The missing parts of life's map.

[skipthisone]

I am by nature a planner. Maybe even organized sometimes to a fault and when things go wrong I either have a contigancy for that already or adapt. But once in a while things come out of the blue I can't deal with...

Anyone else ever had to sit down and re-evaluate everything they thought they knew?

[jseal]

skipthisone,

I know I have to do so more than once. I suspect that most adults have done so.

As has been said before, "The universe is not only curiouser than we know, it is curiouser than we can know."

[Lilith]

Yep, Skippy baby! For me it usually has to do with a crisis of faith. Not one of religion but of people.

[Steph]

And sometimes what John Lennon says is true and it throws you for a loop: Life's what happens when you're busy making plans.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

Like Lilith, disappointment in people and their actions usually throws me off kilter...I'm more hurt than angry because the trust I placed in him/her/them was in vain.

[skipthisone]

Aye, you speak true.

[osuche]

I find myself in a similar state recently. Been wondering about the meaning of life...which is always a difficult subject. The best conclusion I have come to recently ~ the meaning of life changes several times in one's lifetime, and one must always take stock and be willing to evaluate new options.

Of course, I am good at taking stock, but not necessarily as good at making changes. So I hope you have better luck than I do.
Sit down, have a beer, and think about what makes you really happy. Then find a way to do more of whatever it is. That's my advice.


((((skip))))

[skipthisone]

Good advice, and I thankee-sai.

[GingerV]

I've had to re-evaluate my life a couple of times, and both times I've thrown all life related plans out the window by instinct. It's terrifying and sad at first, I had to mourn the reality I'd thought would be while not knowing right away what was going to replace it. Both times, this was followed by a wierd sense of almost intoxicated freedom...like I could do anything, and none of it mattered. I was lucky to have friends and family who knew the real me better than I did at those moments, and could re-introduce me to those parts of myself that I needed to keep.

I was surprised (both times, although I guess the second one I should've known) at how much stayed the same, despite the feeling that everything was different. And both times, the parts of my life plans that came back turned out to really be the ones that mattered. But that might just be my good luck.

Anyway, don't know if this sounds familiar to anyone...or even relevant. But Skip's original post brought it all back to mind...and I just couldn't help rambling it all out here.

I'll pack it in now and go back to flirting ;)

G

[thedog]

I second Steph's sentiments ...

Or maybe Firesign Theater was right ...

"Everything you ever knew is wrong!"

[paprclphd]

Everytime I think I have got it just right, it screws all up. I think that I have many many more re-evalutaions left in my life, but I have had a few already and they always hit my like a ton of bricks!

[cowgirltease]

Yep, my dad taught me to think like that. Always plan for the "what ifs" Or the "just in case it doesn't"

<----- doesn't believe in "out of the blue" unless it involves an accident. It's called foresight.

[fzzy]

Yep ... one of the best things I figured out for myself in one of those moments when everything seemed uncertain and I didn't know what I wanted to be/do for the rest of my life .... I spent some time thinking about what I wanted people to be feeling about who I was in their lives when they sit during my funeral at some future time ... once I figured that out all the decisions seemed to fall in place ... sometimes I end up revisiting that thought process when I hit that time of wondering what is most important to me.

[BigBear57]

Damn, what timing. LOL I find myself in the midst of a reevaluation. All my plans and thoughts as far as my career is concerned have just had to change. I had no idea it was coming and my attitude has diminished to shit. I still have an idea what I want to do, just no idea how it will play out now. Financial repercussions have brought with them some brutal decisions and wondering how they will conclude have played heavy on my mind as well as made me feel inadequate in my family's behalf. Unfortunatlely, we are what we do. I'm a survivor, I will move ahead, but taking giant strides backward has certainly taken its toll on my momentum. I think I've managed to detatch my cranium from it's anal hiding place, now to just begin again.

[Ranger1930]

I greatly admire a man or woman that is able to sit down and evalute their life and decide what they can and cannot do to make it better.. i do.. I an Envious.. very I have yet to reach a point in my life where i feel that secure emotionally or finacially where i can do that. So far i've just had to go with the direction of the wind and weather the storms that come with it.

[Lilith]

Reflection and re-evaluating are a good thing.