What would you do??

[jennaflower]

Here is the scenerio.....


Yesterday I happened to run into an old acquaintence... a guy I worked with long ago... a very nice guy who I was really interested in back then. I have run into him several times over the last 5 years.... and altho I have continued to think warm thoughts about him... he was married..

Needless to say I was pleasantly shocked when I saw him and he greeted me with the biggest warmest strong long hug that I can ever remember...

anyway.. we spoke for awhile.. he is now divorced... (good)... and unemployed (he was at my office trying to speak with someone regarding assistance to return to school)... it was nice to talk with him again... we exchanged numbers... I even mentioned that I might have a party to drag him too...

Now... my decision is... do I wait a few days.. see if he calls me.... or do I call him???

[Lilith]

If he does not call today, I'd call him tomorrow.

[Tess]

Call him. He was obviously glad to see you. He will equally be glad to hear from you :)

[IAKaraokeGirl]

<---agrees with Lil. Give him a chance today, but then call tomorrow.

[jseal]

jennaflower,

I like Lilith's suggestion.

[jennaflower]

no call today :( guess hoping that he would would have made it to easy...


I think that this may be a test for me...

[Cheyanne]

Just think.....he may be wondering the same thing as you are - you never know unless you try! I would wait a few days and call him - ask him to lunch maybe.

[quisath]

Go on Kiddo.....................give him a Call.

[nikki1979]

ill bet hes waitin on u hun but after a hug like that u know he wants to hear from ya :D go for it give him a ring

~nikki~

[Steph]

Call him! He's either going to go or not go to the party. If he doesn't go, you can always use the party as an opportunity to hook up with someone!

[krzykrn]

You know what to do, stop delaying :P Be assertive and go get what you want, the worst that happens is he declines (yeah I know, rejection is no fun, but I am just putting it in the most basic of terms). Oh yeah, and if you don't act on it, I will fly in and beat you :P

[Grumble]

Dear Jenna
I would ring him Hun, it could be something special and you deserve a change of fortune. all my best wishes

[osuche]

Jenna:

Call him. Given that he just got divorced and doesn't have a job...he probably won't call you first. Men have this funny ego problem when they have such issues in their lives. Even if he isn't available, you'll make him feel wonderful -- good for both him and you!

[jennaflower]

Thanks to all of you... for lending me your wisdom.. and always being so supportive.. you are all the greatest :)

Haven't called him yet.. thinking about calling him tomorrow.. spend the day cleaning.. and invite him over for a movie maybe???...

[SuzyQ]

Call him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he can only say no, and if you don't you might regret it for along time...:-)

[musketeer]

Give him a call - the good things come to those who take them, so reach out and take the chance - you deserve it.

[GingerV]

Call him!!!!!!!!!! Call now, clean later. No more delaying tactics, no waiting for falling stars or for your hair to dry or for the sun to rise in the south. There are a million and one ways to put it off, and just one way to find out if he's sitting at home doing exactly the same thing you are.

He may not be ready for a romance, but by heaven he sounds like he's ready for a friend!! Give the guy a call.

[White Noise]

As a guy - call him. Nothing better than a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go and get it

[LixyChick]

Have you called yet? Come on jenna.....just dial and don't practice anymore. Be yourself.....and whatever you say will be wonderful! I have this mental pic of you writing down topics to talk about....or rehearsing your "hello"..."hi"..."oh, hi there____"......and I think you have it down pat now....so just dial that phone hun! Once you get him on the line....it'll all flow naturally!

*takes the dust rag outta jenna's hand*

[jennaflower]

I called.. he wasn't home.. bummer for me... my wimpy side thinks it should be a sign and I should just forget about it... eventually or paths may cross again..

[Lilith]

Call back! Now even!!!!

[Scorp]

thank you starting this thread jenna! lemme tell you why.

about a year ago couple friends were at a bar for a guys bday. we were all having a good time, talking, drinking, getting rowdy. a girl i have never met before came and was a friends friend. so we were talking most of the night, her and i. so the night ended and we were outside and it was cold. i put a arm around her and she leaned into me. it was a nice feeling. and no, i didn't get her number that night, something which i've kicked myself over for a while.

so i met up with the guy who knew her last night. he gave me her number and told me to give her a call. i was thinking to myself.... its been almost a year and we only talked for one night. so i was really wondering if i should call or not. but reading this thread gave me motivation to do so. i just called her, had her laughing most of the time. she lives a couple hours up north of me which is nothing at all. she wants to hang out again which is definetly something to look forward to.

so... whats the moral of the story? CALL!!! :D

[Holly]

The simple fact that you posted this question means that you want to call him!!
Go with your heart...CALL HIM... it'll make his day!! (And yours!!)

[Booger]

jenna call him again soon the longer you wait the more you'll sit around thinking about and convince yourself he going to say no so just call him and find out

[quisath]

I hope you not going to Quit on this! You need to Finish this Episode dammit.

[BigBear57]

Have patience Hon, if you didn't get an answer it's not a sign of anything except his not being home. Either call again later or have faith he will call. If he has any sense he will. Good Luck Darlin'.... something tells me you won't need luck though.

[babybunny]

So.....did you call yet? :D

[jennaflower]

Yes, I did call that first time.. haven't called since. He wasn't home.. and I guess I took that as a sign...

the more I thought about it.... the more I felt that it would be unfair of me... to call him (or anyone else) and attempt any sort of relationship... I have alot of inner demons that I think I needto deal with... not to mention the outer issues I have as well...

until I do that.. deep inside of me.. I know that it would be unfair to consider involvement (at any level)... IF I were to truly care for someone... I wouldn't want to subject them to my issues...

call me a coward...

[Scorp]

no such things as signs jenna. (one of those advices thats easier said then done) their just little reassurances we give ourselves whether its for a good or bad thing. sometimes its to give ourselves hope, boost our confidence, let us feel that yes its our turn now. other times its to reassure ourself, make it so we don't have to go out of our comfort zone, keep ourself safe from hurt on taking a chance.

maybe you should call him again to see what happens. just to be friends, and have some change in your life. you may not be ready for a 'relationship', hell maybe neither is he! but just go have some drinks, some dinner, share some stories and laughs. add a new element in your life. :)

[Lilith]

I agree w/ Scorp...maybe just a movie buddy or a new influence. I wish you would just see.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

<----wishes, too.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Like Lil said, even someone to go to the movies with occasionally would be good...and a person can never have too many friends.