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skyler_m
03-09-2004, 02:10 PM
No, I'm not broken. I need a LOT more use before that happens. :D

My wife is due with our second child in about 6 weeks. We're both pretty darn sure that this will be our last. I've been trying to do some research on vasectomies, but am curious if any guys on here have had one. Good thing? Bad thing?

Just curious.

OH! Most important. If you got it done, how long were you out of service?

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

THANK YOU!

Lilith
03-09-2004, 02:34 PM
OMG My sex life got 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 times better once Mr. Lil got fixed.

Spoo tasted better, we could have sex anytime and anywhere.

Now Mr. Lil was a tad bit wussy about it. shhhhh! Don't tell him I said that. I had just had a nearly 10 pound baby, which I correlate to having a grenade go off in my vagina, and he was squirmy for a couple days about 2 nicks in his boys. He followed Doc orders and used ice and did not exert himself. He did fine. I let him live despite his whining:p

Lilith
03-09-2004, 02:35 PM
Oh and don't forget to go for 2 semen analysis checks to make sure all the swimmers have disappeared:D

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 02:39 PM
Lilith - Thank you very much for your take on it. This is exactly what I was hoping for.... However, I could have done without the "grenade" visual. LOL

soph
03-09-2004, 02:44 PM
Im going to ask a question, it might seem repulsive, what can I say, im curious?

Is she into sex during prenancy because i can never see that being very attractive and its always something that interests me in a sick.........perverted........wierd sort of way


Apologies for any offence caused ( i blame it on my newness)

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 02:49 PM
soph - any questions which can broaden your horizons are a good thing. :D

As a general rule, pregnant women tend to get very horny. As for me, I absolutely love seeing pregnant women. My wife is absolutely gorgeous when she's pregnant. I can't get enough of her. The only problem is that you get fairly limited in the positions you can do as she gets closer to delivery.

Hope this helps... and no offense taken. Different strokes for different folks.

jseal
03-09-2004, 02:53 PM
soph,

My wife was - both times.

Lilith
03-09-2004, 02:56 PM
I was rabid...but then I still am :p

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 02:57 PM
LOL@Lilith

soph
03-09-2004, 03:12 PM
Don't ask me why it interests me, I just find it bizzarre, especially as it can help enduce junior into saying hi!

Lilith
03-09-2004, 03:16 PM
Skyler_m don't your av and my av look good together??? They should hook up :p

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:18 PM
Lilith - I have thought that for quite a while. Would love to see you from any angle imaginable without a camera in the way. :hot: :slurp: :bsex:

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:19 PM
soph - semen actually helps to induce labor when pregnant women have sex near their due date, as well. :D

IAKaraokeGirl
03-09-2004, 03:21 PM
See "Pregnant Women," link below. :D

Lilith
03-09-2004, 03:21 PM
What were we talking about???



Oh yes! Getting neutered:p Seeing as how I am not spayed I prefer neutered males. BTW Mr. Lil's weenie whacker's name was Dr. Hatchett...I kid you not.

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:23 PM
IAKG - I've looked at your pregnant thread many times since I got here last fall. A true vision of a pregnant beauty. :D

Lilith - LOL. I doubt I would have gone to Dr. Hatchett..

having_fun
03-09-2004, 03:27 PM
I had it done after our second child. Unlike the Dr. Ordered I had to check my little buddy out about 6 hours after the procedure. I was really worried that things wouldn't be the same....

Everything was/is great....

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:28 PM
fantastic, having_fun. I've read about the procedure and that it's pretty fool proof. I really don't want to put my hoohah into any un-necessary danger. :D

soph
03-09-2004, 03:33 PM
what link IAKaraokeGirl?

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:36 PM
soph - Look for the "pregnant" link in her signature.

LixyChick
03-09-2004, 03:40 PM
Just one thing to add.....from a friends experience, that is....

He was "absolutely, positively" sure he NEVER wanted to procreate again........and then he divorced and met a younger girl and [she] wanted to have children and [he] knew it and he married her and she made him go get the vasectomy reversed and he said that this was the "absolutely, positively" WORST pain he has ever had in his entire life!!!!!

