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Tamer Brad
02-15-2004, 07:47 PM
My girlfriend is really tight and a virgin...we're going to make love for the first time soon, and I'm really scared that I'm going to hurt her. I know how I can be gentle and things, but...I don't know...I asked her if she's sure, and she says, "I know it will hurt, but I love you..."

*sighs* Such a romantic. How can I reduce the pain to my loved one?
Lilith
02-15-2004, 08:31 PM
Let her be in charge. She can even be on top to control how much she takes of you and how quickly. Lots of foreplay before hand and since I KNOW you will be using a CONDOM you should use lube, and lots...make sure it is compatible with your condom material. Be safe! Relax and let nature take it's course.
Tamer Brad
02-15-2004, 08:46 PM
Of course I'll be using a condom ;)

Any particular lube you would recommend?
Lilith
02-15-2004, 09:07 PM
A safe water based one is probably the best.

http://www.econdoms.co.uk/article/Self_Care:_How_to_Get_Lubed_Naturally_19.html

has a good bit of info that may help you
Tamer Brad
02-15-2004, 09:08 PM
You're the best ^^; thank you~!
Lilith
02-15-2004, 09:08 PM
I would just get some KY.
Tamer Brad
02-15-2004, 09:14 PM
The silk-e thing or just normal KY Jelly?

And I've heard Astroglide is better than KY...
rabbit
02-15-2004, 09:31 PM
KY is better...I've used both and I like Ky best.

and, yes, use a lot!

If she decides that she wants you on top, just go slow. Penetrate and thrust very slowly and gradually...give her a chance to adjust to your cock. Take your time.

and have FUN!


rabbit
PantyFanatic
02-15-2004, 09:38 PM
SLOW!
Tamer Brad
02-15-2004, 10:09 PM
Originally posted by rabbit
KY is better...I've used both and I like Ky best.

and, yes, use a lot!

If she decides that she wants you on top, just go slow. Penetrate and thrust very slowly and gradually...give her a chance to adjust to your cock. Take your time.

and have FUN!


rabbit

Huhu >3 I already have such common logic.

Lovemaking is best when slow anyway!
Rayna
02-16-2004, 03:44 AM
i just lost mine last night :D

and my advice is def LOTS and LOTS of lube... and go very slow. it hurts, so just go in a bit at a time and just hold it in there for awhile and let her get used to the feeling.

maybe finger her or eat her at first to get her wet and used to it.
Tamer Brad
02-16-2004, 09:15 AM
Originally posted by raven18
i just lost mine last night :D

and my advice is def LOTS and LOTS of lube... and go very slow. it hurts, so just go in a bit at a time and just hold it in there for awhile and let her get used to the feeling.

maybe finger her or eat her at first to get her wet and used to it.

Hm thanks :D But I already have such common logic.

And by the way, congratulations :D
Grumble
02-17-2004, 03:59 AM
Brad you will find that common sense is not all that common

I do admire your concern for your girlfriend, it is that quality that will make her first time a much better experience for her.

A caring considerate man is a very sexy man you just ask the Pixies Ladies.

good loving, mate
Tamer Brad
02-17-2004, 11:25 AM
Originally posted by Grumble
Brad you will find that common sense is not all that common

I do admire your concern for your girlfriend, it is that quality that will make her first time a much better experience for her.

A caring considerate man is a very sexy man you just ask the Pixies Ladies.

good loving, mate

That's very sweet of you to say ^^; Thank you very much.

I love this girl to death; I hate to know that I'll have to bring any pain to her.