Anal Question

[Curious gal]

It seems that many people here at Pixies have tried anal and most seem to like it. I have even noticed many men who enjoy using toys for that pleasure. I've tried a little anal play, although the whole idea of sticking my finger up there or having someone do that to me is just not my thing. I wouldn't be opposed to anal sex however, although my man has never hinted to an interest in that. Just wondering if just because we don't get much enjoyment out of a little anal play means we wouldn't enjoy anal sex. Have people found that one thing has nothing to do with the other? I assume it's something you ease into...so to speak. Any pointers on how to explore what seems to be a huge pleasure point for many people? I'm also worried a bit worried about by guy loving it and me not and then we have a satisfaction issue. Anyone run into that or have similiar fears when trying it for the first time. Where he hasn't brought it up I wonder if I should leave well enough alone.

Another question. How many guys just enjoy anal sex with their partner, but don't have any interest in anal play with toys? Just wondering if one has to lead to the other. I would assume they'd want to try it at least once so they know how it feels for us ladies? I'm just worried about that becoming a huge part of our lovemaking because I don't see me liking it. I love watching him masterbate, but for some reason that's totally different.

Thanks in advance for any feedback.

[Gilly]

For me, I got curious, and we tried it. Since then, I've gotten to like anal play a LOT more. ;) I'd suggest talking about it, and seeing if it's something he might be interested in. I've found a lot of guys are likely interested, but most feel the women won't be, so they just don't bring it up.


If you do decide to try it, a few suggestions- Clean up before hand with a baby wipe, use lube specifically designed for anal play, and get used to anal play before penetration. It can hurt like a bitch if you don't get 'stretched' a bit first. Even then, it's going to take a few times to get used to it enough to let him pentrate completly. It's not something that is overly comfortable at first, at least not for me it wasn't.

Even if you do get used to it, I have found that if we haven't done it in a while, it feels like the first time all over again. That hole doesn't stretch quite like the other one. ;)

[Aqua]

Hey Curious gal,
As many Pixies know, I love anal sex. I love asses in general, but anal sex is something I really enjoy, whether I am using a toy on myself, licking a woman's ass, or sliding into her back door. A lot of the pleasure comes from the taboo aspect I'm sure.

One of the keys to a pleasurable experience is relaxation. Don't go straight to trying to stuff it in, take plenty of time for foreplay. It doesn't have to be anal foreplay, just get yourself worked up into a 'damn I am ready to fuck' mood. Use lots of lube and when he is ready to enter you, have something to stimulate your clit, be it finger or vibe. Also, be sure he understands that if you say "Ow!, nope, not gonna work" that he backs out. If that happens, try a different position. Doggy is the classic anal position, but the best anal postion (as in least discomfort) I've experienced when with a woman doing anal for the first time is basically missionary, although I have known a couple women where it worked best when they were on top. Don't be afraid to try different positions.

Communicate with your man, be sure you are on the same page and want to try it. The goal you should shoot for in trying anal sex is your pleasure. It's gonna feel good for him, no worries there. But if it doesn't feel good for you it will not be an experience you are going to want to repeat.

Good luck!

[Lilith]

Liquor and lick her:p

Liquor~ If you like wine or a a drink, I think a little loosening of inhibitions can be nice for everyone.

Lick Her~ Let him lick you til you are right on the verge of cumming then try anal. Makes me rabid :p

[imaginewithme]

Exactly what they said.

My hubby and I tried it and at first I hated it...I wasn't ready for it...but now I enjoy it. It will normally make me cum when we have anal and like Aqua said it's probably the whole taboo thing about it and the imagine of him sliding in and out of me and me playing with myself. We have tried all positions for anal. Best for me is doggie but I do love to ride him and slide it in me. There are times when I could care less and don't want it that way but there are others that I need it bad and know it'll turn me on even more. We've only tried toys a couple times and I have tried the beads (which i hated the beads). So, I am not so much into anything except for him inside me there.
Oh yeah, I normally have to be WAY worked up for it to even go in me too.
Relax, do what makes you both happy, you won't have fun if you do something you don't wanna!

[JoyRider]

Like others have said, relax (liquor helps) and lots of lube are a must. But, the biggest key to enjoying anal sex is to have a lot of stimulation in other areas. This takes your mind off of what you don't enjoy, until you start to enjoy it. Since your man will be busy doing his own thing, I suggest you do it yourself. Get a really good toy and stimulate your clit and/or pussy with it. My suggestion... a good vibrating egg (or two). This trick really works, trust me. I enjoy anal a lot more now. I shared this trick with a friend's girlfriend and he now thanks me because she begs for anal sex all the time. Let me know how it goes!!

[Steph]

Always good advice from those above.

I've tried anal with my mates a few times lately and it didn't go well and I think it was the absence of foreplay and liquor. :D

Sometimes I just assume it'll be easier because I've done it before but sometimes circumstances aren't right. I've rushed it lately and should have gone slower with it.