So hun........make sure you know all the angles and are sure of the finality! Good luck!

skyler_m
03-09-2004, 03:42 PM
Lixy - Thanks. This is the stuff I'm looking for. I'm 100% sure I am going to be happy with 2 kids. She's 99% sure right now, but she's also in the awkward pregnant lady stage, too.

It's not something I would do immediately, but am researching.

osuche
03-09-2004, 05:28 PM
I've had several friends who did it. General rule is 1-2 days out of commission, and the follow-up doctor visits (more Dr. time than my closest friend has had in 10 years). :D

Everything was FINE. Besides..men willing to have vasectomies are sexy. :hot:

WildIrish
03-09-2004, 05:31 PM
I underwent the knife one month after the birth of our third child. In my procedure, they snipped each tube, burned the ends, folded them back on each end and tied them. I'd need super-sperm to get anyone pregnant. (imagines little swimmers with a red S)

It wasn't a painful procedure. I could, however, feel them tugging when they tied the knots. That almost made me vomit. It could've been the three valiums though. I took all three at once and drove myself there and back. ha ha

Recovery was swift and uncomfortable. Not ridiculous. I was operated on Friday morning and back to work by Monday, sitting and walking gingerly but fully operational. It was a few weeks before sex and yes Lilith...filling the cup for my test was fun. The only problem that plagues me now because of the procedure is the scar tissue that's built up. It's not much but does cause some discomfort. I get the feeling like my balls are pinched in my underwear even though they aren't. My doctor said I could have the tissue surgically removed if the pain is that bad, but I'm not ready for that yet.

PM me if you have any questions.

imaginewithme
03-09-2004, 08:44 PM
First off, I love your new ava. skyler..very hot. :hot: Secondly, congrats on the upcoming child.

Good luck with your decision.

denny
03-09-2004, 08:58 PM
It's really not a big deal. A few days of discomfort and I must admit I was reluctant to have sex for a couple weeks. But the real gift was the first orgasm after healing. It was positively the most intense orgasm I have ever had. Enjoy!

imalikalotapuss
03-10-2004, 12:59 AM
It's not as scarey as you think. I was nervous as hell. They had me preped and was waiting for the doctor to come in, he had to leave and deliver a baby! I almost said that's it i'm outta here. The fear is worse than the procedure. I waited for a couple of days and had to see if he still worked. The only thing is, make sure that is what you want. I now regret it, as i'm getting divorced and might someday want another. I don't think that i would have the reversal procedure done. i have heard that it is not only painful, very expensive. The only side effects i had, is the scar itches, still does after 8 years.

Grumble
03-10-2004, 01:22 AM
I had a vasectomy about 11 years ago. I had it under a local anaesthetic and could feel a bit of tugging down below but no pain. My balls did swell up quite a lot and there was some bruising. I was uncomfortable for 4 to 5 days which was longer than the others but as I am a diabetic this is normal. Diabetics have oxygen displaced in their blood stream by higher sugar counts an this slows down the healing process.

I bought a scrotal supporter to prevent them swinging around which was not a good thing at the time LOL.

My sex equipment still works fine and several tests proved that there are no wrigglies. Ask Curvy for an independant report as to the functionality after the 9th May :D

It is a relatively simple procedure with very few compications and is far easier for a man than for a woman to have her tubes tied.

No regrets or wimpyness on my part, better than going to the dentist. :)

thereIam
03-10-2004, 03:37 AM
skyler, like the other guys have said, it's no biggie. Drove myself to the office, jumped up on the table. No pain meds, just a little local anesthetic. Slice, tug, snip, stitch. Drove myself home, sat around all night, wondering "is that it?'
Got up the next morning and went squirrel hunting, popped three stitches jumping over a creek. Had sex that night. Missed no work, missed no nookie, had no pain, or bleeding. (other than from the popped stitches :D )

The problems I have seen other men have were because of their choice of doctor. Any doc can do the procedure, but why would you let a family doc do the slicing and dicing? My guy was a very experienced, talented urologist. (also a battalion surgeon in the U.S. Army, kinda knew his way around sharp pointy objects)

Oh, and you might consider performing the hair removal yourself, at home. It is one thing to let a man slice your scrotum open, quite another to watch him shave it! :D

Grumble
03-10-2004, 06:01 AM
Originally posted by thereIam


The problems I have seen other men have were because of their choice of doctor. Any doc can do the procedure, but why would you let a family doc do the slicing and dicing? My guy was a very experienced, talented urologist. (also a battalion surgeon in the U.S. Army, kinda knew his way around sharp pointy objects)

:D

Very good point thereIam.

