Introduce wife to toys?? How?

[fire_317]

My wife and I have been married for 15 years and neither of us had been with other partners in our life. Thus we also dont have very much experience in positions and toys. We are trying to find different positions and I read the posts...I finally figured out what the missionary position was? Told you we are inexperienced (we also don't watch porn). Any way, we are trying to spice things up...Am interested in finding new positions (with good instructions) as well as intersted in adding toys. We have no clue at all on those. What do you suggest there for beginners? Then what to move to next?

Any help, suggestions, websites etc will be appreciated!!

Fire

[BIGbad]

Welcome to PIXIES fire_317! I have been here for a short time and have found that this site offers both some fun as well as many insightful and not so insightful discussions.

First make sure both you and her pick out your first toy, no need to scare the shit out of her with a 2 foot monster dildo!

Second just work the toy into your normal, routine, and don't expect to use it every night.

Dude the key to any good/satisfying sex is to have an honest and open line of communication with your wife. Things should move from there.

I am sure the rest of these fine folks can give you some great tips as well. Good luck!

[Cobalt]

There is a thread on Kuma Satra (sp) you might want to check out. Or just try what ever you can think of, if you don't like it, don't do it again. It is all about fun!!!!!!!!!!

[Lilith]

I would suggest you buy her a small vibe or bullet and give it to her....an under the pillow gift is nice. Let her play with it alone first. Once you have an inkling she has been using it... then one night maybe ask her to pull it out incase she wants to rub her clit with it in doggie position. Let her get comfortable with using it for herself first and then maybe she will show you how she likes it used.

[Kissy]

^^^^ Lilith just stole the thought right out of my head! Exactly what she just said. A vibrating egg or bullet is a great starter. Heck in my house it's a neccessity! :D

[Gilly]

Experimenting is a good way to bring in new things. New positions, new for play, etc. Toys really aren't all that great, especially at first. If you've gone this far without them, I would suggest starting very small, and easy. Feathers, ice cubes, maybe a small vibrator, get some opaque neck scarves. You can use them to tie wrists or ankles together or to other things, as well as using it as a blindfold.

[Cookie]

Hey fire!!
Its good to know that you guys want to try something new, why dont you just start with gentle toys like a vibrator, once she likes it and sees that you find it exciting too, she might take out the freaky girl she's got inside, i found my freak on the closet when i met my boyfriend, there is nothing better than having someone that thinks the same way you do.

[denny]

I agree. Make it a gift and then have fun together! She might surprise you.

[naughtyangel]

my best advice is to have fun and don't be afraid to laugh together when you fall over trying a new position ;)

[Pita]

I totally agree with Lilith and would have wrote the same thing. I am a huge believer in a woman having a vibrator and letting her control it. My hubby has tried over the years and its OK for a few minutes but I always end up taking over because I know exactly how much pressure and vibrations I am wanting.

It is great doggie style and if you get a nice slim one is really great if she uses it while you do her missionary.


Also a nice, not to scary size dildo that is made of that gel like material is great. You use it on her just like you are fucking her. You can do this while going down on her at the same time too and that is really great.

I just love my toys! :D

[jentheredhead]

i am not a huge fan of toys for myself but i wanted anal so the stretcher toys were very needed. the jelly toys are about the best feeling ones out there other than glass. OMG the feel of smooth cold glass slipping in and out is wonderful. vibrators are not something i like inside me but i love feeling it on my clit. i will say if you are open and adventurous a small thin vibe up his ass while you blow him would give him the MOST amazing orgasm.



as far as buying one, take her to the store with you so you can both pic it out. buying them is a special moment you can enjoy together.


positions, i like lots of them but this is a good one for anal or vaginal and if she likes control and YOU like to watch your cock slide in and out of her you'll love this one.

you sit back against the couch (or whatever)legs spread open and propped up, knees high. have her back onto you. watch as she takes your whole length again and again. wet your finger in her pussy and massage her anus. maybe even insert a finger as she rides you. her feet would be under your thighs, she'd be on her knees, either on all fours or sitting up, you could smack her ass, pull her hair, even reach around and play with her tits or clit while she fucks you. this is a nice postion. she'll love it, i do.