What does Dominate mean to you?

[Romial]

So I was thinking today, trying to figure out what Dominate meant to me. And yes I am talking about sexually...in bed..that type of stuff. And I won't influence anyone with my views, but I'm interested to hear what you all think of it.

What does Dominate mean to you in bed? Examples would be ever so lovely.

[PantyFanatic]

It is different with each partner, each time................ and who has it when.:cool:

[Eliza]

Hmmm..I suppose I am more on the Sub side than Dom...And I definately prefer a more dominant male....I mean...I'm not shy about talking about what I like..or telling you I like it better harder or softer..or asking for what I want..or even sometimes takeing it..but..there is nothing I like better than a man who dominates in a sexualy erotic way..using his body..and sensual nature to drive me into submission...to make me beg for it...not his insults or pain....that's the kind of dominant male I crave.

[breinhol]

wow, Eliza, and to crave you would be wonderful too sexy lady

[imaginewithme]

I have to agree exactly with Eliza!

[dicksbro]

Is it warm in here? :hot:

[BlueSwede]

I prefer a dominant male, too, but in a different way than those mentioned. I don't want to have to beg for anything unless it is for him to STOP doing something that's driven me to ecstasy. I also don't want anyone to call me names or humiliate me or be angry w/me. I DO, however, want him to make it clear that I belong to him and only him. I think it's because it reassures me that he really does still desire me and want me in a big way.

[Romial]

Yeah through everything that has been said, you all say you love it when a guy 'want him to make it clear that I belong to him and only him.' or 'using his body..and sensual nature to drive me into submission'....

but my question is how would he do those things? Use his body to tell you and so on...

[Gilly]

I also prefer a dominate male, where as a dominate female scares the bejesus outta me. Too many stereo types surronding "mistresses" in the typical D/s relationship.
I've grown up having too many fantasies of having a man taking care of me, in every way. Caring, sweet, but able to take charge. I hate being in charge of anything, and I definatly prefer a man who will recognize that, and take charge himself.

I also don't mind serving a man in bed, doing exactly what he says, and doing it not because he tells me to, but because I want to.

I think part of the problem with getting people to understand why some people want this, is that it's a tough feeling to put into words without making it sound demeaning. To me, it's not. But I can't get that across to other's as to why I don't feel it is, either.

Most people not into a Dom/sub or Master/slave relationship can't understand what's in it for the sub or slave. Sure, it's easy to see where the Master or Dom gets pleasure, they get whatever they want, whenever they want. But it's tough explaining why a sub or slave would willingly want that.

Another tough stereotype to get past is that outsiders feel it's about pain, and abuse, and honestly, it isn't about that, either. Sure, there are people who want that, and do it for that, but it's by far not the rule towards it.

[Lilith]

I'm working on a response to this but I keep getting distracted:p

[Teddy Bear]

A couple of older threads. May answer some of your questions Romial.


http://pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=14041

http://pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=12564