I forgot to mention that my procedure was done by a urologist too.

Getting your GP to do it is not a great choice unless they have their regular surgical lists in a hospital.

I choose a specialist anytime and have worked around the medical profession for 25 years. I knew the surgeon and his skills because I worked in all the operating rooms in Tasmania at the time and knew the good from the bad.

skyler_m
03-10-2004, 07:13 AM
Cool! Thanks, everyone.

If I do choose to get this done, it won't be for a while yet. My wife and I have just been talking about options. Her thought is that if she would have to have a C section, she would probably go ahead and get her tubes tied. I said that if she didn't want that or if a C section wasn't done, it would make more sense (and be less intrusive) for me to get the vasectomy.

As always, the Pixie family has been very helpful. :D

naughtyangel
03-10-2004, 08:27 AM
Congrats on your 2nd, Skyler!

I just wanted to say that I think it's so great, your feelings on why you'll probably be getting the procedure instead of your wife. Hubby and I have discussed that when we're finished (though not for a while, yet!) if I happen to need a section I'll go ahead and have a tubal done at the same time...otherwise, he'll go for the V. So many men refuse to let a doctor anywhere near there, no matter that the alternative is major surgery for their wife :rolleyes:

Besides, between fertility treatments, being pregnant and giving birth, I'll have been poked and prodded by enough doctors to last me a lifetime. lol

skyler_m
03-10-2004, 09:53 AM
Hell, maybe I could get him to add a few inches while he's down there. :D

uwish6969
03-10-2004, 10:17 AM
I also have had it done and it's pretty much like the others. Not very intrusive or painful. Take care and wear a jock strap. Ice the first 12 hrs if neccessary and then not after according to my guy.
I might add also that my deductible was met and it only cost $100! Great selling point for me. Since I have 4 kids already, I AM DONE! Be sure though and Good Luck on your decision.

thedog
03-11-2004, 12:19 PM
Skyler ...

Another option, depending on where you are living, is to "contribute" to a sperm bank before the big V. Gives you the option of "reversing" the whole thing without the pain and expense of a surgical reversal. Reversals aren't 100% anyway.

skyler_m
03-11-2004, 04:02 PM
thedog - very good option! I'll keep that in mind.

skipthisone
03-11-2004, 04:18 PM
Best thing I ever did. Was out of commission about 4 days probably. I was personally psycho about the testing, used the condom about 25+ times and then got tested 3 times over 2 weeks just to make sure...


....and not too mention that my insurance carrier promoted it and it only cost me $10.00 copay for the whole darn thing.

Kissy
03-13-2004, 03:10 PM
Originally posted by skyler_m
Her thought is that if she would have to have a C section, she would probably go ahead and get her tubes tied. I said that if she didn't want that or if a C section wasn't done, it would make more sense (and be less intrusive) for me to get the vasectomy. :D

Actualy my husband and I have both been to the doctor recently doing the same research. And now it is no more invasive of a procedure to tie a woman's tubes. They make two small incisions (just like on a man) and put clamps on the tubes. there is also a new form of sterilization for women that can be done by her doctor. They go in through the vagina, numb the cervix and place something (I can't remember what it is!) in the tubes that causes them to scar up and be permanently blocked. It's all up to each individual, but I thought I would pass on that info. :D

bordendazed
03-13-2004, 03:10 PM
Been there done that!

I recall about a week or so, but follow doctors advice, and if it is not comfortable, wait another day.

Was a "strange" but not painful surgery in the doctors office - no complications other than some soreness for a few days.

