

No complaints here!!! :D

[cowgirltease]

*wonders if he's lying* hmmmmmmm........:p :D
Thanks baby:heart: I love giving them.;) :slurp:

[imaginewithme]

Nothing like giving a good wet blow job and seeing his face loving every second of it.

[Roostah]

if you need willing participants, imagine, count me in!

[Coach Knight]

I don't lie .... give me one ... make me cum ... and I'll tell you it's great!!!!

[denny]

Originally posted by flutelady
Thanks Denny and Rockintime :)


Denny... I wouldn't mind knowing you, too :hot: Hang in there FL, you never know what may happen.:)

[imaginewithme]

Originally posted by Roostah
if you need willing participants, imagine, count me in!

Thanks....glad to hear someone wants me to practice on them.:hot: :slurp:

[LixyChick]

The guy in the chat room is under the impression that one can't know how to orally please a certain gender unless YOU are of that particular gender.

The "good" BJ doesn't come from gender specifications...because everyone has a mouth! It comes from experience. And if it's "not good", it's more than likely because of lack of experience, not because it's a man or woman. Now, if you include visualization, and you happen to be a gay man, having a woman wrap her lips around your cock would suck (pardon the pun!)! But, if said gay man was blindfolded and given a series of BJ's from experienced men and women, he'd more than likely not be able to tell the difference!

Go back to the chat room and tell that guy to stick that thought in his pipe...etc.!

[wyndhy]

Originally posted by flutelady
Lovemaking is a team sport.

very well put flutelady. a most succinct and perfect defintion.

and now for my two cents: i don't think most guys would lie but i'm sure there are a few who do. i would hope that if i was giving Bigbad a BJ and was messing it up he'd tell me. i haven't actually had that many cocks in my mouth, 4 to be exact and only let 1 of 'em cum in my mouth (no, you pervs :D not at the same time) so maybe i'm not a good judge. But i'll say this: all that matters is that the guy you are with enjoys it. i wouldn't think that every guy would love the same technique. and to take that one step farther, it only matters to the one you are with if there is a potential (or already existing) commitment (i.e. the sure bet that there would be more BJs :D). if i ever gave a crappy BJ to a one-night-stand i don't think either one of us would care enough to make any kind of comments, espesially a how-to-suck-better-cock-tip or a "gee, whats-yer-name, that was the worst BJ of my life".

[sodaklostsoul]

Lovemaking is a team sport. If I'm giving him a blow job and I'm missing something, I expect him to put me on track.. kindly and gently. I also expect that if he's doing something that's not working for me, or if I wish there was something that he was additionally doing... I'd tell him.

For sure he can be too used to the touch of his own hand, and that's ok too. He can teach me what he wants me to know, or he can help me get him off. Either way it's fine with me... it's all about the two of us and teamwork.
I saw alot of Great response's here, but I think Flute Lady really hit it. Communication has always been a biggie between two people. If you can't communicate with your partner you won't enjoy life.

Larry..... your "Giving thanks and Praise" was very cute. I've been sitting here trying to think of one I would say, but I just don't have a way with words like you. :)

As for a man lieing about it, he better not, it would bruise my ego and he would never get another. :mad:

[Popcorn]

I've never had a bad BJ - they are all good, even if it's her first time it's great.

[celticangel]

I feel asleep when giving my man a bj~~~~~~had been working nightshift!
bit him in my sleep!!!
he still lets me go down~~~~#but makes sure I stay awake! hehehehehe!

[GingerV]

Good god almight, girl! Gotta give you credit for being willing to try when that tired ;). Show's your generous nature CA.

[denny]

I agree Ginger. That really shows love in either gender.

[scotzoidman]

Coffee for celticangel, please...and hurry!

[IowaMan]

I'm not so sure I'd call it lying if a guy tells a lady he enjoyed it when she gave him a blowjob but some are definitely better than others. I agree with a sentiment listed earlier that in a guy's mind there really aren't bad blowjobs. I know I'm always happy to receive one even if it's not really my favorite act. For me, I'm content as long as the lady lets me go down on her. If she does the same for me that's great but I really do like to give more than to receive. Actually, I've only had a couple of women that were able to make me cum via a blowjob. Not really sure why that is but I've always been that way. Given that, I still really don't consider the times that I did cum from a blowjob to have been any better than the times that I didn't cum. Just different.