How to use a vibrator on a man?

[Hocque]

Okay,

The fiance and I were having a little fun tonight and she wanted to use a vibrator on me. Well I have heard alot of things about this and they have been good. So I let her do this to me. The problem was I didnt get that feeling others have gotten. She got the whole thing up there and it felt good. But not great and it didnt add much to my orgasm. So what did she do wrong? How does she do it right? I know that you werent there and dont know how she was doing it. But maybe you can offer advice on how to do it right.

Hocque

[Steph]

What did you guys do?

I really, really, really want to play with a guy anally.

[Hocque]

Well she used a vibrator that was about 8" long. She lubed it up and stuck it in about 6" up. She made it vibrate and moved it around some. Thats about it...I masturbated while she did this.

Hocque

[Sharni]

The trick to making a man go wild is to stimulate his prostrate gland....if the vibe wasnt near it then that may have been why you didnt get the 'buzz'

[Lilith]

LOL...trust me, when she hits the right spot you'll know it! If you are lying on your back and she slips a finger or two in and then curls her fingers up and makes "come here" type gesture, she may find it;)

[Casperr]

A lot of the time I've found the actual sensations aren't the turn on - its the whole kinky situation I guess. Just knowing that she's doing it, and it's happening in YOUR ass, the whole taboo and everything I think.

For me, sometimes anal play is great, other times I could take it or leave it, and some times it's just not good.

Make sure you're relaxed, horny, in a positive frame of mind, and for gods' sakes EXPERIMENT!
Try different things - in and out motions, around about motions, leaving it there to vibrate, thrusting in deep etc etc etc.
Try being in different positions - on your hands and knees doggy style, lying on your back with your legs up and out, on your side, on your stomach, upside down try everything!

And keep us informed :D
CasperTG

[WildIrish]

I've found that most of the pleasure from being stimulated anally can be found with the vibrator in shallow. Deeper penetration gives you that full feeling, which is fine if you enjoy that sensation, but shallow insertion enables the nerve endings closer to the entrance to be stimulated. That's what does it for me.


Oh yeah, and a littel oral too. ;)

[skyler_m]

As you can see, there are many different ways that guys enjoy oral stimulation. First let me say HELL YEAH about the oral, WildIrish. :D

This is just like you being with a new woman (or in some cases, sheep) for the first time. You have to have open communication to see what makes her feel good. Don't be shy to tell your partner if they need to try something different, especially if you are trying something new.

As for myself, there are times when I like more shallow penetration. However, there are times when the "full" feeling is fantastic. (For visual reference, see the Interesting Position link in my signature below)

Good luck and happy orgasms!

[Wildeye]

Well

Recently spouse was feeling me up and started to pressure my anus, she got excited and suggested penetrating me with her vibrator - 9', well i was scared but turned on by her interest, she lubed me and tried to do it by reaching over my back, then she told me to bend over. it felt huge and impossoble and really stretched my anus, and then slid in all the way, her giving me some thrusts she told me to fuck her while keeping the vibe up my arse. It felt great, but unfortunately it slipped out while i was taking her. Strange feeling, but then she freaked saying it was sick and I was wrong

[Lilith]

Oh that was unfair of her. It's ukind to burden someone else with your own hang-ups.

[way22hot]

well there such a thing as over stimulation, there are so many nerve ending centered around the anus. There are some interesting sites about the male G-spot if your really interested ?
there are nerves at the outside and there are more inside
I suggest you go slow do what feels comfortable or stimulating
save the vibrations till you have a better idea of where it will feel best and most of all communicate to your partner

[Hocque]

Thank you all with the help on this. We will be doing this again. Sorry she felt that way Wild. I think in bed all is game with the one you love.

Yes i would like the web sites. Please post them on the board.