Don't even think about doing it if you "LOVE KIDS" because if something would happen to a member of your current family, you may want to 'start over' IMHO - they can be reversed, but it's not easy/cheap/always successful.

It had NO effect at all on any aspect of my sex drive or love life.

rabbit
03-13-2004, 03:21 PM
Originally posted by Lilith
BTW Mr. Lil's weenie whacker's name was Dr. Hatchett...I kid you not.

Yeah, well my "weenie whacker's name" was Dr Gentile...which he was not. My right testicle blew up like a balloon just hours after the surgery. Hurt like hell. Had to take anti-inflamatories for a week thereafter, not mention enduring a zillion "blue balls" comments from insensitive friends.

Ugh!

Still, what happened to me is rare. Only 5% of all vasectomies end like mine did. A guy I work with ended up playing soccer the next day, no problems.


rabbit

skyler_m
05-27-2004, 12:49 PM
Well, tomorrow is the day. I head in at 8am eastern time for the old snippity snip.

Wish me luck!

Lilith
05-27-2004, 12:52 PM
If it hurts...I could kiss it better:p

naughtyangel
05-27-2004, 12:56 PM
Good luck! Hope you're not out of commission too long ;)

skyler_m
05-27-2004, 01:18 PM
i have to "behave" for a week. I don't know if I've ever gone a week without. this should be interesting. lol

Gilly
05-27-2004, 01:24 PM
We did it in reverse, because my insurance covered my tubal 100%, where as his Vesectomy was only covered for 15%. The friend I'm baby sitting for right now had his vesectomy done in February, and said his sex drive is pretty much gone right now.

As mentioned above, make sure you get your sperm count checked afterwards. My cousin has horrible diabetes, and because of complications through her first two pregnancies, they opted to stop before anything more happened. He got his vesectomy, they had sex about a week later, and baby #3 came along 9 months later. ;)

The Shadow
05-27-2004, 01:27 PM
Skyler..... make sure you completely clean out all tha wiggly worms cause some guy mess up and think that its safe and next thing they know another bun in the oven .... Remember ICE ICE ICE ....been there!!!!!

Good luck !!!!!

WildIrish
05-27-2004, 01:52 PM
Take all the valiums at once, Skyler. The mental hurdle is much tougher to clear than the physical one.

While I'm not as accomodating as Miss Lilith, I do care about your recovery. Don't play superman. Rest and recover.

wyndhy
05-27-2004, 01:56 PM
good luck, skyler!!!! and take care of yourself. follow the docs orders and it'll all cum out ok. (sorry i couldn't resist)

Irish
05-27-2004, 02:13 PM
skyler_m---It CAN be reversed,if you want the expense!My oldest
daughters husband,had the operation,after the 2cd child.They
recently got divorced.He got remarried,& altho they share the kids
,his new wife wanted their own.He got "untied"& they now have a baby! Irish

skyler_m
05-27-2004, 03:18 PM
We've discussed it for quite a while. I told the wife I wasn't going to undo it once it was done. period.

Apparently, there will be enough sperm for between 15 and 40 orgasms. After a week of no cums, I'm shooting for 2 weeks until I'm good to go. LOL

Also, did anyone see According to Jim on Tuesday night? It was about him getting a vasectomy. VERY funny.

Anyhoo, I'll let everyone know how I'm doing later

Summer
05-27-2004, 03:27 PM
I hope you have a quick smooth procedure!


My husband had it done and is still thankful he did. We always said 2 was enough for us! Boy, do are children prove to us that that statement is correct, everyday. ;)

WildIrish
05-27-2004, 03:54 PM
Two is enough for us too...the second two, that is! lmao

Summer
05-27-2004, 05:22 PM
WI in that senario sign me up for the MORE THAN 2 catagory! :D

huntersgirl
05-27-2004, 07:16 PM
Good luck! Here is to a speedy recovery!:)

Kissy
05-27-2004, 09:45 PM
Originally posted by skyler_m
Also, did anyone see According to Jim on Tuesday night? It was about him getting a vasectomy. VERY funny.

