One night Stand definition

[ChinesePussy]

my little nephew only 12 years old one day he asked me, "Auntie, what is One night Stand means?"

I was shock, and don't know how to answer him. I don't want to tell him the truth, coz he is tooo young , so I said,"dear, there are 7 days in a week from Monday to Sunday. You pick any one of these days during the week, and then you pick your girlfriend to go with you, and then both of you stand in the middle of no where under the black sky at night, both of you are watching the stars shining down. you stand there for the whole night, and that is how we call it one night stand":p :p

[Sugarsprinkles]

It won't be long before someone else tells him the truth and then he will know you've lied to him. That will be harder to explain than just giving him a simple, basic, but still truthful explanation.

[Loren]

Originally posted by ChinesePussy
my little nephew only 12 years old one day he asked me, "Auntie, what is One night Stand means?"

I was shock, and don't know how to answer him. I don't want to tell him the truth, coz he is tooo young , so I said,"dear, there are 7 days in a week from Monday to Sunday. You pick any one of these days during the week, and then you pick your girlfriend to go with you, and then both of you stand in the middle of no where under the black sky at night, both of you are watching the stars shining down. you stand there for the whole night, and that is how we call it one night stand":p :p

You should have told the truth.

[BIBI]

Should have told him the truth.....he's 12 and I am sure he knows what sex is. He probably came to you because he felt comfortable and thought you would tell him the truth.
OR
LOL....he probably has a good idea about it and was testing you, wanting to see you sqirm! :)

[nikanik]

you should have asked him what he thinks it is and how he feels about it. remember what you knew at that age and how it felt when you found out someone you trusted didnt trust you enough to tell the truth about something. best thing to do now is go and talk to him about it admit that it stumped you and just talk to him about it.

[Steph]

If I was him, I'd probably look back and chuckle at my auntie's explanation! :D

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by Steph
If I was him, I'd probably look back and chuckle at my auntie's explanation! :D


:rolleyes:
Just like the aunty that said :D "what a nice little girl you are".

[denny]

I agree with all those that voted on the side of truth.

[Lilith]

Not a biggie...he's 12 he already knows the answer. He was probably just trying to shock you. It worked! But his trust in you may have been eroded so unfortunately he may be less likely to confide in you when he needs to.

[Oldfart]

Gotta agree, you should have said it in a roundabout way, but

you should have said it.

[LixyChick]

I always give an answer that "satisfies" the asker...no more and no less!

Example: 12 y/o asks about one night stand...I answer: You meet a person and go on a date. You thought you would like that person for a while, but you find out during the date that you both aren't really as interested in one another as you had hoped. You don't see that person anymore.

Example: 5 y/o asks where babies come from...I answer: Babies grow in a mommy's belly, from a seed that the daddy gives her.

It's been said that the age appropriate answer is always best...and to keep it short and truthful. The least amount of information you can give will suffice till the next question crops up. This next question could happen immediately, or they could come back to you in a month or more from then. To most children below the age of 7 (in this day and age), the questions are just curiousity from something they might have overheard from the adults around them. A short, truthful, age appropiate answer is usually enough to satisfy them. This also gives you time to gear up for what you know will follow soon.

For children over the age of 7 (a little wiser age group), talking more on their level will quell their curiousity or, at the least, let them know you can be trusted to speak the truth and they can bring further inquiry to you. If you are uncomfortable in answering the question of a child other than your own, you should thank them for trusting you, but that they should ask their parents for the answer they seek. If the child feels he/she can't go their parent, then you should try to answer in the most honest way possible without going into full blown detail. Then tell them that if they need to know more on the topic, that you can help them ask their parents. This lets the parents know what the child is curious about and it helps the child with a sense of security for having you there.

Try and remember when you were their age! That's the best advice there is! If, when you were their age, you got a false answer from someone you trusted...did you trust them ever again when you found out the truth?

[Mercury_Maniac]

if he does find out later on that you were lying,

you could always explain to him that there are multiple meanings of a one night stand