Hocque

[way22hot]

there are some better sites but theres some info here
http://tantraattahoe.com/g-spot/male-g-spot.htm

[way22hot]

Ok yes the subject intrests me! heres another info site
http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/analrule.html

[TinTennessee]

Originally posted by Wildeye
Well

Recently spouse was feeling me up and started to pressure my anus, she got excited and suggested penetrating me with her vibrator - 9', well i was scared but turned on by her interest, she lubed me and tried to do it by reaching over my back, then she told me to bend over. it felt huge and impossoble and really stretched my anus, and then slid in all the way, her giving me some thrusts she told me to fuck her while keeping the vibe up my arse. It felt great, but unfortunately it slipped out while i was taking her. Strange feeling, but then she freaked saying it was sick and I was wrong

Two consenting adults making love in the way they choose and making each other feel good is NEVER wrong sweetie..I'm sorry she said mean things to you!

[scotzoidman]

I have to say I have to be in a certain frame of mind to enjoy anything being stuck up my butt...Sharni & Lil are right about the prostate, that's the man's G-spot, & hitting it just right WILL blow your mind like it's never been blowed before (warn her before you cum, you could put an eye out with the force of your orgasm!) But if you're not quite up to actual penetration at the moment, I have found just the buzz of the vibe on & around the balls (& just below them, above the ass) combined with a little oral and/or manual can be very....uh, stimulating...

[Wildeye]

Ladies and all

Thanks for the support. I was really turned on by her "fucking me" - a very erotic change, but she thinks it was way, way wrong and even threw out the vibrator. i did it cos i knew it turned her on and it felt great, i felt so ..i don't know kinda exposed and open but so liking it.

now it is very off-limits.

does this disgust other girls? Or turn 'em on?

Wildeye

[Lilith]

I love to fuck a man with a vibe while I slurp his yummy man-cock. Makes me drip. First time I did it to Mr. Lil, I tied his hands above his head and blindfolded him. Allowed him/forced him to just feel and not attach meaning to the act.

[osuche]

Wildeye, sign me up for being turned on. Been there, done that, and liked it. And I gave up guilt for Lent...many years ago.

If it makes you happy, it can't be that bad :D

[popper70]

the prostate isn't that far in the rectrum most people think.
here is a small that may help her finding it. and hey, finding will be worth it!!!

f'x

[popper70]

maybe this one is even better

[Hocque]

Thank you Thank you....might have to try this tonight. Maybe we will just start with her finger.

I would like to thank everyone for the help. You are all the best. I love having a place where you can talk about sexuall things and no one judges you.

Thank you all again!!!!

Hocque

[popper70]

u are always welcome!

just ask ur questions. don't be shy.

[cyberkitten]

Originally posted by Wildeye
but she thinks it was way, way wrong and even threw out the vibrator. i did it cos i knew it turned her on and it felt great, i felt so ..i don't know kinda exposed and open but so liking it.


ouch, that's awful harsh babe :( unfortunately, i'm kinda skittish about sex due to having a couple bad relationships where sex was more of a power thing than a good loving thing. so now i can't admit in a relationshipo to liking anything other than "normal" missionary type sex, so he doesn't turn it around and tell me it's wrong/sick/gross/weird. the guy i'm with nowwoiuldn't, but breaking old habits is a bitch. feeling vulnerable and having someone hurt you emotionally while you are is a really really sucky feeling. *hugs*

i love playin with a guy a little anally...not penetration so much as just rubbing and licking and maybe teasing him with a vibrator. because i know it feels good. but my new guy is a lil freaked by it, and he's told me so, so i don't play with him much. every now and then i'll rub or brush lightly over his ass and up under his balls with my fingertips or drag the tip of my tongue over the same area. if he decides he wants me to stop and play, cool, if not, that's ok too :)

[hotfire]

The wife will use a g-spot vibrator, well lubed, and insert it in my arse just far enough to contact with the prostrate. If she's giving me a BJ or I'm masturbating for her, she turns it up on earthshattering just before I cum. OMG! :dizzy: It is an unbelievable orgasam.

[Rick Forbes]

You might want to play together with sex toys - Have her watch you experiment on yourself with what feels good up your ass while you both play with yourselves. You can share with her what works for you and even have her give you a hand with angle, depth, rotation, etc. Then it's your turn to encourage her while she plays.

Good luck, and be kind and gentle with each other.

[popper70]

well spoken, rick!