Yes I saw that! It was very funny.

Good luck, and be sure to not overdo it once you're home. I've heard of guys who felt fine so they thought they'd get something done around the house and...ouch! :p

skyler_m
05-28-2004, 01:59 PM
Well, i'm recovering at home. Everything went very well. I just have to say that the ice is QUITE chilly on the twins.

And overall, the thing that hurt the most was when he had to pull the tape off of my shaft (He had to tape it up to my stomach to get it out of the way.). OUCH!

Lilith
05-28-2004, 02:02 PM
I could have came and held it ;)


Glad you are ok...Use the ice religiously..even when you think you don't need it.

naughtyangel
05-28-2004, 02:09 PM
Glad everything went well, Skyler! Take the opportunity to let your wife spoil you for a day or two :)

wyndhy
05-28-2004, 02:09 PM
glad to hear you're ok, skyler!!!!

osuche
05-28-2004, 03:26 PM
**kisses***

Hope you have fun trying out the "new" equipment

huntersgirl
05-28-2004, 03:31 PM
Glad you are doing okay!!!:)

Grumble
05-29-2004, 02:53 AM
Well done Mate!!!

everyone's body is different so there are different recovery times.

keep up the ice and don't let your kids jump on your balls like my daughter did (ohhhhhhh I still wince at the thought and it was 11 years ago.) She then went to school and said Daddy had an operation on his "piddle" LOL

skyler_m
05-29-2004, 08:30 PM
Okay... here's the thing. I was doing very well all day yesterday until dinner time. I had been laying on the couch resting. I repositioned myself and...

threw my back out. Completely. 2 hours later I'm in the emergency room getting shots of Demoral and a muscle relaxer. I've pretty much been sleeping since then. Woke up a few hours ago to get a shower.

Who'd have thought that I would get a vasectomy and completely screw up my back? and on a holiday weekend????


Oh well. I'm getting better.

Cheyanne
05-29-2004, 09:37 PM
Well, your back pain makes that little *snip* seem like nothing now doesn't it? At least with the Demoral you will not be feeling any pain!

Glad to hear that you are getting better...just think of the "making up" you will be able to do. ;)

osuche
05-30-2004, 06:51 PM
Sweetie, I hope your back feels better. Sucks getting old, huh? :p

If you need anyone to give you a massage, or fix you dinner, just let me know. :D

skyler_m
06-01-2004, 08:49 AM
Thank you, Cheyanne... I'm back on my feet today

osuche - I could use anything you'd like to offer. :D

skyler_m
06-01-2004, 11:46 AM
I may have jumped the gun by a few days, but the plumbing still works. :D

Irish
06-01-2004, 11:58 AM
skyler_m---Be careful!It's better to err on the side of caution.I was
circumcised,late in life!(40s,Medical reasons)After awhile,I even used,a rubber,when masturbating,the first time,because I was afraid of bleeding!(chafing)I was used to getting off,at least,once a day,since early teens,so it is hard(pun intended)not to have an
orgasm! Irish

Lilith
06-01-2004, 12:07 PM
Originally posted by skyler_m
I may have jumped the gun by a few days, but the plumbing still works. :D

What if they swell up and fall off now????? :p

skyler_m
06-01-2004, 12:50 PM
Irish - I understand. Just got carried away today, I guess.

Lilith - I'll duct tape them back on. *smacks your ass* LOL

Gilly
06-01-2004, 01:01 PM
Gosh, I knew duct tape was good, but wow!

skyler_m
06-01-2004, 01:07 PM
I just wish it would have fixed up my back on Friday. lol

WildIrish
06-01-2004, 01:48 PM
There's the 1002nd use they were looking for to start the new book. :D

Glad to hear you made it through the procedure Skyler. Is there a more sickening feeling than the one you get right after seeing the wisp of smoke rise from your sack after they cauterize the snip?

skyler_m
06-01-2004, 02:12 PM
LOL. NO!!!!! That was pretty crazy. I was hope they burned what they needed to! lol

WildIrish
06-01-2004, 02:14 PM
I still get shivers from that!